The real goal is to delete your profile...right?

Posted by Leticia, 15 Jul 07

So, you're in the mood for love and something or someone has brought you to the World Wide Web...now what? It doesn't matter if you've been dating on-line five years or five minutes. We all need a little help refreshing ourselves and putting our best features forward in an attempt to make it to that big day when we can...delete our profile and enjoy the love we've found. The following 4 tips are designed to help you improve the way you reveal your "true purpose" when looking for love.

4 tips to enhance your on-line dating experience...

TIP #1...Know what you're looking for before you go looking for it!

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

I'm sure if I've said this once I've said it a thousand and one times; the key to finding what you're looking for is to first KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. Too many of us treat dating like a trip to the supermarket. We walk in look around and pick up the first thing that looks good to us AT THE TIME. And much like dating/groceries, when we get home and unpack the bags, we realize that we picked up a lot of veggies and no meat. Even the strictest vegetarian will tell you that we all need our protein. When looking for that ideal mate we also need some substance. Make your list before you go shopping and stick to it.

TIP #2...Don't waste time on things that don't fit!

Now it's time to go try on clothes. Tell me, do you ever intentionally pick up the wrong size? Do you ever try it on just to torture yourself? Do you buy it and take it home in hopes that "one day" it will fit? If the answer is yes...WRONG ANSWER! If not, than why would you do that with a man/woman? Why would you waste your time, energy, or money (everything cost), on someone that doesn't fit who you are or what you are looking for?

TIP #3...Know your "deal breakers"!

We all learned in kindergarten that it's nice to share. That works really well with crayons, paper and snacks. Not so well, with our significant others. For the sake of this article "swingers do not exist". We are all assuming that the goal is a totally monogamous relationship with one other person. The thing to keep in mind is that not everyone shares your values or definition of the truth. There is no easy way to say this other that to say it! There are some straight up dead wrong good for nothing bad intention having lost souls surfing the internet every day. You've got to set your standards based on your designated goals and stick with them. I love me some *insert the male body part opposite the rear end...as much as the next girl. However, there is only so much shit that I will deal with. Know what your bottom line is and don't let anyone persuade you to continue to cross it over and over again.

TIP #4...The true definition of coming full circle!

If the end goal is to eliminate your user profile (because you have found the love you desire and no longer need to advertise); then we must first start with creating the right profile to begin with. Make sure that you use a recent flattering photo. Don't be afraid to be specific about what you are looking for. The only thing it can do is turn off those that don't measure up. This is the best opportunity for you to be you. Tell some of those "different" qualities that make you unique. If you are just looking for a serious relationship say that, don't worry that you'll turn others off. What you'll do is hopefully, weed out most of the "just looking" for a booty callers. And refresh, renew and redo your profile every now and then to keep it current and fresh. You never know whose attention you might catch the second time around with a new picture or a cute and clever line in your profile. Try, try and try again until the day when you can official delete your profile with your new love....or at least chance the caption to "looking for friends only"!

40 responses to "The real goal is to delete your profile...right?"

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  1. Posted: 13 Apr 08

    Tigerlilies and NFL24 the two of you present great comments/questions, I have been thinking the same thing. Maybe some of those people on here playin' around need to read/listen to this, then they will understand that people have standard and don't waste their time. It saddens me to see that many women and some men have literally had to "map" out how to approach them in their profiles because some are not respective of the profile parameters - so sad.

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  2.   nfl24 says:
    Posted: 11 Feb 08

    You should delete your profile only if you know you want to delete your profile. If you make friends on here that is just a valuable as finding love. Love comes in many different ways.

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  3.   tigerlilies says:
    Posted: 07 Feb 08

    For some, that is the real goal. For others, getting someone new to play their little games with is more fun, just to start it all over again a few days or months later. And what about the people who just pass their time here, but are married or in a relationship? How do you sift those out to find someone who is really looking for love?

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  4.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 30 Nov 07

    I'm back.Thanks Cocokisses,Fala and Mossimo.You all are very wondeful and classy people and special friends.Fala you can now be the offical Walmart greeter for the chat room.

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  5.   UNME23 says:
    Posted: 11 Oct 07

    i agree with you juanita.

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  6.   Outpass35 says:
    Posted: 08 Oct 07

    I would move my profile once I found someone it would not be any need to keep it up.

