Just friends

Posted by James, 20 Nov 07

You have been dating this guy for a couple of months now. And according to you things are getting pretty serious… the sex is just great and you have introduced each other to friends and family members. And you have even exchanged the I Love You’s with each other.

So why is it that whenever he introduces you he tells people you are just friends?

Sometimes men and women interpret things differently especially where sex is involved. What you may interpret as getting serious could just friends with benefits in his world. Good friends do introduce each other to their parents and friends too. And the fact that a man said he loves you could be what friends tell each other. Friends do tell each other they love them too. What seems hot and committed could be just friendly and convenient to him.

Your perfect partner could be online right now...

What are you looking for?

But how is one supposed to handle such a situation because most of the time women fall for this. This woman in question has feelings for this “friend᾿. Should she play along and hope that he will start feeling the same for her or confront him with “Hey buddy? What’s the deally yo!᾿

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  1. Posted: 27 Jun 10

    Flawless reply once again, FKOI....lol Peace tatted2death

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  2.   friendly13 says:
    Posted: 27 Jun 10

    @ Fire321 You are so right about what you said. I think the fact that he introduces the woman as a friend is a good sign. There are many couples who claim to be more than friends but have no friendship. What I like to look at it as he is saying I like this woman because she is not a drama queen and a nag. To me he is letting me and whoever he is introducing me to that he has a positive relationship and wants to keep it that way. When he is ready to breakout the wedding rings he will. I wouldn't take this situation and alienate him by asking a bunch of nagging questions and turning the relationship into a negative pushy one. I think that friends is a good thing and not a bad thing. I would try to keep the positive flow rather than turn things negative.

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  3.   hotcougar says:
    Posted: 23 Mar 10

    Sometime the sex we have had together is just so good and we seem to get along so well we automatically think this is the real deal we assume we are BOTH in love and it could be.Perhaps a more subtle way would be to pull back just a little to see his reaction. If it is special you both will know.This saves both some embarrasment your friend/lover and you.

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  4.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 27 Feb 10

    I could introduce you as my girlfriend but you're not really a girl. I could introduce you as my woman but that sounds so primitive. I could introduce you as my lover but that gives away details of our personal that are no one's business but ours. I could introduce you as my (dramatic pause, big smile from the soul) "friend" but I learned the hard way not to do that. I guess if I introduce you as my love I'll get no argument there.

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  5.   Fire321 says:
    Posted: 04 May 09

    I know men and women view relationships differently but communication is key in any relationship. After dating for months, there should have been a discussion on how each is viewing/labeling the relationship. There's nothing worse than investing time on someone and you're not getting what you need from it. If he only sees you as a friend, don't convince yourself that it's more than that just because he spends time with you. The fact that he's not introducing you as more should be very clear. It bugs me when women are given clear signs and choose to ignore them.

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  6.   nicey89 says:
    Posted: 17 Jun 08

    Hmmm...it is certainly true when they say men are from mars and women are from venus. That's a hard place to be in...loving someone who does not love you back the same way. However, it's not just men, there are women who do the same thing. They may look at sex the same as intimacy, so they may feel that their "love" for their mate, just simply means "friends". My advice to you would be to address the issue. Even if the other person doesn't think its an issue. It's about communication. I've seen countless relationships destroyed due to the lack of communication. Everything good in life starts with a solid foundation. If you start a relationship with fears or doubts and never address those issues, how can you move forward? You can not. You have to always be honest, so if the person is not at the same place you are emotionally, let them go. You don't want to want someone that does not want you back. There is a big world out there and someone will find you and will be able to love you back with the same passion that you love them. So, be encouraged my sister...trouble don't last always, so keep your head up!

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  7.   hiimsteph says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 07

    Well I think it would be a good idea to pull him aside and ask why he introduces you as a friend especially if yall not seeing eye to eye cuz them maybe he'll tell you the explanation and if he doesnt want to change that then leave him alone.

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  8.   Virgo says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 07

    I never cared about who chose to date whom...unless the parties involved were vocal about why he/she is dating outside their race for a stupid reason. By that I mean...'I only date black, white, asian, etc because I don't like my own race'! Then, I have a problem with it!!!

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