It's all because of taboo?
Jacque Reid (above), who co-hosts the 'New York Live', lifestyle show on WNBC-TV News Channel 4 accepted a challenge presented by an online dating service that was geared to hook her up with available men in New York. She is one of the beautiful, educated, successful and single black woman in New York.
Reid set her record straight about this choice: "I’m not desperate to get married. I’m happy being single". She was very enthusiastic about the online match-up challenge saying "It will be fun — and I’ll get some dates."
But two days later, Reid changed her mind about it saying she was busy. But was 'being busy' her real reason?
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Much as Reid was earlier excited about being set-up, she changed her mind because of the dating service's name : InterracialDatingCentral.com. (Keyword: interracial)
So why would the word "interracial" make this beautiful, well-educated woman shy away from something she really wanted to do?
Its all because of taboo - the opposition from the black community about the idea of a woman of color dating men of other backgrounds. And a good example is the routine online savage of the black character Olivia Pope (played by Kerry Washington), on the ABC show 'Scandal', for having an acted affair with the show’s married, white president of the United States.
Christelyn Karazin, co-author of 'Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture and Creed', who also writes the blog 'Beyond Black & White' says: “People don’t understand. They think it’s no big deal, but it is.” Karazin was set to help Reid find new men from all races and doesn't understand why one needs to be "brave to date whomever the hell [they] want to."
Karazin, a black woman who has been married for more than 12 years to a white insurance executive, Michael, has also had her fair share of criticism (some of it hurled online) mostly from black men for 'marrying out'. She says: "Black men date or marry interracially at more than double the level women do. They are given a pass. They can date anyone they want to — black women, white women."
And for this reason, she doesn't believe that black women should be limited by race when looking for partners.
Do black women shy away from interracial dating sites because of taboo?
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