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QOTW: "Are Older Black Women Resistant to Interracial Dating?"

Posted by Christelyn, 09 Aug 15

The question…

"My question is I’m a mid 40’s divorced white male. I love all women but have always preferred black women. I'm planning on getting back to dating and was wondering if you believe that older black women still prefer not dating outside there race. I ask this because the majority of interracial relationships you see are the younger generation."

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Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.

11 responses to "QOTW: "Are Older Black Women Resistant to Interracial Dating?""

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  1. Posted: 22 Aug

    No, nah, nope, never. Not resistant to interracial dating at all; and I'm barely into my sixties. I can't wait to meet that magnificent fellow, who will become my spouse, and with whom I will share the rest of my life with.

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  2. Posted: 26 Jun

    No, I have been dated and married outside of my race for over twenty years. I do find that there are some BW from my generation that were raised not to date outside our race. When I went to College my Grandmother told me to not bring home a White boy. I think she knew in her heart that I would marry outside of my race.

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  3.   Phinney says:
    Posted: 27 Jan

    No I don't believe we do. I think that most black women over 40 who have a preference to date outside their race most likely have done it before.

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  4.   Gypsy22015 says:
    Posted: 16 Jan

    Answer to your question: No. We are not resistant to interracial dating. I have learned that quite a few black women prefer white men now. And maybe always but were a little afraid of society. I have been dating nice looking, decent Caucasian guys for at least eight or more years periodically. When I arrive at an all black cookout invited or function with my white man- black women are very happy to see it. They ask me these questions in secret " how did you meet him, I would like to meet a Caucasian guy, I am shy -he might reject me, does your white date have white male friends that want to date black???" It is amazing how many black women old and young want to date white men. And white men too and can be great sexual bed lovers. Many years ago some jealous person trying to keep black women away from white men stated their penis is too small and white men can not move good on the vagina. THAT IS ALL A LIE. They are great lovers. I will stop here. If you want to date black women and confident GO FOR IT. We love you too white man. Respectfully answered with personal truth from me Gypsy to the Caucasian males with that question. Do it! I love them and enjoy dating Caucasian men that are respectable and lovable. Go for it! I am sure you will have a choice. Black women - yes- are desperately searching for decent white men. No other ethnicity outside the race of black.

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    • WM4Ebony says:
      Posted: 10 Feb

      Love your answers.....yes we can be absolutely incredible in bed as you ladies can bring out the best in this area.....

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    • Smartlady101 says:
      Posted: 22 Aug

      Thank you so much for your comments. I have heard those same rumors for years. Interesting how such statements could become so wide-spread and as so "matter-of-factly ."

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  5.   Xanerchek says:
    Posted: 18 Dec 15

    I can only speak for myself as a 49 year old black woman, I have only ever been in relationships with caucasian men. Was married to one for 14 years...

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  6.   mariyawanda says:
    Posted: 29 Oct 15

    depending on how they meet.

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  7.   Fanominal says:
    Posted: 19 Oct 15

    I don't believe black women are resistant to interracial dating at all. I and many of my friends nationwide have, do, will date interracially. It is perceived as such b/c the publicity isn't there as it is for the many high-profile relationships of men of color. I also feel the hesitancy from non-minority men such as the writer who inquire if we will date outside of the race versus just asking us out. Btw - it's not just a younger generation thing...my great grandparents were an interracial couple of the early 1900"s.

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  8.   theirdre says:
    Posted: 04 Oct 15

    Most black women are not resistant to dating interracial dating as matter of fact i have several friends that would love to date a man of another race. I am 45 year old woman getting back in the dating scene, I have come across older men 45+ wanting to date younger black women. I get frustrated because I would love to date an older white man around my age.

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  9.   liacole says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 15

    I don't believe older black women are resistant to interracial dating. I think the reluctance you may encounter may not necessarily be due to race as it may be due to other issues that they are not prepared to deal with such as a reluctance on the male part to commit to a serious relationship.

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