Overcoming interracial dating obstacles
I am a believer that interracial dating will triumph over all the obstacles such couples face. But until that happens, here is how you deal with the four most common obstacles:
If some of your friends and family members are traditionalists who believe in ‘dating within your own race’, or those that feel that interracial dating has made them be in some competition with men or women of other races, surround yourself with people who embrace diversity… people who understand you… people who don’t question your choice to date interracially. The acceptance you get from people you keep close will be like a shield from those bad comments from the rest of the society.
Media stereotyping is another obstacle. Can you blame them? Stereotyping is easier for them. Its what appeals to the masses. Its what sells. Since you know how biased the media business is, why waste your time keeping up with it? Plus, don’t let your dating choices be influenced by those couples the media idealizes. Make yourself be stereotype resistant. Trust only what you believe in.
Then there are those family members you love to hate… those always on your case. Those still living in 1946 with their race-driven jokes. Don’t let your blood boil coz he or she is the only one not getting this interracial dating biz. Yes, you may never be able to avoid them during the family reunions so all you can do is just accept them and their stone-age ways. Pay no mind to them. Just prepare yourself and your significant other for the crude confrontation. Don’t let emotions get the best of you coz you know who you are dealing with. And much as trying to explain yourself may not help much, share your thoughts about how much you love your partner and demand your respect!
So what should you do about the on-lookers … those who look at you like you are some UFOs? How about those that frown and raise eyebrows while at it? Don’t even try to play mind-reader. I know its tempting but just resist the urge. Who knows, the stares could be of envy and admiration… or maybe… or maybe… Shoot! Wondering is pointless.
There are not many interracial couples yet - well, not as many as we would love to see anyway. So thrive in your uniqueness. Boast in the fact that someone noticed you two. Pat yourselves on the back – better yet, hug and kiss - knowing that you are part of those that are desensitizing the world about interracial dating.
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