Comments on: Is marriage for white people?

By: bas44

bas44 — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 20:03:01 +0000

My husband walked out on me after 18 years of marriage. I struggled alot with his affairs and having to be response one in the marriage. But I believed in my vows. Being single now I believe in marriage more than ever! I married the wrong person. You have to discern, why do some marriages work and others don’t. Asking and finding out the right questions up front. How did that person treat past boyfriends and girlfriends? How do/did they treat their parents or other. Are they able to commit? etc.. Yes I feel that Afro-Americans have to work harder in this area, not to fall foolishly in love . But if we go back to the core values that God set in place, people like WONKA, ” THE BACHELOR FOR LIFE”. Wouldn’t get free milk. He would eventually have to marry the cow or go hungry. COMMITMENT

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By: wonka

wonka — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:40:31 +0000

I should write a book about this,NAH!…That’s OK!!.

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By: wonka

wonka — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:38:23 +0000

I don’t EVER plan on getting married,NEVER!!,Wonka
LOVES being a bachelor!!.Why? you may ask,well that’s for me to find out and you to know!(LoL!).

-WONKA”THE BACHELOR” (JUST THE WAY HE LIKES IT!!).

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By: wonka

wonka — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:32:14 +0000

OH PLEASE!!,GIVE ME A FREAKIN’ BREAK,WHO CARES?!.

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By: Smile4242

Smile4242 — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 23:17:10 +0000

The marriage rate for white people is declining as well. I suspect there are a lot of additional forces at work on a societal level. For example, with both parents working, the old sense of family where the woman stayed home and the man took care of the wife and children financially no longer applies. In the past most women married because if they did not, then no one would take care of them since they did not or could not work. Now, today, because both men and women can take care of themselves, there really is no need for universal marriage. It is a wonderful institution when it is based on love and commitment, but the economic incentives to get married are not there anymore. In the U.S., you even get taxed higher as a married couple. Also, as a single mom, you can get government assistance, but as a married mom, it is more difficult. Then add womens liberation where women are choosing to not get married, and add the fact that many of our youth come from broken homes and don’t know how a good marriage is supposed to work, and it is no wonder than many in the younger generation do not want to get married, do not want kids, and have no understanding of what family is. Why get married if 50% of marriages result in a divorce, frequently a bitter one that is damaging to the kids? Why marry if the economics do not support or require it? Why marry when there is no pressure from society to commit and stay in good times and bad?

The answer is marrying for love and commitment. But that seems to be missing as well, unfortunately. And, hence, the reason why more and more young people of all races are not getting married anymore.

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By: luvanurse

luvanurse — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:02:14 +0000

I was reading a blog online one day and the author of the blog stated he had lots of white friends who are married, but half the marriages are unhappy. He stated alot of white people stay married because of their kids or investments or whatever.I guess people have their reasons for doing whatever they do. I work with alot of white people and from my own experiences there are some happy marriages, but most are not good and there are some very unhappy people raising kids. How good could that be?

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By: ShidaMJB

ShidaMJB — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 23:56:43 +0000

Sure.

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By: brazil1.

brazil1. — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 21:37:40 +0000

I think white people get married more but i think the cheat while married. I think black people marry when they are tired of running around.

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By: calli40

calli40 — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 05:56:22 +0000

I agree with Barbeeee, I didn’t read all the comments and I almost didn’t read the post at all because this is such an emotionally charged subject for me. My parents are also still married through good times and bad. As black women we should expect more in the way of committment not to be confused with demanding, and I think it starts with truly respecting and valuing ourselves.

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By: fromchicago

fromchicago — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 22:20:56 +0000

interesting comments

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