Getting back to the real topic some black woman are hypocrites, when its comes to the obama issue; we all know that if he was married to a white woman a lot of black woman would not warm to him as they currently do; Although they would never state this publicly.Too many black woman on this site are not for interracial relationships for black men and woman but for black woman with white men only.The true people just say pure and simply that they are atrracted to white more than black. Short and sweet and to the point

—————————
1. Why shouldn’t Black women revel in the fact that POTUS is married to a bona fide Black woman? Is it wrong? Methinks not.

2. Umm, this is an inter-racial dating site. Why would Black women come here to just date Black men? There are other sites that cater to Blacks meeting each other. I don’t understand your logic on this one and perhaps maybe you can explain (if you still follow this blog).

When I first got here and became a paid member I included all ethnicities. Doing that would mean I wouldn’t mind a Black man hitting me up! But let’s face it, Black men are NOT ON this site to meet Black women specifically so why should we? It’s somewhat of an oxymoron to come to an interracial dating site looking for “you.” Now over time I have excluded them (this is fairly recent about a month or two ago). Prior to that I excluded White men. I want a man – a good one. BM did not bother. White men did and still do. Hispanic men do but their numbers are small here in my region. I have considered all.

I see no reason why someone would ACTUALLY PAY to come here to a site that caters to inter-racial relationships to find their own.

Like or Dislike: 3  0 (+3)

Thank you for that wonderful post. I am in awe of what we “see” in public as to the admiration and love of a Black man and woman. Particularly POTUS and FLOTUS. Now we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, no marriage is perfect but they bring a certain chemistry that the American Public can see that loving AA couples DO EXIST!

To your point about expectations on “our look” there are many products that stock the shelves of beauty shops and stores that are geared toward Bleaching of AA skin. I’m not quite sure why anyone would want to do this. For Black men, the hue of his skin doesn’t matter, nor does the kinkiness or “goodness” of it. I recall when AA’s used that awful term “good hair.” WTF is good hair? LOL.

I am black, want to look Black. I thought that was supposed to be the attraction actually. The fact that I don’t look Euro withstraight hair. Some of us have lineage that produces straighter hair. Some of us don’t. *Waving*

I’m with ya sister on that dictating on how I should look. No, nada, hell nawl, ain’t gonna happen. You do you – and I’ll do me!

Like or Dislike: 1  0 (+1)

Like or Dislike: 1  2 (-1)

Like or Dislike: 1  0 (+1)

Like or Dislike: 0  7 (-7)

Wow My fav peeps have yet again taken the words out of my mouth, godiva,world, and ichibod..”smile”<<beeming with pride. I agree that we as a whole have to realize that everyone is beautiful in their own right. I find it sad that hollywood has not still embraced dark skin on women. I am a brown sister who models and sometimes become frustrated when I go on shoots and they purposely cater to the white or the almost white models,while ethnic models like myself are treated like yesterday leftovers. What makes it even worse is the fact that the lighter models look down upon the darker ones. Not that I am complaining, because, I find it an honor that I can still procure jobs but sometimes I find it disheartening that the old stereotypes still stand today. I think that it is even sadder that the black community still continues to perpetuate the old stereotype that lighter is better. Irregardless of shade when you are black you are still considered and will be treated accordingly. So rather then further the divide we should love and appreciate all for the differences and similarities, because how can you love others of other races if you do not love your own skin? I think that anyone who bashes someone of their own race just to look favorable to another race has some deep rooted issues that they should address before interracialy dating. It is bad for them to have that toxic attitude even worse for them to have kids and pass it to them. So my overall thought is that we should not be like the people who have criticized us for our preferences. Also we need to stop sitting down and letting these people dictate to us who is acceptable as far as looks. I think we should make these companies as well as artists be responsible for the decisions that they make. We are the consumers of the products and we have a right to voice our opinion. lol so there is some food for thought.:-) Anyways, the bottom line is real change starts at home.

Well-loved. Like or Dislike: 7  0 (+7)

I love the way Godiva turned the phrase “GOD issued uniforms”! We are all sportin’ our God-issued uniforms. We may have preferences as to the exact nature of the “uniform” to which we are mainly or solely attracted, for God only knows what reason or other and that is what it is. It is when we start putting value judgments on “the other” uniforms that we cross the line. Let the “Uniform Maker” judge the work. For the rest of us, let’s just enjoy the banquet.

Well-loved. Like or Dislike: 8  0 (+8)

Like or Dislike: 0  7 (-7)

Julius, why would someone be afraid to publicly admit how they felt about IR relationships on here? It’s not like anyone knows anyone personally. I could care less what people think about me on here! Obama is a bi-racial man who fell in love and married a black woman. You act like that’s something bad. He LOVES Michelle. Would it have made you feel better if she were white? I don’t get it.

In the long run it doesn’t matter at all. People are going to do what they want (I know I certainly am!). I am one of those black women who has lived in California for more than 30 years and I swear on my beautiful bi-racial daughter that only ONE black man has ever asked me out and he turned out to be an alcoholic! lol All the others have been overwhelmingly white, some Hispanic and a couple of Asians. I don’t know why and I stopped trying to figure it out LONG ago. Every woman wants to feel
that she is beautiful and desireable. If black men can’t see my beauty, no problem.

Well-loved. Like or Dislike: 8  0 (+8)

Like or Dislike: 0  8 (-8)