Who Ever said "Romance is Dead"?

Posted by Leticia, 24 Aug 06

In case no one has told you yet..."Happy Romance Month!" You'd think that as a nation, we'd be a little less stressed out if we celebrated half the special days and holidays that have been created. For example, did you know that in addition to Romance Awareness month, August is also; admit you're happy month, national eye exam month, national golf month, family fun month, national blueberry month, national Catfish month and national picnic month? Me either.

Well, since this is a "dating" site, we'll focus on Romance Awareness month this time and since this is also a "multicultural" dating site, the question on my mind is, do you think one race is "more romantic" than another? Now I'll answer for myself but I really want to hear what you've got to say, cause truth be told, Leticia is only one woman and although I have no issue dating every ethnicity known to man, there is just not enough time in my day. So, let's start with what I've heard.

I've heard that black guys are not very romantic just highly sexual and yes, there is a difference. If you are Italian or Spanish hands down romance appears to be in your blood and well white guys fall somewhere in the middle. Now my experience tells me a little different.

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When I was in college during a trip to Italy, my roommate and I met a couple of Italian guys in Rome. Perhaps time was the issue, only time for making out in front of a church and missing the curfew at the youth hostel. Not very romantic, but I did find my Italian stud to be filled with passion and excitement. Now in Florence it appeared to be the same zest and love of life that attracted this young guy to me. He followed me around the train station speaking in Italian confessing his love for me and my beauty. Having only taken two years of Spanish, my translator was this African guy that was smitten with my roommate. While I was trying to hide from my little Italian suitor, he was busy trying to talk my roommate into coming to his county and even though they were "different shades of brown", he would be able to convince his family to take her in...(he probably thought he was being romantic).

Just when I thought I was safe from my Italian stallion, I turned a corner and all I saw was a tongue coming straight toward my face. As my roommate and I boarded the train two hours later, he was still there waving goodbye. Now if you take away my absolute fear and utter disgust (he was NOT my type), that would have been very romantic situation to me.

Now I'm sure that we all have our own ideas of what romance is. For some it's the candles, flowers and slow music. For others its time spent attention given. I once had a boyfriend pack my lunch for work and when I opened the bag, he had cut off the bread ends (I don't like them), and put in a little note saying have a great day. I've also had the blindfold, car ride that led to a secluded spot with the rose petals in the bath and all my favorite things prepared just for me. These guys just happened to be black. So, I guess that's why I'm asking what your experience has been, because I can't call it. It seems that if given the time and opportunity all my guys of different nationalities have been romantic in their own way. Not enough for me to say one over the other.

Whatever your preference is when it comes to dating and no matter what your idea of romance is. Be sure to celebrate it this month and the next and the next. While you're at it... you should go ahead and "admit you're happy and take the family out for some fun, have everyone's eyes examined, then go out for a round of golf (miniature acceptable), and wrap up the day with a great big picnic with blueberry's and catfish".

Celebrate life and I bet you...romance will be in the air.

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  1.   romeoluvs says:
    Posted: 07 Dec 06

    Romance is alive and kicking. Romance has nothing to do with race.

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  2.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 06

    Romance is very much alive on AR.i am see a few more success stories in the making...

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  3.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 24 Nov 06

    Romance is not dead and neither am i.Im still lovable,loving and giving.

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  4.   yoby says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 06

    of course romance does exist, it's only with the girls (black) from london that it is quite impossible to work it out!!!

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  5.   Rick says:
    Posted: 17 Oct 06

    Romance will never die as long as we as parents instill in our children the qualities that will make them responsible citizens who possess values and respect the opposite sex. I see more and more decent young adults which leads me to believe that todays youth will learn from the mistakes made by us, the baby boomers. Long live romance !!

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  6.   besweet says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 06

    Hey Kara thats a very nice statement. And true you do have to work at it sometimes outside just trying to get along. Or alongside I should say. I havent had awhole lotof romance in my relationships from the guys, but I still try on mypart. If I want a lot of romance Ihave to read a novel.LOL I would sure be great to find a trur romantic guy that reciprocates what I give.

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  7.   Kara says:
    Posted: 16 Oct 06

    When I'm in love, romance comes naturally. It's hard to keep it alive when it goes unappreciated or unreciprocated, though. I think everything should think of their relationship as a sort of third being separate from the two individuals that needs care and tending if it's going to survive and thrive. Both partners must put in their efforts. If one partner stops playing a significant role in nurturing the relationship, it will get sick and eventually die.

