Poll: Why does he maintain a "still searching" dating profile?
You meet this person on a dating website. Things are going really well. But as days go by, you realize that this person you are so head over hills in love with... this person who keeps promising you the world, still has an active online dating profile. And the status: AVAILABLE!!!
Its not entirely a guy thing but most men for some reason maintain their online dating profiles even after finding love and being in a serious relationship. And when confronted by their spouses, these men usually come up with some lame excuses as to why this is so. Some even go to the extent of trying to explain why they need to have those profiles up.
But why would someone have a profile that clearly advertises to all singles that they are “still searching” if they really consider themselves to be in a serious relationship? What would someone in a relationship have been doing on a singles site say the-last-one-hour?
Your perfect partner could be online right now...
What are you looking for?
In a bid to try and find out why, we ran a poll on this blog site. Going by the poll results, 39% of the participating members felt the person is not taking the relationship seriously where as 36% felt the person is probably keeping their options open in case the relationship failed. 15% went with: the person is definitely cheating, 5% went with: the person just wants to flirt and 5% gave them the benefit of doubt of having forgotten to pull down their profile.
When you find yourself in such a situation, much as the person is not actually cheating, I think one should acknowledge there is a problem. Bottom line, if your spouse actually does logs in, then he/she is keeping their options open and is not taking the relationship as seriously as they ought to. Personally, the only reason I’d have for maintaining an active profile - one that I pay for - is to meet women.
Looking at the reasons as per the poll, the only reason that you can build a long-term relationship on is: having forgotten to pull the profile down. The rest don't provide a conducive environment.
So what should one do in such a situation?
It is safe to brace yourself for the possibility that you are the only one who is in a serious relationship. Maybe this person isn’t as committed as you think. But if you ask me, one way or the other, this is a sign of disrespect. Much as some may consider this petty, I think you are well within your rights to ask them why its still active and ask them to pull it down.
And if this person doesn’t get the point, then I think it is high time you activated your profile as well until you find yourself someone who treats you with the respect and honor you deserve.
That’s just me! Do you think dwelling over an active profile is petty? Let’s hear it…
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