Coming from a White man who has been married for six years to a Black woman, actress Paula Patton, the same Black woman he has known and been with since high school for 18 years, the advice I expected from soul singer Robin Thicke on the media telling Black women that they will be better off dating White, was a definite “YES!”. Well much to my surprise, he thinks it’s ridiculous and doesn’t believe White men are the ideal ‘plan B’!
In his interview with Essence, Thicke had a lot of good things to say about Black men:
“… There are so many good Black men out there that are hardworking, decent, and handsome, you know? … There are great Black men out there. There are only a few good White men — trust me. (Laughs) Good luck finding a good White man who understands your journey. I only have three White friends. I’ve got 20 Black male friends, who are all good men who take good care of their wives, and good care of their children. I know amazing Black men. Maybe the women have to take better care of their men. Maybe you’re being too stubborn. Maybe you’re not saying you’re sorry. You have to take good care of him, too. You have to give love to get love.”
But having said all that, Thicke acknowledges that Black people … especially Black women go through a different experience in life. Having been with a black woman for such a long time one would think he knows everything about Black women. But even so, Paula still told him in the middle of an argument: “… no matter how hard you try, or how compassionate you are, you’ll never know what it’s like to be a Black woman.” So he got up and wrote a song “I Don’t Know How It Feels to Be You,” which is on his new album “Love and War,” with the lyrics:
“I don’t know how it feels to be you, though I try my best to understand what you’re going through, I don’t know how it feels to be you. I can’t walk in your shoes. But, I’m trying baby. You know how much I love you.”
Well, to be in an interracial relationship for this long and still have lots of good things to say about your woman… Now this is a white man who knows how to love and understands Black women! He is one of the few White men every Black woman looking to date interracially deserves!