What has success got to do with interracial relationships?
There is a hate that some African-American women voice and loudly! – they hate it when a black man becomes famous - he's always quick to run to a caucasian woman to marry. Question is: Does success determine whom society thinks you will or should love? What does fame and success have to do with loving whoever the heart tells you to?
There has always been this notion that once a black man becomes successful in life he forgets about the sister that stayed with his a** when he had nothing and was a nobody. Is this entirely true? I don’t think so.
Much as there are a few brothas that marry someone of a different race once they became successful, there are also those that have married their beautiful black sistas. Plus there is one thing most of us fail to consider… COINCIDENCE! May be the dude just happened to meet the person they love after making it in life… and that person happened to be caucasian. Its sad to see how people get pissed over interracial marriages or dating and how they always dig up reasons to justify why you decided to date interracially.
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I usually like to believe that it’s no one’s business whom I decide to date or marry. And people shouldn’t have to give reasons why. If one feels that a woman or man of another race is going to love them the way they want be loved, then that is their business don’t you think? Pouting and name calling is not going to make them change their mind. There are many successful black women who date interracially, Shar Jackson, Venus Williams etc. etc., Moreso, there are many successful black males married to lovely black females, Denzel Washington, Will Smith and Sidney Poiter come to mind. So, is it just because the media focus on an "interracial union" moreso or is it just that you yourself notice it more?
So he is not with a black woman. But does it really matter? Is this something to get an ulcer over? It is NOT WRITTEN that ‘Thou shall not date outside your race once you become successful' and you don't have to be any particular race to be a "trophy wife"
Another point is Black men, for example, are a minority group in America. So they would be surrounded by White, Hispanic, and Asian women. Common sense would seem to dictate that there would be interracial dating, marriages, and children between Whites and Blacks unless there were specific laws against or attacks on interracial couples.
It actually would be weird for some Black men NOT to choose to date White, Hispanic, or Asian women if that is what is also around them.
Statistics prove the majority of Black men, date and marry Black women. So, if some Black men (or women) date and marry other races what is the problem? By the way, the American group with the largest percentage of interracial marriages would be Asian American women. Why no focus on Asian American women that date outside of their "race"?
I know people tend to get mad even when they see a black woman with a white man. I was shocked to hear of a dude who refuses to watch Halle Berry films just coz she is pregnant by a white man. And you won’t believe his argument: "Out of all the successful black men she could have been with, she chooses to get pregnant by a white man!" Personally, I find it a little hard to watch Tom Cruise movies after what he did to Nicole :)
Looking at Berry’s story, its not like she never dated successful black men, she did. But she has now moved on and found someone who loves her and wants to be with. She fell in love with a white man just as she would a black man.
Who cares if Cuba Gooding Jr. married a white woman? That would be his business. We wouldn't even ever know about it if these people weren't famous.
Not only do we judge the famous. We also form opinions about the random people walking down the street with their significant other. Turning our noses in disgust won’t make them love each other less.
It’s time to let our intelligence guide our thoughts and opinions and judge people for who they are as opposed to who they date or marry.
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