The seasonal romance trap
The past month has been a good time for those hoping to meet new lovers. But don’t celebrate too much yet, coz there are signs that the fire that ignited during the festive season may not spill into the New Year.
With the festive mood in the air, one way people feel they have fully enjoyed the season is by throwing caution to the wind and casual sexual encounter become the in-thing. Hell, where I used to work the office Christmas party was where you used to bet on who was going home with whom and of course, later we discussed at length around the "water cooler" the happenings of the night before.
Tragically, most women today are discovering that almost every man they meet wants to take a woman for a ‘test drive’ before she can start making headway into his heart. And with the holiday cloud hanging over, some serious singles found the new bonding too strong to ignore and consented to sexual contact. Now that things are back to normal, it is time to assess whether the bond that was created will last.
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Most people talk about a lot of things when they first meet, but you kind of realize that you didn't even find out the basics..like where she lives. The reason is not because you never intended to see her again, you just didn't want to come across as a potential stalker!
People have become very cautious of whom they give their personal contacts to. If the other party feels you are a possible "bunny boiler" or the next "Jack the Ripper" then you may find yourself working extra hard to get their number in the first place. Woe unto to you if you had a one night fling and now you can’t reach the other party despite the fact that they gave you their phone number. Clearly, the person you thought you made connection with never even felt that connection. Stop consoling yourself that the other person is out of network range. Just count it as a major setback in your pursuit for love and accept that you have been conveniently locked out of someone’s communication system.
I-wish-I-had-not syndrome affects women more than men. Whilst the festive season may sweep you off your feet in the heat of the moment the reality may be you were just a holiday romance and it's time to move on. At least this year you will be more careful.
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