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  8.   babymeat says:
    Posted: 14 Oct 06

    i hope romance never dies!!

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  9. Posted: 12 Oct 06

    very good article..romance is alive and well!!....

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  10.   Urangel21 says:
    Posted: 11 Oct 06

    I'm such a hopeless romantic and if it promotes it for other ethnicities thats even better!

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  11.   Marquez097 says:
    Posted: 11 Oct 06

    Like I said...stop pointing the finger and look at yourself when it comes to romance. Are you inspiring it or are you dragging it down?

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  12.   Coco says:
    Posted: 09 Oct 06

    For the guys who think all the responses from women are about what the men do for them, please re-read. I've read that women not only expect romance, they are very romantic and giving too!

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  13.   Ann says:
    Posted: 07 Oct 06

    I'll take the blueberries with salmon instead of catfish and have the fun. Great advice.

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  14.   CarolinaQT says:
    Posted: 07 Oct 06

    Of course Romance still exists. Everyone's idea of it is different, and it's all what you make of it. Unexpected flowers delivered to her job...dinner on the table when she gets home...a single e-mail in the midst of her hectic day that just says "I Love You." Those could be examples of her idea of romance. A hot oil massage after his 10 hour work day...A fedex package delivered to him at his office with a racy picture, and a scented, seductive "read between the lines" note as to what to expect when he gets home, maybe those are examples of what a woman could do to romance her man. Everyone's idea of romance is different, not bound by color or gender. When you're with the right person, in tune with their thoughts and feelings, romance will be natural and unprompted.

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  15.   stephen1001 says:
    Posted: 06 Oct 06

    Funny how you hear Love and Romance in the same sentences, but I think they are Two seperate items. Just that when you have them both together, with one person, then the sun, moon and stars all come out together for you both.

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  16. Posted: 05 Oct 06

    it really is all about romance----just gotta have good timing and chemistry too!!

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  17.   marquez097 says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 06

    Romance doesnt have a color. Just remember romance is based on one's own idea of things.

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  18.   Coco says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 06

    Romance has no color lines. The guy I am dating is BLACK like me and he is so very romantic. Each week he writes me a tribute letter. He also knows that I love 4 inch heels and always rubs my feet after I wear them. Whoever said black men aren't romantic has never met my guy!

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  19.   Ann says:
    Posted: 03 Oct 06

    No, I don't. Romance has no color.

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  20.   Texasbest says:
    Posted: 03 Oct 06

    True love still exists..

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  21.   xina03 says:
    Posted: 02 Oct 06

    I do believe in romance...and I don't think it's dead it's just some people forget about it/.....

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  22. Posted: 01 Oct 06

    I believe that the amount of romance in your relationship eventually will determine how long your relationship will last......the new relationship....romance is overflowing...we are trying to win the other one over.....once we have that person....romance is still there cause we are still getting to know them, however, once you can finish their sentences or know what they are going to say before they say it....that is when romance is most important.....you want to keep that person..you better continue being romantic....or it will get old and fizzle out and you will now be living day by day...not for the moment which is exciting and keeps the relationship alive!! I don't care if I am with someone 1 month to 50 years....romance needs to be there, on my end and his.

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  23.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 01 Oct 06

    I USED TO THINK ROMANCE WAS OVER RATED UNTIL I READ THIS ARTICEL. THANKS FOR THE INFO.

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  24. Posted: 30 Sep 06

    romance and creative communication--with words and symbols can help so much...its just those beginning small little old text messages over our cell phones that sometimes really helps get things rolling!!

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  25.   Carla says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 06

    true romance depends on how the person perceives it and what they make of it

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  26.   Kara says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 06

    I don't like it when a guy I don't even know yet tries to win me over with a bunch of corny, unoriginal "romantic" words and behaviors. I don't feel romantic toward someone I don't yet know, even if there is some chemistry there. I wish all the guys could just slow it down & wait to see if we'd even like each other as friends before they start fantasizing aloud about where we'll live and what our children will look like. I'm not going to enjoy the "romance" unless it feels genuine, unforced, and not desperate.

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  27.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 06

    romance is the key to a happly relationship, at least i think.

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  28.   BABYMEAT says:
    Posted: 30 Sep 06

    romance is never dead, the hard part is finding a person that you want to be romanced by.

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  29.   nehuskerfan says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 06

    Romance is the state of mind between two people. I truly believe that it is the little things that mean the most.

