What are "they" saying now...?
You know, there have been several books, movies, art and songs that have focused on romantic "multicultural" relationships. But not a lot discussed on pure unadulterated "multicultural" friendships.
If we take a good long look at the little research that has been done on the topic, we'll find that in comparison to same-race friendships...don't tell anybody...but, there's not much difference. Other than the obvious, these friendships lead to more positive racial attitudes. Society would have us believe that multicultural relationships are filled with problems and are dysfunctional. Of course, just like with multicultural friendships...not much research to back up these findings. There was one done back in 2002 by Gaines & Leaver and the results indicated that these multicultural "romantic" relationships are actually gratifying, rewarding, dare I say...nice, despite what "they" were saying.
You know the infamous "them". That group of people with opinions but no faces. If we continue to let "them" speak for us...we'd still have only two flavors of ice cream, two types of music and everything would forever be us and them. There is little discussed about preference.
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People seem to accept more willingly the "right to choose" within same race relationships. You may hear family and friends tease, "Yeah, he's got a thing for blondes" or "he can't seem to stay away from those big girls". But, when it comes to crossing that color line, it becomes more about "them" and not about you. If you decide that you prefer to date only one "type" of person; that is your right to do so. It's also the right of everyone else. So, don't get hurt, offended or upset when someone tells you "no, you're not my type"...it's really not about you. We have to be open to this idea even when it doesn't benefit us. As far as the "them" out there...
The good news is that in the little research conducted, it appears that multicultural relationships that lead to marriage produce couples that are committed and work together toward a solid and mutual goal...what does that sound like? A relationship!! Huh, with a cute little "multicultural" label slapped on it by them, of course.
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