Comments on: Should parents call attention to race with their children? http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/ The community that fuses fun and romance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:28:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Smile4242 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32023 Smile4242 Wed, 13 Jan 2010 13:52:41 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32023 Leading my example is the first thing. Kids learn from that the most, especially at early ages. They mimic their parents. I think the youngest children will learn more from your example than by words, since, as humorously mentioned in the article, some concepts and words are not understood yet by toddlers. When they get older, I personally would again lead by example, but be willing to talk about it where appropriate. Leading my example is the first thing. Kids learn from that the most, especially at early ages. They mimic their parents. I think the youngest children will learn more from your example than by words, since, as humorously mentioned in the article, some concepts and words are not understood yet by toddlers.

When they get older, I personally would again lead by example, but be willing to talk about it where appropriate.

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]]> By: delicious149 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32022 delicious149 Fri, 20 Nov 2009 05:42:05 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32022 Parents should address issues of different races or skin color as it surfaces with positive input. Every race is talked about in a negative manner one way or another; some more than others. Children should be made aware of the negative issues concerning this as well as the positive ones. The world would be a better place if all could just get along & love one another the way we should. Anything negative always resorts into hurt, pain, humiliation, low self esteem just to name a few. Our children are our future. What they learn in young years of growing definitely results in what kind of adult person they will become and plays a big part in attitude. What kind of world will exist when our kids are grown? Definitely something to pray about. Parents should address issues of different races or skin color as it surfaces with positive input. Every race is talked about in a negative manner one way or another; some more than others. Children should be made aware of the negative issues concerning this as well as the positive ones. The world would be a better place if all could just get along & love one another the way we should. Anything negative always resorts into hurt, pain, humiliation, low self esteem just to name a few. Our children are our future. What they learn in young years of growing definitely results in what kind of adult person they will become and plays a big part in attitude. What kind of world will exist when our kids are grown? Definitely something to pray about.

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]]> By: Maidinheaven http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32021 Maidinheaven Mon, 26 Oct 2009 23:28:32 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32021 Yes, children should be told about race. The different races are beautiful. What is objectionable is the narrow-minded, polluted spirits inside people that cannot appreciate that beauty because their minds will not expand beyond their own bigotry. Yes, children should be told about race. The different races are beautiful. What is objectionable is the narrow-minded, polluted spirits inside people that cannot appreciate that beauty because their minds will not expand beyond their own bigotry.

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]]> By: SEWilde http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32020 SEWilde Sun, 25 Oct 2009 02:17:45 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32020 Faeydust, Both of my children are biracial. Both are grown and have moved away from home. I am black, their fathers are both white. Yes, by 2 different white men. They always knew this fact. I certainly can't hide my blackness as dark as I am, and they can't hide their whiteness. What's to hide anyway? You are what you are. My kids say they don't have a problem with their identities. They both consider themselves to be black. I always told them both, that they have the best of both worlds. They are both proud of themselves and me. (My son's father died when he was small) They are both proud of their fathers. Even though I am no longer with her father, we still talk on a regular basis, and we always discussed issues of race with her. I was worried about their acceptance when they were younger, but I think a lot of how each person deals with acceptance of themselves is the same, no matter their color. It seems like both kids gravitated to "the group" which accepted them, which has always included people from all nationalities. Everybody goes through some form of being accepted or not, growing up. Sometimes it's wearing glasses, or braces. Sometimes it's race. SE Faeydust,

Both of my children are biracial. Both are grown and have moved away from home. I am black, their fathers are both white. Yes, by 2 different white men. They always knew this fact. I certainly can’t hide my blackness as dark as I am, and they can’t hide their whiteness. What’s to hide anyway?

You are what you are. My kids say they don’t have a problem with their identities. They both consider themselves to be black.

I always told them both, that they have the best of both worlds. They are both proud of themselves and me. (My son’s father died when he was small) They are both proud of their fathers. Even though I am no longer with her father, we still talk on a regular basis, and we always discussed issues of race with her.

I was worried about their acceptance when they were younger, but I think a lot of how each person deals with acceptance of themselves is the same, no matter their color.

It seems like both kids gravitated to “the group” which accepted them, which has always included people from all nationalities.

Everybody goes through some form of being accepted or not, growing up. Sometimes it’s wearing glasses, or braces. Sometimes it’s race.

SE

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]]> By: Mikko Kemppe - Relationship Coach http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32019 Mikko Kemppe - Relationship Coach Sun, 25 Oct 2009 00:50:04 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32019 I agree with SimplySpicy and fkoi that first and foremost children learn through observing their parents behavior whether it is about how to take responsibility about ones behavior or what beliefs or attitudes have about their own race or cultural background. I agree with SimplySpicy and fkoi that first and foremost children learn through observing their parents behavior whether it is about how to take responsibility about ones behavior or what beliefs or attitudes have about their own race or cultural background.

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]]> By: Faeydust http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32018 Faeydust Sat, 24 Oct 2009 23:22:19 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32018 I am the parent of a biracial child and I often wonder about this very topic. I don't avoid it or ignore it. However, I have never sat him down to explain the differences between my ethnic background and his father's. I feel that I'll address any of his concerns as they arise. It's important to speak to children on their level of understanding and provide them age appropriate answers to their questions. As my son matures, I believe the questions will be more about "which group do I belong to." As a parent I can only hope to be there for my son when these very challenging social questions arise. I want him to feel comfortable in his skin, while recognizing the need to belong. In an idealistic world none of this would ever matter. But unfortunately others in the world will attempt to force him into a box. My dream for him is to have the inner strength to decide for himself and to find inner peace and acceptance. Ich - you're here too? Nice to see you. I am the parent of a biracial child and I often wonder about this very topic. I don’t avoid it or ignore it. However, I have never sat him down to explain the differences between my ethnic background and his father’s. I feel that I’ll address any of his concerns as they arise. It’s important to speak to children on their level of understanding and provide them age appropriate answers to their questions.

