Multicultural dating - Initiating sexual activity
Have you ever been in situations where you had to initiate some sexual activity, and failed to recognize the signs? Most will agree with me that when such opportunities pass, they hardly ever return… I have just done that and you lost the moment ;). Your loss...
Invading someone’s ‘personal space’ can be somewhat tricky or even demeaning when it the concerned are in a multicultural relationship. And when it comes to sexual intimacy, its even trickier. This is the kind of 'personal space' to which each one of us does not invade unless invited to. Invading it uninvited may be interpreted as rape by some cultures, while for other cultures, closeness is permitted, but very conditionally... only when the knot has been tied.
Now that the two of you have been going out for coffee for quite a while, being the sexually liberal American you are, you feel like ITS TIME!!! So how do you go about this when the woman has stated clearly that in her culture people have to be married to get down?
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Cultural values or not, there is some non-linguistic communication… body language... that drops a few hints to initiate sexual activity. And these are the hints we always fail to see. Someone once said ‘Do not ever underestimate the power of private meeting with someone… intimacy is a possibility’. Canny? Don't be amused. It ceme from a man. Well this could be your only chance to score… or almost :lol: Analyze the environment… romantically arranged? If you are a woman and have been invited by a man, you can be 99% sure that the dude has entertained that thougth severally and gotten his goggle stiff a number of times. Seize the moment!!!
Or try the usual touching someone’s arm, brushing near them… they may just respond. But kindly watch for signs of whether your invasion is invited or not. If you are planning to spend the rest of your lives together then some of these cultural values need to be taken into consideration. How far can your sexual activities go? What is acceptable? What is demeaning?
Or do you wanna get married to a woman who thinks your first sexual encounter was rape? :roll: Mmmm…. Didn’t think so either ;-)
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