Online dating: Should we do away with the weight question
Has the weight question on your online dating profile affected your dating?
Even though two thirds of Americans are obese or overweight, most plus size singles – women especially - say their weight gets in their way of dating - even those who aren’t ashamed of it and state it clearly on their online dating profiles.
Christie receives five potential matches every day from the dating site she is registered with based on preferences in her profile… then she reads “slender” or “athletic” as her potential mates’ preferred body type. Christie is a size 24.
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On online dating sites most plus-size singles are overlooked. Most potential mates disappear when they discover that one is a plus size. According to a Wake Forest University study where researchers surveyed 4,000 men and women between 18 to +70 years on attractiveness of members of the opposite sex, on being shown photos of women, men had similar body type preferences – thin women. Women on the other hand preferred all sizes of men. Clearly, men prefer and find thin women the most attractive.
Laura Triplett, an assistant professor of communications at California State University, says many plus-sized women are rejected once they meet a potential mate in person, regardless of whether they are upfront about size in profiles and photos. One dude, on seeing the woman he had flown across the country to meet was plus-sized asked her to refund him the ticket claiming he duped him into flying her there.
Triplett advises people against including weight or size in profiles. "People are going to use your physical characteristics to judge you … Why not focus on other things about yourself?"
Some online dating sites don’t include weight in their questionnaire. However, James Houran, columnist and spokesman for Online Dating Magazine, feels people should be honest about everything. "By sharing who you really are, you are increasing your odds of finding someone who will genuinely have an attraction to you," he said.
Do you think online dating sites should stop asking the question about weight and size in their questionnaires? Will this really increase chances of most plus size singles of finding love or will we just be postponing the inevitable – the disappearing act (or plane ticket refund) after meeting in person?
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