Is interracial dating the easier option?

Posted by James, 30 Mar 11

interracial dating easyWould you date interracially merely because you think its an easier option than dating within your race?

Dating and marriage have become difficult for everyone in America. And within the black community, some of the relationship issues are being blamed on interracial relationships.

For instance, while some black men choose to date interracially, people have had massive success with blowing the numbers out of proportion; making it look like black men can’t wait to get their hands on white women and that they would pick a white woman over a black woman any day. And because of this, some black women are dating out - dubbing it ... “A revolution” - with some making it their personal goal to encourage other black women to “cross over the fence”.

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I hate butting into people’s affairs… especially when it concerns interracial dating. But if you ask me, most people urging black women to date out are going about it the wrong way. Using a few black men’s weaknesses as a reason is wrong. Doing it as a form of retaliation against black men in interracial relationships is just low. Saying black women are being forced to date interracially?!!! FORCED? REALLY?

It seems dating in general has become more about race than about finding love and compatibility. Its become more about what race is easier to date than finding love and compatibility. What happened to a simple “be open to finding love in anyone regardless of race?”

If you ask me, dating interracially simply because you have run out of options is settling. Every human being comes with baggage – despite race. So if you are dating outside your race because you are being “forced to”, then you are only lying to yourself. If you are dating outside your race purposely because you think it will guarantee marital success… think again! Every good relationship requires some actual work on both parties.

To save yourself some major disappointment along the way, date interracially because that is where you have found love. Not because you think it’s an easier option... or is it now?

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  1.   shydude74 says:
    Posted: 05 May 12

    yes it is

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  2.   SugahRush says:
    Posted: 03 Jul 11

    Easier than W H A T? I mean. If you want to work at a relationship, you will. If you want to be loved, you will be lovable. Want friends? Be friendly. If you want to be approached, you'll be approachable. And if you want love...you'll make it. Race or Inter-Race really has nothing to do with it. Like your high school counselor said, "You can do this-- Just Apply Yourself. <3 the Sugah

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  3.   Gella55 says:
    Posted: 01 Jun 11

    Dating inside or outside your race , if the Fellow is no good skin matter none i have date both , and in the end both turn out to be no good , when i was pregnant for the Jewish guy who i was with for 11 yrs he make one remark that tore my heart in two , Hon he said, I dont want a ZEBRA baby , I left without a goodbye when my baby born she had everything for him , he went to Japan got a wife and try to have a baby with the new wife , fail in devorce went back for another , fail , 2yrs later he found out that I did not abort my baby , when he heard that the baby look more like him brown hair green eyes he took me to court for share custody , never got it though , my first husband from first my native country he is black , but he was disloyal , but i dont use that experience as all men is the same , I still think good men still out there ,hope i GET LUCKY black or white will be fine

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  4.   jjustme says:
    Posted: 24 May 11

    Dating outside your race is definitely not easy ie in the South, but it is worth it if you can find someone you love, share interests, and lifestyle. I don't see dating outside your race as giving up on men of your race, but expanding the number of men you will date and therefore increasing the chance of finding a mate.

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  5. Posted: 14 May 11

    I love interracial dating!! It's about who you are and not what your skin color looks like.

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  6.   ToeKnee says:
    Posted: 12 May 11

    Give me a reason to stay loyal, materialistics make my heat boil, segregation is it not going on, I say intergrate till all races are just mixed -all be together as-one!

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  7.   pun1972 says:
    Posted: 28 Apr 11

    i do ok on dating . but im not geting much lov on this web site.whats realy going on my black queen. wer r u

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  8.   tps says:
    Posted: 21 Apr 11

    I think dating interracial is harder, different cultural back ground can be a major problem i a relationship, but am just attracted to white men.(that's just me. )

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  9. Posted: 15 Apr 11

    Hmm...as a black woman, I think I have more chances of dating and marriage the more open-minded that I am, which includes considering men outside my race.

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  10.   mishymau says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 11

    I really want a white guy. But i seem not to meet any. What should i do?

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  11.   mishymau says:
    Posted: 12 Apr 11

    I think Love is what makes it easy. If you dont love someone then there is no connection.

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  12.   1moretry03 says:
    Posted: 10 Apr 11

    To say that black men who are dating outside their race is low is NOT true. I live in Colorado and all I see (95%) of time is black men with white or hispanic women. They have kids with them and or either married or dating them. I am an attractive successful black woman and the black men don't even take a first or second look at me. It is very discouraging. I do agree that whoever you fall in love with regardless or race etc is just fine. What I think is a sad tragedy is black men who purposely only date white/hispanic woman because they feel black women have attitudes and are too strong...that is what I hear a lot of black men say. It is not that black women are being forced to date white men or any other men besides black men, it is because we are not going to sit around and wait for the rest of our lives hoping a black man will see our worth and value. I know I don't want to be 70 years old and alone so consequently I have only dated white men since moving to Colorado. That is the only option out here....what is a black woman suppose to do because the decent black men do not want us! And no it is not settling....it is thinking realistically and it some good looking respectful white men here who truly appreciates a strong black woman so it's a win win situation. It is what it is!

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    • pmich says:
      Posted: 08 May 11

      1moretry03: I don't know what your definition of a decent man is but, If a man shuns any particular race of women and just only by race is NOT a decent man, contrary to your statement, "Decent men do not want us".

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  13.   MrForReal says:
    Posted: 09 Apr 11

    It's amusing and sad at the same time that in this modern age, there are still people who insist that race should be considered when dating. Race has absolutely no place on the list of things that make up a relationship of true love and devotion. If race is ever a consideration, then that would suggest that one race is better than another, and this is not now, nor has it ever been true... that fact has been scientifically proven. It's ok to be proud of one's ethnicity, but being a proud member of the HUMAN race trumps everything else hands down! The absolute undeniable truth is that only if a man or woman decides to date outside of the HUMAN race, should race be an issue.

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  14. Posted: 06 Apr 11

    No!!!! This society trys to tell us (black woman) that we are on the bottom and we should stay in our place. Whatever place that is! I date whomever I feel like and I have received much flack because of it.

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  15.   zetha says:
    Posted: 03 Apr 11

    i don't understand, is it only when black and white date thats interracial? what about asian and white dating?

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  16.   justsaying says:
    Posted: 02 Apr 11

    I don't see how dating anyone can be easy, unless the two parties share common interest, and have similar lifestyles. I hear a lot of black women say "well black men are doing it," and that should never be a reason to date someone of a different ethnicity(you date someone because you genuinely like them). Every black women has her own reasons for dating white men and etc., and that her business. The author seems not to understand that the marriage/dating rates between black men and non-black women is really high, and there is nothing wrong with that at all, People go after who they are attracted to. When the author of this blog quoted," making it look like black men cant wait to get their hands on white women and that they would pick a white woman over a black woman any day. " He is making it into a big racial issue,because if a black man prefers white women that is his preference and choice and there is nothing wrong with that, it has nothing to do with choosing one over the other. Black men & black woman don't own each other, and can do as they wish.

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  17.   CremeU says:
    Posted: 01 Apr 11

    Its not an easy option thats for sure. But I don't think its wrong to want to try dating out if you have failed miserably dating your own. Some might say Black women are trying to find the easiest way out by dating out instead of trying to work on their issues with black men. How long is a woman meant to do this. Its not an easier option per se. Its normal to want to test another brand when the brand you have has failed you. This is what being open to finding love wherever is all about.

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