The seasonal romance trap

Posted by James, 26 Jan 08

The past month has been a good time for those hoping to meet new lovers. But don’t celebrate too much yet, coz there are signs that the fire that ignited during the festive season may not spill into the New Year.

With the festive mood in the air, one way people feel they have fully enjoyed the season is by throwing caution to the wind and casual sexual encounter become the in-thing. Hell, where I used to work the office Christmas party was where you used to bet on who was going home with whom and of course, later we discussed at length around the "water cooler" the happenings of the night before.

Tragically, most women today are discovering that almost every man they meet wants to take a woman for a ‘test drive’ before she can start making headway into his heart. And with the holiday cloud hanging over, some serious singles found the new bonding too strong to ignore and consented to sexual contact. Now that things are back to normal, it is time to assess whether the bond that was created will last.

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Most people talk about a lot of things when they first meet, but you kind of realize that you didn't even find out the basics..like where she lives. The reason is not because you never intended to see her again, you just didn't want to come across as a potential stalker!

People have become very cautious of whom they give their personal contacts to. If the other party feels you are a possible "bunny boiler" or the next "Jack the Ripper" then you may find yourself working extra hard to get their number in the first place. Woe unto to you if you had a one night fling and now you can’t reach the other party despite the fact that they gave you their phone number. Clearly, the person you thought you made connection with never even felt that connection. Stop consoling yourself that the other person is out of network range. Just count it as a major setback in your pursuit for love and accept that you have been conveniently locked out of someone’s communication system.

I-wish-I-had-not syndrome affects women more than men. Whilst the festive season may sweep you off your feet in the heat of the moment the reality may be you were just a holiday romance and it's time to move on. At least this year you will be more careful.

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  1.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 05 Jun 10

    Any season is a good season for love and the pitfalls of being in a hurry are always there too.

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  2.   PeaceStar says:
    Posted: 31 Dec 08

    Ladies, Tonight is the night... its New Year's Eve. So be careful in what you believe you heard and what you do about it. This article 'The seasonal romance trap' is true on so many fronts. So watch the wine, the beer, the champagne, and remember if it sounds suspicious it probably is. One fun way to catch a big lie is when you get the phone number try it right then, and say, 'oh let me make sure I typed in right'. Watch the expression on their faces as you dial, it will tell you a lot. But overall, have fun tonight ladies and gentleman, be safe, and think, 'Will I regret this tomorrow?' If so say thanks for a fun night and go home ALONE. Peace and Love and have a great New Year!!!

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  3.   Seventy says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 08

    The romance trap aka Seasons Greetings Hurry-Upper...Oh so how true the dilemma! I will give credit to say the pain can work both ways. Men hurt women, women hurt men, etc. Now that the damage is said and done, who was really to blame? "It must have been all of those pretty packages of glitz, glimmer, and bling that caught me off guard..yeah, I'll blame it on that!" I think not. Possibly it was the lack of communication. Like a dam; if nothing's flowing, it's not going. Also be wary of those hidden agendas. So while you're carrying around a shopping list for your intended purchases, make sure you carry a list to measure against the intended 'love interest'. You'd be surprised how you can remind yourself quickly in your own handwriting what you will and will not put up with. Love tends to appear out of nowhere during seasons greetings. So what happened to the rest of the calendar months? Love hurts, so we move on to repair, at at times a celebration. Nothing like a little reverse psychology to cheer the spirits.

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  4.   Lauren says:
    Posted: 28 Jan 08

    I just read an advertisement from another blogger who suggested a particular website for interracial dating (I will not name the referred to site - you can read above to see that). The post is suspect. Everyone please be careful about joining dating sites. Make note of the following when deciding to join an internet dating service: 1) Does the site appear to be reputable? 2) Are there a good selection of preferred men in your specific age range? 3) Is the internet site free? OR is it just free to JOIN but you must pay to contact someone you have an interest in or respond to a wink or email sent to you? 4) Are the photos on the website authentic? There is a large group of scam artists who look to prey on innocent men and women who join the sites looking for someone sincere. The scam artist wants to lure you with fake photos and gain your trust. Then suddenly there is an issue which your 'date' requests (either direct or indirect) for you to send money or some other form of benefit. Do not fall for this; the behavior should be reported immediately.

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    Posted: 28 Jan 08

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