My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn’t marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit…wince. I didn’t immediately understand it. My face read happy for you. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress. – Jill Scott; April issue, Essence Magazine
I know she was being honest about her feelings on ‘such’ coupling. She also says that her “positions is that for women of color” and that this wince isn’t racist… but “has solely to do with the African story in America”.
Much as she claims this to be the view of women of color, I expected better from her. Even if she had the guts to voice her honest opinion, I think people should keep such thoughts to themselves. They scream STONE AGE!. I am a woman of color … Jill Scott’s view isn’t my view. Is her position the position of women of color? In what century?
I was 6 months pregnant when my ex-husband and I were walking out of the hospital, I was discharged from being admitted because of excruciating pain.
My unborn son’s heart was skipping and we were told he may not survive. I remember asking the physician to induce labor because in my state of mind I thought he’d have a better chance of surviving.
The father of my child and the physicians refused. During the 6th months of our pregnancy I was hospitalized twice–for a total of 12 days.
As we were walking through the corridors of ENH Hospital @ the time, I remember a black man winced at me directly. I can not described how I felt about it because my mind was so occupied. But I remember.
No one ever dared to approach my x-husband about us.
But I do remember the white ladies following him, trying to entice him-it never worked. They just looked desperate. I never said a word to him about my observations. It didn’t matter.
The end of our marriage had nothing to do with winced eyes. So, one can winced ’till his or her facial expressions remains frowned permanently.
Our son is 4 years old and healthier than both of us.
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I am new to this site, my first week to be exact; and although I have dated out of race, its been over 25 years. I made the choice to explore other races of women, but my choice is not based on race at all. It’s based on wanting to love women from the spectrum that God has provided, and not just black women. Jill has a passionate love for black men and expresses that passion in her opinion and music. Racism my friends is taught to us to trick and divide us so don’t be fooled. “Love” is a gift from God and must be protected. Listen to a song that Jill wrote called “The Fact is…(I need you)” (http://shinkify.com/1kvq)and you’ll feel her passion. I don’t know Jill Scott, but I’ve listen to the love expressed for black men in her words…Please, please listen to her and you’ll agree she truly loves black men and holds no regret to any other race of woman.
Think about it logically; When your mother took your favorite toy to wash it you “winced”….
Godfather454 – “that’s my thoughts and I’m sticking to them”
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Not sure what spirit she’s referring to, but the Spirit of love never winces over the true course and foundation of love. This is not about idealism but rather, about speaking truth in the face of personal opinions and personal paradigms. If it’s love, then let it be.
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I myself feel like Jill Scott. I think everyone should stay in their own race. I can never forget how black men lost their lives for just looking at a white woman.Black people are always saying that they are pride to be black, but are they really. The black man will never have nothing, because the ones that are lucky enough to make it big with money the first thing they do is to get a white woman and then she divorce him and take all that money right back to the white race. Tiger woods for example,all the black people was so proud of him and he doesn’t even want to be black. Michael Jackson gave a white woman Elizabeth Taylor diamonds and she had all these things before he was born.When he adopted children he wanted white children. There are a lot of black children that he could have chose.He chose people like Brooke Sheilds,Lisa Marie Presley to be his friends he even married Lisa Marie Presley.Where was any black people in his life.When he was accused of child molestation it was only whites. The white people should have done his black behind just that way. OJ Simpson left his black wife and married a white nothing and eventually killed her, got away with it,and started another relationship with another white woman. He Knew the white people was after his butt. He got just what he deserved and they need to keep him locked up forever. I admire people like Denzel Washington, Samuel L. Jackson they are still with their black women no matter how big they got.All races come to the United States and stick together and they open up business and get wealth. The black man have been here since slavery and they have nothing to identify with because they back stab and do not stick together, and when they have been bless to fame or fortune they give all back to the white man. Don’t get me wrong I am not a white person hater, I feel like races should not mix. You don’t mix a rattlesnake with a cobra even though they are both snakes.You don’t mix a wren with a crow even though they are both birds. I want to say this also, I don’t care what a white woman looks like her white man call her beautiful, but black men call their woman b***hes and wh**Es.
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