Swirling: Your handbook on how to smooth out that interracial journey!
“Imagine being at your favorite ice cream shop and sampling each irresistible flavor – not just chocolate, vanilla or strawberry, but Mexican fried ice cream, Japanese green tea, a French glacé, or an Italian gelato. Now imagine your dating life being that same kind of scrumptious smorgasbord with someone of a different race, religion, or culture. Sound delicious? Then Swirling: How to Date, Mate & Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed is your must-read book!”
Did that grab your attention? It sure did mine! And the book only gets better from there. See, most people think when entering the interracial zone a “walking on eggshells” approach must be employed at all times. It’s true that such relationships are sometimes hard terrain to navigate. Until now…
Providing a compass are authors Christelyn D. Karazin, known for her popular blog Beyond Black & White, and Janice Rhoshalle Littlejohn, a veteran journalist who has written about her own interracial dating saga and why black women should not limit themselves to finding mates within their race. They figured, “Why not write a handbook sharing insights on how to smooth out the road through this exhilarating but sometimes treacherous territory?” Hence, “Swirling!”
The book was recently featured in Essence magazine and reviews have been positive. Many readers identify with the experiences discussed in these pages. It’s a great mix of solid expert advice backed by real-life testimonies from people with successful (and not-so-successful) interracial relationships. Written in a conversational style, it tells the hilarious tales interracial romances can produce.
According to Karazin, “The shortage of black men is real” and black women “… are in jeopardy of never experiencing that kind of love, especially within [their] own race… Is it hating yourself to seek out love with someone who has similar goals, education, and interests?” she asks. Littlejohn adds that black women shouldn’t be “…stuck in lives filled with made-for-soap-opera drama” or settle “for less than they deserve. It is telling when a woman with her master’s degree and making a decent amount of money decides to steal a car with her man just to prove she loves him… all because black women fear cultural isolation from their own community when they mix date and marry.”
Don’t get me wrong – the book isn’t trying to convince people to date outside their race. It just tries to help those who want to do it, do it smoothly. Karazin and Littlejohn have had varied experiences with “swirling” both in dating and marriage. They tell it like it is: Dating out doesn’t mean perfection! Challenges should be expected. But if you know how to handle them, they aren’t a huge deal. The weird stares from passersby, meeting the family, dismissing myths about interracial attraction and sex… It’s all covered here.
Get your copy of “Swirling” at Amazon.com and learn how to smoothen that sometimes-rocky interracial ride.
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