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  7.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 29 Sep 07

    I would miss you if you leave Jade. You are one classy lady!! Your friend always

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  8.   Fala says:
    Posted: 28 Sep 07

    I'd miss you too Jade. Who's going to be the chat room's Walmart greeter if you leave???

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  9.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 09 Sep 07

    Jade, don't leave! We know there are many players on the site, but if you think about it, you have met a lot of good people-men and women, that you can keep in touch with. You are one of my online buds, and I would miss you if you left :(

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  10.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 02 Sep 07

    i would like to find someone and delete my profile.

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  11.   CurlyGirly says:
    Posted: 01 Sep 07

    I understand why someone would want to delete their profile after finding someone they think is "The One", but how is that different from cutting off contact with your friends when you get a mate? I've made some friends here on the site and I wouldn't stop coming here just to soothe a jealous man's ego. Yeah, the goal is to find love, but not to forget everyone you met along the way.

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  12.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 21 Aug 07

    very interesting jade.

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  13.   Jade74 says:
    Posted: 20 Aug 07

    I have come very close to deleting my profile and leaving the site.I am still in the process of doing it.Its not that I have found someone,just tired of the games and bs being put out and the men are not for real about dating black women,especially in my age range.

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  14.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 07

    Shoot Fala...sounds like you, Mossimo and UNME23 have your own party going on :)

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  15.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 16 Aug 07

    im with u mossimo, bring fala.

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  16.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 15 Aug 07

    I love parties...especially if Fala is there!!

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  17.   Fala says:
    Posted: 15 Aug 07

    What day and time Coco? You know I'm there!

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  18.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 14 Aug 07

    C'mon we're goin streaking, out by the quad to the gymnasium.. Oh, wrong party....sorry Coco

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  19.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 14 Aug 07

    We should have a party! Everyone to my house!

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  20.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 07

    wow. look at fala go with some great advice.

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  21.   Fala says:
    Posted: 13 Aug 07

    You know I would Unme!

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  22.   Fala says:
    Posted: 09 Aug 07

    I agree Kara. Best to wait for what you're looking for. Don't just take the first guy that comes along.

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  23.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 08 Aug 07

    aww you would miss me fala!!!

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  24.   Kara says:
    Posted: 08 Aug 07

    Love the tips! These are the things I try to tell my friends just getting started with internet dating, but for some reason they have a really hard time following them. They waste a lot of time talking to and meeting men who don't fit what they're looking for at ALL. Well, different strokes, I guess. Not everyone has the patience to be picky or to wait out the lonely times (even though in the end it's SO worth it). But glad to see you and I are on the same page on these how-tos!

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  25.   Fala says:
    Posted: 07 Aug 07

    Well said Coco.

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  26.   blkdiamond says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 07

    I would probably delete but keep in touch with friends.

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  27.   Blkdiamond says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 07

    Deleting my profile after I find true love? You bet I will.

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  28.   Fala says:
    Posted: 06 Aug 07

    My idea too Coco ;-)

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  29.   Coco says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 07

    We are all here to possibly make new friends and for some somthing more. We may as well have a few laughs along the way.

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  30.   fala says:
    Posted: 05 Aug 07

    We'd miss you if you left Unme.

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  31.   Fala says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 07

    You're not going anywhere Unme!!! LOL

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  32.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 07

    i like this site and would probaly keep my profile.

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  33.   Cocokisses says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 07

    Why on earth would I delete my profile? I am having way too much fun here! Besides, my profile does say that I am no longer looking :)

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  34.   Fala says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 07

    Yeah right, Mossimo!!! (and by the way, I did check)

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  35.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 07

    My profile has the caption...looking for Fala only!!!

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  36.   Fala says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 07

    Like you didn't already know Unme!

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  37.   hiimsteph says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 07

    well these indicators are very useful determinatns on finding out ones true motives on looking for love or whatever else

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  38.   unme23 says:
    Posted: 27 Jul 07

    the truth comes out fala!!!

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  39.   Fala says:
    Posted: 25 Jul 07

    I don't think I would delete my profile even if I found someone here. I've made lots of good friends here and chat is always fun so I would want to stay in touch. I would just say on my profile that I'm taken and not looking just here to hang with friends. Although I'm sure that's a long way off.

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  40.   mossimo36 says:
    Posted: 24 Jul 07

    Great article, thanks for posting!!

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