Multicultural dating and assumptions
I was once in an intercultural relationship. Me and my lady had so much in common. Never did I ever foresee that one day… tone time… culture will be an issue. Well eventually, it was. In an intercultural relationship, we must acknowledge the fact that different assumptions may surface over time.
Opinions and judgments made are usually based on our world views. And this view is mostly shaped by culture. Problems usually surface depending on how engrossed we are in our cultural beliefs and values. Truth be told… who in their right mind would think her/his culture is inferior. Can anyone here admit that their culture is totally screwed up?
All of our life experiences through family and cultural background shape our opinions and teach us how to deal with life's challenges. Often, this is how we begin to formulate prejudices against other cultures. The ego… "The way we did it in my country was better.᾿ Does this statement sound familiar? Well me being THE MAN with THE PAIR of you know what, I eventually screwed up the whole relationship with my cultural ego.
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The funny thing about all these cultural differences is that with time, we end up fussing about the tiniest things… the way the house is decorated, unfamiliar types of entertainment, different understandings of extended family relationships, the celebration of unfamiliar holidays, differing views of romanticism… Well you know what you fussed about this morning. Like it or not, we all have and would need to face such assumptions in the event of an intercultural marriage.
Someone once said that “marrying someone from an underdeveloped country and then bringing that person to the States may be shocking! The prosperity of North America can be incomprehensible. Likewise, the lack of what others may view as essentials can be equally shocking.᾿ With our parents - who may have once rejected such a union - keeping a close watch over the relationship, what is one supposed to do? What will your priority be? Love or the way the clothes are being washed?
The lesson I learnt from my previous relationship is - Try knowing each other's culture! Know what both cultures value. Keep your pair of balls in check. That way you can reach a comprise. Forget about how the clothes were cleaned. Focus on the end result and respect your spouse’s weird holidays.
So what if the assumptions are based on religion? You tell me.
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