Comments on: Online dating: Should we do away with the weight question

By: afrodite_07

afrodite_07 — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:57:05 +0000

p.s.

don’t persue people who are not attracted to you…i do not approach guys who don’t look my way,nor do i have any emotion for them.i can admire their good qualities and not pursue them it is a natural thing to do

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By: afrodite_07

afrodite_07 — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 23:48:24 +0000

first off,in this country,america,you know damn well a lot of people are overweight.i say if you like a chubby girl’s personality,go for her!a person can loose weight damnit!and your skinny dream girl can turn to big birtha ! saddly,weight does affect women’s dating experience,becouse we are told women should be thin,and for skinny girls,some are told that they should be curvy,and they’re not.body size should be about health,not beauty….alot of these men online mark it as beauty
i say keep the body question,becouse people got different preferences,and be honest with it.That way,when you meet someone,there is no surprise,and they are seeing the real you.
and also,i don’t agree that a person should expect an adonis or aphrodite if they look like medusa or the kracken.

i encourage all to love yourself,as you are now, becouse no one can love you like you!I am not a model but i have other attributes that are just that are just that much more amazing.i am always harrassed by family who always make fat jokes,even if they are larger than me,and its becouse i’m a girl!also,i have been teased sense middle school,and my own family now tease me for having big chest when everyone else is smaller.

in the end ,when it comes to actual love and not casual dating,its about you as an indivisual (for most it will be 60-personality and 40-appearance)don’t listen to people who tell you you’re not beautiful,they want to hurt you,even family.there is a reason everyon looks the way they do,we were created that way!so let the world know what you are,you have nothing to be ashamed of!if people cannot accept you and your greatness,to hell with them!
(i’m a size 16-18 myself,i’m down for a big guy ,as long as he can still run like i can!).

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By: Shelly

Shelly — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 14:25:18 +0000

To judeeblueyes, Bravo!

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By: Shelly

Shelly — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 14:22:35 +0000

The weight question should remain. Now this doesn’t mean people will be honest. Let’s face that. There is someone for everyone! Many men like plus sized women. My mom was one and she and my dad were happy!

What’s the problem? I agree with commenter who mentioned loving what you are and what you have. Besides, beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

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By: Jenna

Jenna — Wed, 19 May 2010 00:33:19 +0000

@ FurryJeans
I love your attitude!You’re like a breath of fresh air on here!
Most people are always looking for perfect especially men,but they themselves leave much to be desired!

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By: FurryJeans

FurryJeans — Sat, 15 May 2010 03:47:45 +0000

I say keep the weight question so I can find the sexy plus ladies I really like. No twiggy types for this non-Adonis dude.

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By: immeuru

immeuru — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:57:37 +0000

The weight issue is so central to women’s lives. It is remarkable the amount of emotional pain experienced by women over their bodies – and it is not just “overweight” women. Women of all sizes suffer over their bodies. This dissatisfaction is epidemic.

So, what’s a woman to do? That is at the core of this question about whether weight should be on profiles, I believe.

My suggestion is learn to love and appreciate our bodies as they are NOW. Think about all it does for us on a daily basis. Think about this – we would not be here in this life without our bodies. Show some appreciation. We have been so conditioned to view our bodies negatively.

Regardless of where this originated, I say take our power back by begining to appreciate our bodies rather than worrying about others who may not appreciate us. Self-confidence is generated from the inside out.

While men may generally prefer thin women, why focus on or blame men. Be true to yourself. That is my motto for life, the roadmap. Being myself means that the truth goes on my profile.

And another thing, take a look around. Love is not reserved only for the thin!

Lastly, why spend time worrying about someone else’s preference. I love what Abraham-Hicks says about this. Life is like a buffet. If you don’t like broccoli don’t put it one your plate. That doesn’t mean you have to try to prevent others from enjoying broccoli. I believe we can focus on what we want to bring into our lives and call it in. Worrying or criticizing others for their preferences goes NOWHERE. Why not just focus on what we wish to create and let others who are a match migrate towards each other. Their doing so does not prevent our joy and happiness. I must say I think that also applies to the magazine cover issue. Rock on!

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By: bennyblanco

bennyblanco — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 06:56:39 +0000

Alot of good things said here. I say pictures, pictures, pictures. We people have no idea how much we slow the process by not posting a selection of RECENT face and body pictures (showing our “current” look), with all the different photo angles. By choosing to add a selection of pictures like this, we are merely providing possible compatibles out there with what they may observe if they saw us at the beach, at church, at work, etc. As for the question of whether this is important, please don’t take my word for it. Read a little some time on the subject of comparrison of our primal needs in males and females…”His needs, Her needs” by Willard F. Harley is a GREAT book to start on the subject. A study in this area tends to only HELP in our dating life and explain perhaps a little more clearly what drives us. As far this site goes, I for one vote for more choices in the “physical description” category. “Curvy” would be nice for starters. For me just that one choice would save me some time…a few extra pounds never bothered me, but where? On your forehead? Feet? Stomach? In speaking with different Ladies over the years, collectively they have taught me that, for example, in a family of sibblings, it’s common one of the daughters gets “mommas chest” and she may be more “chesty” in figure. Then the next daughter its the opposite, she gets “mommas behind” and may be smaller on top. Am I wrong? :- ) On a site like ours both of these ladies in this serario might choose to describe themself with “a few extra pounds” but only a picture really explains who we are. These qualities are what make us unique. Me personally, I have no problem being honest about the fact that my own body figure: I have a muscular upper body and fat around my midsection, 6ft 2, etc. In my pics you can make that out, but I feel mis-leading if I check “Athletic”…wouldnt “Athletic” mean you have six pack abs? Well I dont have six pack abs, so better to be honest and check “average”…but I’m not really that either? What is average? You feel me? Hmmmm…

Anyway peace out, may I say much love and God Bless to ALL the ladies on this site-lookin great.

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By: w16

w16 — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 06:10:53 +0000

Absolutely it should be kept. I wouldn’t spend money on a dating site that didn’t have it. Everyone has their type and I want to know this upfront. A great personality is wonderful, but that won’t change whether I’m physically attracted to someone if they aren’t the physical type I’m attracted to.

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By: Bamababe2k9

Bamababe2k9 — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 21:57:19 +0000

Yep because weight is a personal question just like your penis size is. If you want to know how much I weigh, I should know how big is your penis right? That’s what profiles are for to tell people your type.

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