Comments on: Online Dating: To tell the whole truth or not

By: serenity33

serenity33 — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 02:41:52 +0000

I think honesty is always the best policy no matter how bad it is. That is why my profile is so long and it describes in detail all my flaws and my strengths I leave to be self-evident by my interaction with people. And if they can’t see the strengths, then they aren’t the quality that I want in a person. Being a Pastoral Marriage Counselor I have seen too many relationships fail and divorce happens because people get together for shallow reasons. They are too looks conscious and/or too money conscious. I read every profile that I come across totally and don’t pay attention to how they look unless they look particularly slutty or have too much of a glamor shot because then they probably are a scammer. But I keep it real and many women don’t like that and it is true that my success rate is low on internet dating sites. But it is better than ending up with someone shallow that will either dump me before or after marriage. Plus I care more about their religious background and their morality than I do their appearance. I won’t be interested in anyone with illegitimate kids as that shows bad morality. If they are divorced with kids, I am somewhat more lenient since they were as least married but still they should have sought premarital and marriage counseling and a good counselor. If good premarital counseling is done, you can determine compatibility before you make that fatal mistake of getting married. I was engaged when I was younger and she cheated on me an left me after five years. But I kept pushing her as far as personality growth and that helped weed her out. She since then has been divorced twice and has a kid from each marriage and is now married a third time to someone who also has a kid and was divorced. So I really dodged a bullet there because she would have divorced me if I had married her and I would have ended up another sad statistic. It is better to be alone than someone that is not compatible with you spiritually and psychologically. We have the highest divorce rate in the world and the moral fiber of our country is going down the drain as more and more single mothers crop up due to lack of good morality especially Christian morality. So I think that if you are honest with your flaws, especially superficial ones such as lack of looks or money, you may end up with few hits or none but it is better than having children out of wedlock or getting divorced later on.
Joseph Moyer

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By: RICK HAYES

RICK HAYES — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 22:28:51 +0000

I am Rick Hayes…I am 47 years old and lonesome. I
want a female companion. Any women in this room interested? IM rickh@GOOGLE.COM.

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By: RICK HAYES

RICK HAYES — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 20:55:19 +0000

Any black women here for this “white dude?”

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By: alexander121

alexander121 — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 04:29:51 +0000

Im a HS teacher and I see so many young children creating false immages to fit in. Adults do this too. The problem gets worse when they start to believe their own fictional immage. Some never grow out of the habbit, and are sad and angry throughout their lives. Worse:when someone believes their false immage and are content with the lie their whole life.

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By: Violetq

Violetq — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 20:13:06 +0000

im new to online dating, and i find it silly/pathetic if someone put up a fake photo or tell me lies.

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By: PeaceStar

PeaceStar — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 05:49:36 +0000

Thank you romnomor. I was wondering was I one of the only ones who are given the creeps out by the naked chest pics. I also have a problem with the men with pictures taken from their high school or 20′s glory years and the age on the profile is 45+ years old. Or the face and body is 45+ but the age is listed in the 30′s.
I tell the truth in my profile, because I do not want to start any type of relationship with a lie. And I wish others would try it out. They might even be surprised at the positive responses they will receive.

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By: romnomor

romnomor — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 23:01:48 +0000

well said, earthangel…. I have had the same creepy vibes and experiences. I also believe, in part, that like you stated, dressing modestly prevents me from getting responses from men. Then again, what men would you attract that way. I take it one step further and will not engage in flirting, or conversing with men who show photos only of themselves shirtless, espec with no head shot!!!

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By: fkoi

fkoi — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 19:15:31 +0000

The object of this exercise for me is to form friendships, meet face-to-face and hopefully meet a love that will last. If I tell you that I am a 5 foot, 300 pound Asian man, the chances are when we meet you will discover I’m not, no matter how brilliant and witty my online banter may be.

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By: crimesonrun

crimesonrun — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 23:31:56 +0000

Dear ladies,

As a guy I tell the truth but also I tell the lie that I am lesser than what I am. The sad American tale is that women are starting to critic men the same way men did to women for generations. My southern mother always taught us to watch people and their actions behind the words. If I sense a woman does not want me because of something that is her choice. There are so many wonderful colors of the rainbow waiting for your just approval. So please color outside the lines and maybe the country.

WE men do look at thin women, but that is just a preference not always a mandate. I have dated little chubby Italian women and I just adore the whole package. It is the essence of the woman that wins out everytime if she is so true to herself.

Have any of you ever stopped to notice, a woman or a man that has the presence of being as subtle as just walking into a room? Sometimes, you feel a shift in the room’s energy and you turn one way or another to find the person? That person is usually very developed within. The body may be well matched but beauty and confidence starts at the core.

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By: earthangel01

earthangel01 — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 23:34:46 +0000

i have yet to find stimulating conversation or anything intelligent on any site i have joined- if it is not a pervert it is a looney tunes that decides to send a note my way- and i have joined and paid for these sites!! wow i muse to myself, “what is it that draws these people?” the reason this seems ironic is that any photo i put on a site will not be a skimpy bathing suit even though i could- or my body parts hanging out! sending messages to someone you like based on their profile is also a hazard- you will not get a return message yet they will stare at your profile 7 times a day- creepy anyone? being out of a 3 year relationship i am saddened to see the way things are going – it ALMOST has me wanting to running back to that extra child that i sent out to the world.ALMOST

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