Are You Stuck on Single?
Have you ever met someone and instantly you knew that they had to be single, married, gay? Do you send off a vibe that says the right things about you? Here are seven clues to the single man/woman's lifestyle that could be the very reason why you're home alone...reading this article.
Hey, this is Leticia, let me tell you about this incredible talent that I have acquired. For lack of a better name, we'll call it a "people-meter". If you want to know someone's age, martial status, sexual preference, just ask me. For as long as I can remember I've just known these things. Just ask my old college roommate. I tried to give her the heads up about two different boyfriends...I hear that "they" are dating each other now.
Anyway, let's move on to you. Have you been single for so long that you don't realize the signs that you may be giving off? These aren't good signs either. Of course you want others to know that you are available, but, you don't want them to think that you want to stay single...if you don't!
Your perfect partner could be online right now...
What are you looking for?
#1 Appearance - Besides not having a ring on your finger, does the way you dress say "what the hell, nobody's going to look at or talk to me anyway"! So, why bother 1) putting on make-up 2) combing my hair 3) ironing my clothes 4) wearing clean clothes (it happens).
If you are single and "looking", every moment that you are in public is an opportunity. You must always look and act the part. It's been said a trillion times and it's still true, "you never get a second chance to make a first impression". Are you really putting your best foot, legs, arms and all those other body parts, forward? All the time? Think about it, when you look good doesn't it make you feel good too? That comes across when people meet you.
#2 Eating Habits - If you are what you eat, there's a lot of Hungry Man, Doritos, Coke a cola looking folks out there questioning why they can't find somebody to love. As with your appearance, what you eat, where and how you eat, says an awful lot about you. It's important to take care of the inside and outside of your body. Diet and exercise is vital in maintaining a healthy lifestyle and image.
#3 Stuck in the past - It's not just about how you look. How you act and what you talk about says a lot about you too. Are you a constant flashback? Do you talk about past relationships (good or bad)? One sure fire way to prevent a new fling from beginning, is to keep talking about the old ones. No one wants to hear what you bought or where you went with someone else, especially if they weren't there and it doesn't look like they're every going to go...with you. Make new memories and keep the old ones lock up in a nice safe and warm place, in your mind.
#4 Not enough "face" time - Have you ever met someone on-line and they were so charismatic, engaging, humorous and just plain fun? Then you meet them in person and it's like watching paint dry. People skills are like any other skill. You must practice to improve. It makes sense that you need to spend more time with people than your home computer to get a better flow. If you get nervous easily or feel uncomfortable, it shows. The only way to get over it and move on is to talk to as many people (in person), that you can. Say hello to a stranger, who knows they could be or introduce you to the next love of your life.
#5 Inability to compromise - The only thing worse than someone that over reacts is perhaps someone that doesn't react at all. The extreme in either direction is not good. When you've been alone for a long period of time, it's easy to forget how to work things out. You get used to the idea of doing things "your way", because you are all you've had to think about. Being able to share your space, time, love and attention requires some unselfish re-programming. If you say you want someone else in your life, you must be willing to make room in your heart and house.
If you are in doubt to whether or not you're emitting "single signs", ask a friend or a stranger. What better way to strike up a conversation with someone that you don't know. Who knows, on that road to self discovery you may just find the love you're looking for.
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