Sex and sexy! How best to use your webcam

Posted by Leticia, 15 Apr 06

We have the technology but...do you know the best times to use it? Having a webcam is a great way to be able to connect with someone in real time. For some its the safest sex they ever had but for others, its the best way to see someone smile at your jokes no matter how far apart you are.

It never ceases to amaze me when I hear women and men bash each other because someone is honest and not misleading or just plain rude to them. Now I have to say that I've heard far more guys do this, but I know that women do it to. I've heard everything from "he just confused, he don't know what he want's or he's a dog. When the truth is closer to "I wasn't his type, we're not interested in the same things or he's looking for a open relationship". Some guys would like to think if we don't want to give it up (to him), that we're saving it for a rainy day, a bigger ring or that we are trying to become virgins AGAIN. The truth could be that the thought of your naked body intertwined with ours sounds as enticing as a Pap smear or a root canal.

So, now that we've established that both sexes have preferences and it's just possible that we might not be everybody's type...how do we cut to the chase? Well, the best part of belonging to our site is that it affords you the opportunity to chat with people that are also looking for a multicultural connection. However, just because we're all looking for the same sort of thing, doesn't mean we'll be physically or intellectually attracted to each other. This is where having a web cam comes in handy. Instantly, you can tell if someone is what "you" are looking for. Is this a potential love connection or just a connection?

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

A picture may say a thousand words, but a web cam speaks volumes. With the use of a web cam and/or microphone you can have instant access and find what you are looking for that much faster. And if safety is a concern to you, by using a web cam you are assured that who you're talking to is really who they say. You have live real time video and audio available at the click of a mouse. If you are a subscriber to the site, you can have one-on-one conversations using the onsite instant messenger or in the chat center, create a private room and really get to know the other person. The chat room lobby is a great place to meet people, but if you really want to get to know someone and want a little one on one time, you must move from the lobby and into a private room. And something to note, people are more likely to follow you into a room if you have a good picture on your profile and better yet, if you have a web cam.

Now I must let you know, that I know, that there are some folks out there that just want to have cyber sex on cam. And if you are two consenting adults, do what you do. There are tons of sites out there that lend to just that and only that. But here, we are building a community of people that are interested in multicultural relationships, connections & romance. Sometimes sex is a natural progression. It's just not the first step for many of us that come here. Just because we don't want to show you our "stuff" the first time that you hook up your web cam, doesn't mean that we are anything other than trying to work at our own pace, in our time or maybe it just means that we are not interested in a guy with more hair in his ears and nose than on his head?

26 responses to "Sex and sexy! How best to use your webcam"

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  1.   isys19 says:
    Posted: 23 Dec 07

    It's true some people get really upset when you ask for an updated pic or webcam. I've been called superficial and rude but in the same breath they always ask me for pics or a webcam. It's completely confusing and weird.

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  2.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 07

    Nice article and very informative.I just got a web cam.I'm learning to set up and how to use it wisely.

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  3.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 26 Mar 07

    I guess the above comments are right, but I always have to tell them upfront...NO NUDES!!!

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  4.   Fala says:
    Posted: 17 Mar 07

    I don t use my cam to be sexy. I just think it s nice for people to be able to put a face with the screen name and to see real time reactions.

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  5. Posted: 14 Mar 07

    yes..in general..webcams are definately a safe idea...no doubt..!

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  6.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 11 Mar 07

    I am not one who advocates the use of webcams. I stumbled upon this old article and it made me laugh. Most of my experiences are if someone asks you to "cam to cam", they are usually trying to get their groove on. I am not trying to see any more shriveled up, dirty nasty looking you know whats on my computer!

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  7.   Tarah says:
    Posted: 05 Mar 07

    I think webcams are very useful. I've really noticed what a person types verses them actually saying it makes all of the differences. Webcams don't lie and unfortunately when typing something people have a chance to be a bit more creative (better liars LOL).

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  8.   Bohica says:
    Posted: 03 Feb 07

    Very good advise. Thank You!

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  9.   gms77 says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 07

    The cam is indeed not for everyone,I would mwch rather meet in person//

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  10.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 29 Jan 07

    looking forward now, to purchase one

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  11.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 15 Jan 07

    never tried it, but it sounds interesting.

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  12.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 01 Jan 07

    Personally I like the web cam but not for just anyone. Its a great way to catch up with friends and peer into their eyes and lives for a short time.

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  13.   turbogirl says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 06

    And i forgot to say that it doesn't have to be all about getting naked and flashing your body on cam, or having cyber sex, nothing wrong in doing it for the right person, but some people see the webcam as a sex thing, i dont allow such. Yes, for the right person, i will example is if my boyfriend lives away, but not just for every tom, dick and harry like many people do.

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  14.   turbogirl says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 06

    I got myself one for a guy i met on here, and it's been really great, we get to see everyday, it's like sitting next to each other.

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  15.   QT says:
    Posted: 29 Dec 06

    I'm not into this kinda thing, and if you're trying to find someone to start a relationship with, using your webcam for cyber is the worst thing you can do.

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  16. Posted: 27 Dec 06

    Humm I need to look into getting one of these!

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  17. Posted: 18 Nov 06

    Webcams are a great tool to get to know someone. It makes it very personal, Especailly with long distance romances.

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  18.   xina03 says:
    Posted: 15 Nov 06

    I think it's fine if you like it but as far as I'm concern I don't.

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  19.   gms77 says:
    Posted: 02 Nov 06

    I wont do cyber sex-chat is fine though

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  20.   auroraxxx says:
    Posted: 25 Oct 06

    im a cyber virgin ;)i wonder how many megapixels it takes to have good cyber heheheheh

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  21.   Carla says:
    Posted: 15 Oct 06

    Chatting on the webcam is fun but it can be dirty and nasty...I personally dont cyber like that but to each his own...

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  22.   Steve says:
    Posted: 17 May 06

    I found my soul mate thanks to the webcam. She introduced me to it. Since then I've gotten to know her so well that you can feel in your heart who is right for you versus a picture.

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  23.   charles says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 06

    interesting

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  24.   meviline says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 06

    I don't realy like dirty cyber sex..., I love and like to see the smile and the face of the person am chatting with.

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  25.   JAMES says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 06

    GREAT

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  26.   Bob says:
    Posted: 18 Apr 06

    I don't necessarily want to have cyber sex the first time I chat or IM with a woman...its just great to be able to see their face expression and their smile as they talk.

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