More unmarried interracial couples than married: Is shame the reason?
Much as 1 in 10 couples in America are married, it so happens that unmarried couples, gay or straight, are twice as likely as their married counterparts to be interracial… especially in the state of Florida.
So why are there more unmarried interracial couples than the married?
Looking at it, one reason could be because most unmarried couples tend to be much younger than the married couples. And as they say, the young people are more open to racial mixing and don’t really see it as a deal breaker in dating. But could it also be: most people don't care about who they are dating but when it boils down to commitment in marriage, race becomes a deal breaker hence end up settling with a spouse from their own race? Could it be because when dating, we tend to experiment with different people, personality and race, but come marriage we tend to be more conservative with our choices?
Well, one thing an Orlando psychotherapist, David Baker-Hargrove who is also in a same-sex interracial relationship says about interracial coupling is: "How well you navigate the world in which you move means you have to be able to own who you are and have no shame about it. Other people respond to that accordingly." And he and his partner seem have done so pretty well and "don't see a lot of issues that are inherent in race relations because [they] don't have any shame about who [they] are."
Well, his reasoning got me thinking... When navigating through racial lines, do some people feel shameful about making that choice? Looking at his statements, could shame be the reason why when it comes to marriage, most people end up picking their own? Is shame the reason for having twice as many unmarried interracial couples compared to the married ones?
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