QOTW: Are You on the Hook in Your Relationship?

Posted by Christelyn, 06 Sep

Ever felt like you are in a relationship where you have no control over? Do you feel like the person you are dating is kind of dangling you from a hook - taking forever to respond to your texts, changing plans on you at the last minute, replying messages or returning your calls only when it suits them?

The Question:

This week's question comes from a man who was in a long-distance relationship that ended a while back but recently reconnected with the woman he was in a relationship with, hangout, had fun and even had sex. However when he returned back home, he texted her the next day but she didn't reply. It took her a whole two weeks to do so.

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When she replied, the dude told her to "Have a nice life" because her silence sent a clear message that she wasn't interested. But the woman was like "Wait... Wait"; citing how busy she was in her new job.

So the guy is wondering, if he overrated to her two week silence; if the woman was rely that busy. Too busy to even reply to a 2 minute text?

My Take

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

4 responses to "QOTW: Are You on the Hook in Your Relationship?"

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  1.   yaya1988 says:
    Posted: 16 Sep

    I don't believe she was busy. I have been in a relationship like that before and it's not the most comfortable one. It's like you are just there for whenever they are bored or when no one is giving them the time of day so you are last resort. Don't ever let any let you rethink your worth.

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  2.   Lynda22 says:
    Posted: 08 Sep

    The truth is that the woman was never interested in him, no matter how busy a lady can be, she must always have time for her man.

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    • TerryMurphy says:
      Posted: 09 Sep

      Today women take there independence to the heart,to when a man want to do something for ,she holla I don't need u

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  3.   waayne says:
    Posted: 07 Sep

    Described my ex-her loss my gain-ty -you Re smart

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