Comments on: Man with comatose wife finds love online

By: fkoi

fkoi — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 15:58:58 +0000

Friendly1, it sounds like you did what you could do to keep your marriage alive and well as long as you could.

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By: Friendly1

Friendly1 — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 14:56:13 +0000

Alright….now let’s hear it from a MAN who is in similar situation.
Within 2 years of getting married, my wife, at age 28, developed Mutiple Sclerosis, which is a debilitating, neurological disease I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. It affects the nervous system in a way that renders one unable to walk or do simple things like feed and dress one’s self. It may lead to blindness. Well, she went from walking stick, to walker, to wheelchair.
We had a daughter, who is now almost 17 within a year of getting married.
For 14 years, I cooked, cleaned and took care of our daughter almost single-handedly. She stopped work within 2 years of her coming down with MS and went on permanent disability. I remained faithful to her during all the time we were together. For the two years she kept working I drove her to work every day, then went to work myself.
In the last four years before we separated our sex life began to suffer. so that by the last year, there was none.
She had, by now, become bitter of her situation and unappreciative of me. She said (believe it or not!)that I was not supportive of her! She also became an atheist. There was constant aguing and she would accuse me (falsely) of neglecting her. But through it all, I remained faithful.

I would like to know what you would do in my situation all you talkers?
A spouse who had become ill through no fault of their own but who had become embittered and didn’t care about God let alone me. What would you do?

Today we are separated and my daughter who is now almost 17 lives with me. (Her preference, not mine). i date whom I want, without any guilt, because I knew I had done the best I could according to the vows I made when i married. I realise that people change and when they do, they may change for the worse. It wasn’t the illness itself that broke the camel’s back. It was her bitchy attitude.
(And by the way we did get counselling)

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By: Jill

Jill — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 09:44:44 +0000

I am a disable women who was injuied about 10 years ago.
Before my injury I would have very little understanding
about relationship being disable. 1st it’s very hard. Most people fail to
understand or care to understand. 2ndly, this man is alive and well
When he took his vows he didn’t agree to “die with his partner.”
His wife is dead! But she lives among the living from man made
ast. Lastly, let this man live, love again, and have the union with a living
women.
Jill

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By: bardoville

bardoville — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 05:12:21 +0000

I think that’s a sad story…

12 years is a long time and the fact that he’s stayed with his wife that long in that state is only commendable…

But I do understand his looking for love elsewhere, and I’m trying to think what I would do if I were the one with the comatosed husband and was in love with someone else…

Firstly, the real love is for the wife since he’s still there after 12 years. No one can dispute that…

But why shouldn’t the other be real love too? Just because it’s online doesn’t mean to say that it’s not real…

It’s a horrible dilema, one which I don’t have an answer for; at least not one that would make everyone involved happy…

Were it I in that position… hmmmm…, I’d probably do the divorce since I would want my husband to move on if it were me in a coma for so many years…

I think that’s what I’d do. And I’d sit down and have a real heart-to-heart with the son.

However, I’d find it hard to not visit my comatosed spouse every now and again and I would expect my new spouse to understand fully…

My last word is that I think it unfair of the man’s online love to damand anything at all. 12 years of devotion should not be messed with…

She should leave him alone to make the decision that he will be able to live with WITHOUT her input…

That’s my thought on the matter…

Char

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By: MusLopil

MusLopil — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 04:42:37 +0000

What interesting article, but where took information?

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By: lalaland

lalaland — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 04:08:03 +0000

seems like there was a submission issue; the first part of the comment is suppose to read: “I consider this to be a hard case to analyze; I am 100% for “until death does us part”, but that I understood the fully functional partner…”

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By: lalaland

lalaland — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 04:01:14 +0000

understand the partner who is still fully functional. This being said I have a problem with him getting on the dating site if he was not planning on being serious; I place myself in the shoes of the lady whom he met on line. She was there to find a man and fall in love, which happened (note that if the man had not signed up for the site, she would have probably met someone else!). Now how is she to blame when she wants to consider her own future? Because there is no future for those two as long as one remains married. I think that the dad should discuss the matter with his son who is old enough to understand, and make a decision…I am thinking what if (miracles do happen), the sleeping lady happens to awake once the two got married; what then? I have an aunt who faces a similar situation; as far as I know she has never considered remarrying, her husband has been in a vegetative state since 1998 due to a car accident, and she has been personally taking care of him to this day.
It also seems to me that, remaining unmarried in such a case is easier for a woman then it is for a man; am I right?

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By: luvmybrownboy

luvmybrownboy — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 05:10:26 +0000

Yes! I love the one comment of “if you have to ask, I think you know the answer” . Definitely a mess. Hey this guy is MARRIED! some women are similarly wide awake yet, in “comas” you know? (men too) all in all, it adds up to an affair, and staticitics prove, almost always someone looses. Any way you look at it, it’s an escape! How does she know this guy is legit anyways? And if she’s a “hottie” , she should have better options. Anyone can BS online! These folks need to grow up!!!!

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By: sweetlayd

sweetlayd — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 14:09:49 +0000

I agree with u 2bfabu! right on!

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