Some people have cited the reason for Black women making most internet headlines about being the largest unmarried segment in the U.S. to be both Black and non-Black men (mostly White that is). Apparently, according to a number of studies on online dating, majority of these men approach non-Black women online more than they do Black women. These studies made Black women be ranked the least sought after women in the internet dating world.
But is this the real reason Black women are the most unmarried group?
They say most Black men on the internet and off the internet would rather be with a non-Black woman. They also say most white men are uninterested in dating Black women. So what are we left with? A few Black men, a few White men and most Hispanic men, Indian men, Asian men, Middle Eastern men – who according to one of these online dating surveys are more open to dating Black women than Black men are. Most accomplished Black women – especially those who are past their prime and still unmarried – believe marriage in not in the cards for them because of the scarcity in desirable black men. Is it that they don’t want to look at desirable men across their race? Does this mean this number of well accomplished men seems less desirable just because they are not Black? Why do these women limit themselves to Black men?
Correct me if I am wrong but it seems most Black women seem to want a “Black desirable man” as opposed to any desirable man. Some cite history as their reason. Even when a desirable non-Black man comes knocking, he gets dismissed without being given a chance in the name of: a non-Black man wont be well in tune with her Black issues or that it simply wont work. For some, its fear of being rejected by the non-Black dude’s family. Some just want black children; PERIOD!
Which makes me question whether the whole story is about Black women being less desirable or its more about what Black women desire. What do you think?