Life is no walk on the beach. So why should dating be?
I was going on my normal business – looking for a topic to blog about. Then I got interested in this particular line: “Dating isn’t fair to men᾿. I really had to know why.
Well two reasons actually made me really feel that dating could actually be unfair to we men.
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1. Well, there are taller and shorter men. Women tend to prefer taller men. Is that fair? 2. We men love our playboy magazines and other kinds of magazines that show perfect and beautiful women with perfect bodies. However, very few women are playboy perfect hence it is impossible for every man to have a woman that is that beautiful. Is that fair? 3. Some men have their inner game together and some don’t. Those who do end up having sex with hundreds – even thousands – of women. And those that don’t, end up as virgins for the rest of their lives. 4. Sometimes a woman will respond positively to you, then come the next day she'll act all strange. We don’t understand women and it affects us in the dating arena.
But if you stop to think about it, every woman also wants to meet the perfect man. And do all of them get that? No they don’t. So dating isn’t only unfair to men … it just is unfair … period! You meet someone thinking they are the perfect match and you make them tick as they do you only to find them banging someone whom you think is beneath you.
But if you think about it, much as life and dating are unfair, this unfairness actually works to our advantage. We try to change for the better in order to correct this unfairness - turn the tables around in your favor. The unfairness drives us.
Life isn’t fair … why should dating be?
Do you really think dating favors women or is it just unfair in general? Any thoughts on how to turn this to one’s favor?
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spring08 says:Posted: 04 May 08I don't know if it is unfair for all men or not; but it is unfair for the men who are not conventionally charming. I personally don't waste time on the conventional dating and "asking out" stuff." I do have more than enough lady friends, and being a rational person I treat them the same way as I treat my guy friends; no special favor is given just because they are girls.
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free_eagle says:Posted: 16 Mar 08Sounds like a bad experience, I think this is not common and otherwise I would say this is lack of respect for others and their feelings, sorry for you, you get my compassion. On the other hand many people don't care ... this is a pitty, only you can stop this by asking whilest the first meet what the matter is, clear wuestions, so to speak.
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Proudldy says:Posted: 16 Mar 08You are right dating is not fair to men or women. However, I would like to put a question out there. Why do you meet someone for the first time (in my case a man) and everything seems to be going well, nice conversation and there seems to be some chemistry and then poof.........no follow up.......no phone call, email or anything? It is like you never met. If a person feels that things were not going to work out why not just say so? Why just disappear into night without so much as a word? I have been trying to understand to such actions. If someone can enlighten me, please do so
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free_eagle says:Posted: 06 Mar 08
Good question, but wrong margin, should be seen in a wider range: Life is not all the time a walk on the beach. So why should life be fair? Therefore the answer: Positive Vision Our thoughts and feelings can so easily be influenced by how we perceive others. If we make a firm choice to always keep a positive vision of those around us, then we will enjoy better relationships. Peace and light.
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