Comments on: What has success got to do with interracial relationships?

By: jay babe

jay babe — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 16:32:02 +0000

WELL ABOUT 3 MONTHS AGO I WAS BEAT BY 4 BLACK GIRLS JUST BECAUSE I WAS THE WHITE GIRL IN THE HOOD AND I HAD TO END UP CUTTING ONE OF THE GIRLS ON HER FACE NOW EVERYTIME I CUT THE CORNER I WONDER IF THESE GIRLS ARE GONNA HAVE SOME OF THEIR OTHER FRIENDS OR RELATIVES TO TRY TO KNOCK ME OFF. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHERE ALL THE HATE COMES FROM?

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By: downsouth

downsouth — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 07:53:22 +0000

I am a WF married to a AM and it’s hard in the south. When I first met him I was really opposed to the idea, however we just hit it off. I think I fell in love with his mind first and then after he put his arms around me I just knew we were made for one another. Now after eight years of marriage my 19 year old son is letting me know how hard it has been on him as his father continues to say ugly things about me, and this really upsets him. I feel really alone most of the time because I wont go to church in fear of offending someone. I love to be around people, but somehow I dont know take the first step. My family and my son does love my husband. But somehow I feel that I have lost myself. I just want you to know that this life choise is not easy, at least for me. My husband is happy and fine. I dont think he knows what I’m going through. I was not looking for a black man, I was just looking for someone who would love and cherish me and he does. I just dont feel that love anymore and I’m confused and dont know what to do. I have never tried to hide our love from others. I’m proud of him and myself as we are both successful, however we became that way together, It’s like we need one another. I want you to also know that he loves his AA sisters and that was important to me. I did not want to be just another white girl. He has alot of respect for women in general. I use to know myself and my direction in life, now it’s not so clear. Can anyone give me advice. And to the ladies and men out there, know that life style is hard. So think twice about who you may be hurting and ask yourself is it worth crossing the line?

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By: Mr Laurelton Queens

Mr Laurelton Queens — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:08:05 +0000

What strikes me about the conversation is how sellout black women say they have dated all these different men in different countries and have nothing to show for it.

So, the white man took you to candlelight dinner. Black women will reminisce over that and be unaware that white man just left you with a sore pussy and broken heart.

At some point black women need to stop talking about greats they had with white men and look for the ring.

It is not hard for a white man to be with a black woman. They do it and then have second thoughts and you give him a pass because he his white. It is always “oh his friends discouraged him”, “maybe he wasn’t ready for a black woman”.

How about he is a coward or he just wanted you for sex!

Good day

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By: nic281

nic281 — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 11:02:56 +0000

Love should not see color and If you love someone the color of their skin should not matter, As for the person who spoke about France I lived in the country for several years and I just think people or more open on dating, here in America people or still afraid to love outside their race because of what others may think, I i’m black and I have dated with men in France, England and other countries where I lived at the time and I have to say I did not put myself out there, the men came to me and ask to date me some lasted for years others were short but all was filled with love and happiness, In the USA it’s much harder to find this mostly the white men or looking or sometimes afraid of what their friends will think if they said hey I found love with a black women, because that old slave idea or still lurking in the back of their minds, I have to say in Europe we are so much open to loving someone for who their or and not only on race maybe here people should just let it be since love finds you no matter what…..

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By: kim

kim — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 17:30:48 +0000

I am just greatfull that we live in a time where we don’t have to sit at the back of the bus anymore and we can choose who we love without getting linched.

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By: poetlove

poetlove — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 08:41:52 +0000

Well mentioning Sidney Poitier is irrelevant he has mixed kids.Halle Berry beautiful yes, crazy probably. I don’t know if those get paid and get a white slogans still stabd up. But I see it alot, Alfre Woodard man I was surprised

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By: SLOTZ

SLOTZ — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 00:07:21 +0000

I Don’t understand why our sisters are are so much attracted to interracial marriages.Our sisters use to say they date White males at the end because Black males choose White females or betray Black females.But what could prove that the real problem is the Kemit Man?the real problem could be the Kemit woman.They want to be with White males because they say that Brothers are too hard and not fRESH.They don’t like their brothers.Our people are not united.Some think that racism is over and also want to have mixed babies with blue eyes or green eyes.Our sisters want to date White males just to have mixed children.I think they don’t respect themselves first.They are lost.I know that most of African Americans date between themselves and that’s good .But in France,i think it’s not the case.Some think that mixing the races will be the future.I think those people are crazy.Brothers and sisters have to unite first before going with the rest of humanity.I don’t think of separite the ethnic group:African is African,Afro west indian is afro west indian or African American is African American.BUT BLACK IS BLACK:We all come from Africa and our ancestors were the Pharaos and the kings and Queens of the all african tribes through the continent.

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By: ChocolateGenius

ChocolateGenius — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 00:04:09 +0000

You made some excellent points Rua!

I am a young,beautiful, intelligent, motivated Black woman,and I am attracted to people who appreciate those qualities, and for me personally, I gravitate toward WM.
ps- where do you live? Because I don’t know what type of black folk you know, but at first glance I would DEFINITELY guess that you “barely got enough Black in [you] to check that box on an application” lol

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By: Tanza

Tanza — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 01:51:08 +0000

What is with the blackcentury.com “ads” that are popping up all over this site????

Is no one else annoyed by them? This is spamming that is going unnoticed by the proprietor of this blog. This person is obviously not interested in contributing to the blog comments. Every post is an attempt to drum up business for that sorry website.

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By: Rua

Rua — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 17:27:10 +0000

I am a very strong and successful Black/Native American woman. “My experience” (and this is my experience only – not all inclusive) with AA men has been that they have viewed me as being someone they need to break, dominate and control. My earthly father raised me to be strong and independent, and that has helped me get where I am today. I have dated men of all ethnicities, and find that I have the most success with White men. They love the fact that I am strong and successful and treat me as an asset rather than a conquest.
One thing that many people overlook about Halle Berry is the obvious fact that she was looking for her father’s love when she was dating Black men. Since she had no real experience with Black men, she didn’t know how to handle herself. So she threw herself on them expecting to fill a void that only her father could. I remember hearing some of her interviews when she was with Justice and Benet, and I thought to myself, “Man, is she needy..” Yes, Halle Berry was very emotionally needy. I really felt sorry for her. But when she got herself together and realized that she could live without her father’s love as long as she knew and loved herself, she began to extend her boundaries and found love. I’m happy for her, and anyone else who knows themselves well enough to pursue what they truly desire.
The differences between people are cultural, not just racial. There are Black people on this planet that I have nothing in common with except the tone of my skin. Because when you check my DNA, I’ve barely got enough Black in me to check that box on an application. But most people don’t look at my features, just my skin. I embrace both my ethnicities equally and I love who I am. But the real me lies far beneath the skin. Just looking at my surface won’t tell you much.

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