Is it necessary to categorize interracial daters just to justify why they make that choice?
"A percentage of those people who embrace interracial dating do so out of vanity and not out of love." This I lifted from a post: "Harsh Reasons Some People Date Interracially"
As repulsive as it is, such comments no longer come as a surprise to me because people who are against interracial coupling never want to admit that most interracial couples exist simply because they are in love; such people just don’t see love as a good enough reason for an interracial couple to get married.
In the said article, showing off is listed as one of the reasons people date interracially. [Seriously, do people really think some of us date interracially because we want to have a sense of pride and ownership in being with someone from a particular race?] Well besides self hatred and ostracizing ourselves from the community, the other annoying assumption is that we date interracially because we want to "exploit the other person... use the other person's genes to create "more appealing," exotic children with lighter skin, lighter eyes, and finer hair." [For someone to come up with "exploiting someone's genes" - cuckoo!!! I mean, who thinks like that?]
Your perfect partner could be online right now...
What are you looking for?
Anyway, a similar article that covers interracial marriage comes up with categories of the type of people who marry interracially in a bid to answer the big ol' "WHY" question. And as you expected, nothing about love is mentioned there. Here they are:
The outcasts are those people who do not feel comfortable with their race because they don’t agree with the norms. They are often questioning why they have to do certain things, and are not happy because they don’t fit in with the social groups of their race. The outcast will usually find a culture within another race that appeals to their needs. This provides the outcasts with the opportunity to marry interracially and begin a family within a different racial context.
The rebels are those people who disagree with the basic values, beliefs, and politics of their race. For them marrying outside of their race is not only a form of a long-life commitment to another person, but it is also a long life commitment to a form of protest. They disagree with one or more aspects of their race and they don’t care what anyone around them might think if they marry outside of their race.
The maverick may be seen as the non-conformist. People in this group are usually independent. Although the people within their race usually accept them, they would rather not belong to the “in group.” For the majority of the time these people are sufficiently detached to the different aspects of their race that they are happier not belonging to it, much less belonging to the “in group.” Marrying interracially allows the maverick to feel freed of the pressures to join and conform to the values, beliefs, politics, etc. of a race that they do not accept.
The compensator is the person who is always looking for their “other half.” These are the people who feel incomplete by themselves, who do not want to be alone, and long for a loving relationship. This may not sound exclusively for people who marry interracially, but it is because this type of compensator is under the belief that they can only find what they need with a partner from a different race. The compensator attributes the deficiencies in their life to their race. Many times the compensator belongs to a broken family where neither of the parents is present, physically nor emotionally. The compensator is not negative about their own race they are just under the impression that someone from a different race can provide what they feel they are missing.
The adventurer is the person who is always daring to be different. Adventurers marry interracially because they need the excitement from those who are different to them. They are risking their life with a race that is unknown to them, they don’t want a predictable relationship instead they want a marriage that will stimulate their life and make them feel special. Many adventurers cross all boundaries: race, class, religion, age, etc. Each additional difference makes the marriage and their life more exciting.
The escapist is the person who marries outside of their race in order to improve the quality of their life. The escapist may be marrying a different race to move up the social or economic ladder, they marry for the benefits. The majority of interracial marriages include some type of trade off between the parties involved.
Unstables can be described by deviance. They marry outside of their race to defy authority. The authority they are usually trying to defy is their parents. Once they marry outside of their race the family will consider them to be abnormal and unstable people. Not many people marry under this type of circumstance, but it does happen.
Do you think you fall in any of the above categories? Luckily, the article says that these categories aren't conclusive so we might as well add: "Those who marry for love" to it. ;-)
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