As my son matures, I believe the questions will be more about “which group do I belong to.” As a parent I can only hope to be there for my son when these very challenging social questions arise. I want him to feel comfortable in his skin, while recognizing the need to belong. In an idealistic world none of this would ever matter. But unfortunately others in the world will attempt to force him into a box. My dream for him is to have the inner strength to decide for himself and to find inner peace and acceptance.

Ich – you’re here too? Nice to see you.

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]]> By: SimplySpicy http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32017 SimplySpicy Sat, 24 Oct 2009 00:41:26 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32017 I think that some parents should address all issues or questions that their children may have about race. Even though this is 2009 there are still ignorant people out there who teach as well as influence other peoples children, as well as their own into thinking that it is ok to be biased or prejudiced against other kids just because of the melanin of their skin. I do agree that parents are the best teachers and transmitters of culture to their children. The problem lies in not just what they say but how they act towards people of different races. Even though I am a black woman who is mixed, my parents still made sure that we were accustomed to being around kids of different ethnic, racial, and religious backgrounds. My parents had friends of varying backgrounds hell they are both mixed up. So even though my family is made up of different backgrounds, they made it a point to talk about any and all racial issues. They instilled in their children a sense of pride and appreciation for all people. I think that a lot of people try to ignore the whole race thing all together and just hope and pray that their children will grow up unbiased and cognizant of others. That to me is the problem, until we face our issues head on there will always be that divide. p.s. it is nice seein you ichibod, world class and godiva from the other forum "Why White men like Black Women" I enjoyed all of your insightful posts and hold you in the highest regards..Please continue to be the lights that you are and I am definitely looking forward to hearing more of your insights.:-) I think that some parents should address all issues or questions that their children may have about race. Even though this is 2009 there are still ignorant people out there who teach as well as influence other peoples children, as well as their own into thinking that it is ok to be biased or prejudiced against other kids just because of the melanin of their skin. I do agree that parents are the best teachers and transmitters of culture to their children. The problem lies in not just what they say but how they act towards people of different races. Even though I am a black woman who is mixed, my parents still made sure that we were accustomed to being around kids of different ethnic, racial, and religious backgrounds. My parents had friends of varying backgrounds hell they are both mixed up. So even though my family is made up of different backgrounds, they made it a point to talk about any and all racial issues. They instilled in their children a sense of pride and appreciation for all people.

I think that a lot of people try to ignore the whole race thing all together and just hope and pray that their children will grow up unbiased and cognizant of others. That to me is the problem, until we face our issues head on there will always be that divide.

p.s. it is nice seein you ichibod, world class and godiva from the other forum “Why White men like Black Women” I enjoyed all of your insightful posts and hold you in the highest regards..Please continue to be the lights that you are and I am definitely looking forward to hearing more of your insights.:-)

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]]> By: triciaxoxox http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32016 triciaxoxox Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:11:11 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32016 Speaking as a mother of a Bi-racial child(I'm Indian his father is Russian), I think that the child should be made aware of his dynamic culture, and learn about both sides so he can be proud of his heritage just as he would be if he was fom one culture. I really haven't found any issues with my son "struggling" to identify with any one particular group ever-- he's 13 now, and confident as ever it's never been an issue. I rememeber during a PTA meeting last year when I walked up to his teacher, he said "oh, so you're danny's mom!?"( he called me by my ex-husbands last name which is a very russian sounding last name) and Danny (who looks more like his dad and nothing like me) said "yeah this is my mom, and my dad is russian and she's Indian thats how I got my good looks in case you were curious". Speaking as a mother of a Bi-racial child(I’m Indian his father is Russian), I think that the child should be made aware of his dynamic culture, and learn about both sides so he can be proud of his heritage just as he would be if he was fom one culture. I really haven’t found any issues with my son “struggling” to identify with any one particular group ever– he’s 13 now, and confident as ever it’s never been an issue. I rememeber during a PTA meeting last year when I walked up to his teacher, he said “oh, so you’re danny’s mom!?”( he called me by my ex-husbands last name which is a very russian sounding last name) and Danny (who looks more like his dad and nothing like me) said “yeah this is my mom, and my dad is russian and she’s Indian thats how I got my good looks in case you were curious”.

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]]> By: Violetq http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32015 Violetq Sun, 18 Oct 2009 19:39:56 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32015 yes i think children should know, we all arent colorblind. yes i think children should know, we all arent colorblind.

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]]> By: godiva61 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children/comment-page-1/#comment-32014 godiva61 Fri, 09 Oct 2009 13:32:01 +0000 /fyooz/should-parents-call-attention-to-race-with-their-children.htm#comment-32014 world citizen, Just wanted you to know that both you and your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sure that she will be as good as new, and up on her feet soon. If you need anything, please let me know! That was good news to wake up to this morning! love godiva world citizen,

Just wanted you to know that both you and your mom will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I’m sure that she will be as good as new, and up on her feet soon.

If you need anything, please let me know!

That was good news to wake up to this morning!

love
godiva

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