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  30.   lizzy2005 says:
    Posted: 28 Sep 06

    I beleive that romance still does exist. I am a romantic person myself and would love to find my oher half. Someone who loves to do special things for me without being told lol!

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  31.   Ebony says:
    Posted: 28 Sep 06

    I'm an advocate of romance! I eat, sleep and breath romance. I'm not sure I'd say one ethnicity is more romantic than another, but I will say I do not believe african-american males have less experience with romance and all the wonders of it, that they simply are not promoters of it. I've had relationships with males of many ethnicities and from the Italian, Greek, and Caucasian ones that have been in my life, I found the romance and sensuality absolutely mind numbing!! However with my african-american lover, I had to fight for the few romantic moments that we had. Time (and many conversations) made him better at it, but it truly was not something natural for him.

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  32.   Majesticone says:
    Posted: 26 Sep 06

    it depends on the person not the race. i am EXTREMELY romantic and look forward to creating it with someone special. and the guy im working on.. lol.. hes romantic as well. in fact its the little things he does that keeps me saying WOW and coming back for more.. fortunately for me.. all the men who were romantic happened to be white and the black men i came across were not but i must say that EVERYONE has their own way of showing it. so i guess im morecompatible with those that are not afraid to show their romantic side as i am. ;0)

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  33.   bradlee says:
    Posted: 26 Sep 06

    Romance is a beautiful dream...like religious beliefs. You either believe in it or not.

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  34.   SOS says:
    Posted: 26 Sep 06

    ROMANCE IS SIMPLE....WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO EMBRACE IT.

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  35. Posted: 25 Sep 06

    Per this site, romance is alive and THRIVING!!

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  36.   DESIREE says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 06

    i'm a romantic, even though i dont like to admit it because its about the mushy love stuff. i dont think its ALL about lust. it makes the search harder, yes....but then that just narrows out the players from the good men, and the nasty ho's from the ladies. if someone can only settle for lust, then they wouldnt know what true romance is if it beat em in the face.

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  37.   Kalilah says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 06

    Romance is dead...it's all about lust these days. Freaks!

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  38.   marquez097 says:
    Posted: 24 Sep 06

    When you have that feeling of true passion to be with someone no matter how goofy or suave that person is...romance will be sparked in most aspects of the relationship.

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  39.   iceburger says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 06

    I do not think there is anything like true romance

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  40.   desiree says:
    Posted: 20 Sep 06

    if someone can define ''true romance''.....enlighten me

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  41.   desiree says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 06

    true romance is defined within the eye and the heart of the beholder. me personally, if a man i'm talking to came up to me with one of those notes from elementary school: Dear Desiree, I like you. Do you like me? check: yes__ no__ maybe__ i think i would laugh my butt off but i'd also think its so sweet. cheezy romantic. i'd totally go out with him.

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  42.   iceburger says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 06

    I honestly think that the word romance can at times be so much misused. The degree of measuring romance does not exist. I think one is as romantic as they feel. Everyone belives that they are romantic.

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  43.   marquez097 says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 06

    Stop pointing fingers and look at yourself. If YOU (man or woman) dont put effort into something then there will be no romance at all. Everyone seems to forget that things work 2 ways and if you only have an attempt at romance coming from one side then its bound to be a flop.

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  44.   jckappa says:
    Posted: 19 Sep 06

    @Desiree...I think it would take a few generations to see a real difference.

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  45.   JADE74 says:
    Posted: 18 Sep 06

    Romance is not dead....Its very much alive.......

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  46.   desiree says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 06

    what do you (the reader) think would happen if everyone of my generatrion had children with someone of a different culture, race, nationality. do you think there would be more or less issues. this is a question i used on a survey for a study for advanced english in high school. let me compare the answers.

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  47.   DESIREE says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 06

    technically there'sn o way of knowing inf there are any good men left. but no one can say that about any particular gender. are there any true ''ladies'' left? and u also have to look at maybe a woman's neurotic behaviors effect how a man treast you, her, whoever. and visaversa. but bad taste in men has nothing to do with the whole.

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  48. Posted: 15 Sep 06

    First and foremost I am indeed a true romantic, I love being romanced and I love romancing. I was born on Valentines Day so it's in my heart; God Bless all of you, and good luck in finding true love with an abundance of romance!

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  49.   kenyanito says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 06

    That black men are not romantic? Its a big lie, just differentiate good sex and romance. The answer is yours to decide.

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  50.   jckappa says:
    Posted: 15 Sep 06

    If you are having that many problems Ashley, you might want to look at the men you are choosing.

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