Is it right to say Black men prefer interracial relationships?

Posted by James, 24 Dec 15

“None of our African-American men have any interest in marrying African-American women”.

That is a comment by one of the dating experts in a clip from the reality TV show, Married at First Sight. According to him, these black men have a preference for interracial relationships.

Are these claims supported by data?

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Dating and relationship expert Paul Carrick Brunson thinks not; calling the reality show “ignorant” and “disgusting” for spewing inaccurate information (that is not supported by data) in a bid to “get people talking, to demoralize us, and to be provocative." He thinks it was very irresponsible of the show to do so.

The resident psychologist of Married at First Sight, Dr. Joseph Cilona responded to Brunson on Facebook explaining that the comment wasn’t generalizing African-American men; but “in reference to African-American men in [their] applicant pool" saying: “There were no generalizations made to other populations or claims or implications that our experience on the show should be made to other populations”.

There have been claims of how Black men have no interest in Black women; how very many Black men would rather marry women outside their race. But according to Brunson, and going by the Pew Research findings in 2013 on interracial marriages, only 19% of African-Americans are in interracial marriages; meaning 81% are in black-black marriages. Also, there were 75% black-black weddings in 2013 alone.

Another thing that ticked Brunson off was, while highlighting the Black men’s preference in interracial relationships, he felt in a way, the show is encouraging the notion that Black women have a hard time finding life partners – the “single Black woman epidermic”. Much as these statistics talked about the non-marriageability of the Black woman (70.5% of black women between 25-29 years never having been married), they conveniently declined to say that 87% of Black women have been married by 55 years of age.

I think where this generalization comes up is when people start comparing Black men in interracial marriages to Black women in interracial relationships; and in this case, the difference is extremely significant. So most people have always capitalized on perpetuating fallacies about black relationships and marriages.

That said though, is the generalization that black men prefer interracial relationships and that black women are hopeless when it comes to their relationships something we should keep talking about? Looking at the facts highlighted by Brunson I think its time we started debating the facts. What say you?

14 responses to "Is it right to say Black men prefer interracial relationships?"

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  1.   dumelezi says:
    Posted: 26 Mar

    To me, I can say there is no black and white any more But we are one and the same..

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  2.   Mosiah7 says:
    Posted: 26 Jan

    I don't think it's right to say most black men prefer interracial relationships because about 90% of all black men who get married are married to black women. But I think that the media and racists (both black & white) tend to make more of a big deal about it when they see black men dating outside their race and try to spin it like we're turning our backs on our culture. There are actually more white men dating/marrying Asians than black men dating/marrying whites. Black men have come a long way in a very short time when it comes to interracial relationships and some people resent that. It wasn't too long ago in America's history where we were getting killed for swirling. Now I happen to be a black man who'd rather be in an interracial relationship but I don't totally exclude black women. But within my circle of black male friends, I'm the only one who prefers the chocolate/vanilla swirl. I will say this though: There is way more anger and tension between black men and women than in any other race and many of us are like crabs in a barrel trying to bring the other gender within our race down. That's part of what's gradually driving more of us into the arms of other races, though that's not the only thing. Individuals want who they want and there is nothing at all wrong with being attracted to another race.

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  3.   Briannayes says:
    Posted: 24 Jan

    Who cares if they do?

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  4.   Gypsy22015 says:
    Posted: 17 Jan

    It is okay. but broad statements should say "Some" men prefer interracial relationships and some black women do. I do. But I am happy for Kanye West because I believe he seriously love Kim K. I have seen a big DECENT, somewhat professional change in Kanye. Thank you Kim. You two have beautiful children. Best wishes for a long loving marriage.

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  5.   Notadream says:
    Posted: 04 Jan

    I believe people like what they like. Attitude, physical features, and other attributes play a part in what we would consider to be the ideal mate. Whatever works for you!

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  6.   nandyboy says:
    Posted: 30 Dec 15

    Yes it is! I'm also a black men n I prefer interracial relationship, there's much more respect when dating a different race n also good care that is why it good

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    • Mosiah7 says:
      Posted: 23 Jan

      Why vote down this brother for stating his opinion? I've read much worst comments in the topics "Why white men love the black woman" and "Is the White man the Black woman's ideal man?"

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      • Briannayes says:
        Posted: 24 Jan

        Yeah the difference is the white men in those posts weren't being condescending like this man was.

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        • Mosiah7 says:
          Posted: 26 Jan

          I didn't see anything condescending in his post. He could have used better grammar but all he did was give his opinion. As far as the white men in other posts are concerned, they weren't the ones saying many negative comments; it was mostly the black women doing that from what I read.

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    • Briannayes says:
      Posted: 24 Jan

      Agreed there is more respect because non black men are usually way more respectful then black men are. Just look at how successful our relationships are in comparison to yours?

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      • jimbrowski says:
        Posted: 29 Mar

        If your "relationships" are sooooo successful then why are/were you on this dating site???

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