Interracial relationships - White women vs. White men

Posted by James, 28 Jul

Looking at Whites in interracial relationships, why do you think there are 10 times more White women dating men of other races than White men dating other races of women?

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Is it just a coincidence, personality and has nothing to do with color?

Do men of other races see white women as the most beautiful women and therefore have all races chasing after them; or vice versa in the case of White men?

Are White women more open-minded about interracial dating than White men?

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  1. Posted: 04 Aug 08

    Junglefeva I wanted to reply to your post, apparently you don't remember writing your ridiculous statements about black Americans "WEll as an a TRUE AFRICAN woman we are raised very differently with good morals , we are not raised GHETTO that is why most african women that end up with with african american men’s marriages don’t last, I for one I am a typical example….when a white man loves you he will let the whole world see that YES indeed he loves you and will not treat a black woman like dirt so yes they treat us with respect than the brotha will do….he calls you his ebony, chocolate etc….etc he won’t just kiss you when you are in bed or at home he does it anytime and anywhere..I am a “true AFRICAN QUEEN᾿ That was all from the post you put up on July 30th so everything I said to your hateful, uneducated, and repulsive a** was completely warranted. I try to come from a place of love and peace but when you make comments attacking my love of myself and my family it takes me out of my spirit. 1. From comments I was stating fact and no matter the circumstance of how we got here "True African Queen". It doesn't take away from the fact that there are far more black women in Africa as single parents then there are here. And there are 42 million people with AIDS in this world and the majority are in Africa. You have places like Ghana where 50 percent of the fricking population is afflicted with the disease. 2. I never once said that Africa was the way it was shown on television, the whole point of this blog is to expose the media's misinformed dipiction of black women you genius. 3. Nothing in my comments have ever been hateful, I love all women and to say I hate black women is an absolute farce. I am from black women, I was raised and loved by amazing black women and when you make comments you sound like you are attacking my upbringing without any information. I am sorry for what ever happened to you in the past, I truly am but stop generalizing. Not ever black man hurt you, just because you were either rejected or treated badly by a handful of guys does not make us all the same. If you think because a man is white and attracted to you that he appreciates you then you have a lot of growing up to do. That goes for any woman reading this thinking that a white man will be her salvation. Every man can agree with me and say that we are all capable of being a jerk to any woman I don't care what the race is. If you find yourself loving and worshiping someone solely based on race and not action you are a far worst racist and you are helping to perpetuate the same ill will that you are so against. And I know for some of you boys and girls what I say is over your head but I'll say it again READ A F***ING BOOK. Especially Junglefeva. To redsonja we as people all do that kind of thing where we try different things I don't think white men trying out the black experience should be faulted because I know plenty of people do that when dating something outside of their comfort zone, they are just trying something new besides once again I don't see why that should make you upset. SmthCaramel thanks for taking the time to read what I said brother.

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  2.   smthcaramel says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    I wasnt going to post a comment as well, but the more I read, the harder it became not to. I have dated all races, and the one common thread that I found is that, no matter the race, religion or part of the world that they come from, all people have a fault or faults. It doesn't matter the race. My God, when we get over it already. Understand this, when you go to your bedroom at nite and turn off the lights, guess what you don't see any color you bunch of self satisfying, horn blowing idiots, as seancarter03 said, pick up a f_ _king book. When will we ever learn that race doesn't make the person, the choices that they make do! DMTK you hit the nail on the head, the bible says nothing about color, some of us claim to be soo religious, but they're the main ones keeping racism alive. If you're not comfortable in your own skin, you best believe you are going to find everything and anything possible to make everyone else miserable, just pick up a book, starting with the bible, get a life and get over it. PS DMTK, I dont know where you are, but with the open mind, personality and looks you have, notice that the looks are the last thing on my mind, I would love to locate and have an opportunity to get to know you.

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  3.   redsonya says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    I think that for a long time its been more socially acceptable for white women to date black men. I'm in my late 20's and I've often felt like the media portrays black women to be something a little less than desirable. I also must mentioned that as a society we've had unfair sterotypes on black women. Therefore we've and limited ourselves to s dying breed. On the other had I've dated white guys who were just looking for the black experience and that in itself,pisses me off.

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  4.   noirbeauty says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    Personally what I find a problem is that white men in their forties don't seem to be serious about dating women of color. The ones in their 30's and late 50's and 60's seem more serious. Just my luck! I prefer men in their 40's....lol....as I said, it's been "my" experience.... But I think each situation is different.

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  5.   cajuncreole says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    mochabunny and the others I agree. No more bashing.

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  6.   junglefeva says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    Listen seancarter30 first of all before you start dissing me about african being poor and dying of aids, hiv blaaaablaaaa, you must be thankful to your stars that history brought you this far for being an "african" american ok...what you see on tv is not what africa is like, you see villages and then that makes you think the whole of africa is like that, stop being ignorant ok, you are an african too, and if your fore fathers had not ended up here, you would not be here and might have been one of those people on tv....so stop talking all this rubbish... have you watch the models on tv lately most of these beautiful dark and chocolate skinned girls are africans and they are really making it in that industry now...if most africans had the opportunities that people have here (usa) there would nothing like what you see on tv happening....I am very sadden about how you and eddiebarzure talk so badly about Black women forgetting you were given birth to by one, so is that how much you disregard all women including your mom or sisters,grandmother???? There are very good african- american women out there just as there are very good african-american men out there, so if anyone of them chooses to date outside their own race and find comfort hey.....as the saying goes "Love has not limits" let everyone follow their hearts and not just the color of one's skin, we are not here to chastize each other we are here to share opinions that's just about it cos we all learn from each other, I learned from some comments you made and I appreciate it, I just do not like the fact that you said all those things about Africa ok......Lilyroses57,Cajuncreole,Mochabunny you all rock.....thanks for the comments....PEACE!!!

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  7.   junglefeva says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    Listen seancarter30 first of all before you start dissing me about african being poor and dying of aids, hiv blaaaablaaaa, you must be thankful to your stars that history brought you this far for being an "african" american ok...what you see on tv is not what africa is like, you see villages and then that makes you think the whole of africa is like that, stop being ignorant ok, you are an african too, and if your fore fathers had not ended up here, you would not be here and might have been one of those people on tv....so stop talking all this rubbish... have you watch the models on tv lately most of these beautiful dark and chocolate skinned girls are africans and they are really making it in that industry now...if most africans had the opportunities that people have here (usa) there would nothing like what you see on tv happening....I am very sadden about how you and eddiebarzure talk so badly about Black women forgetting you were given birth to by one, so is that how much you disregard all women including your mom or sisters?? There are very good african- american women out there just as there are very good african-american men out there, so if anyone of them chooses to date outside their own race and find comfort hey.....as the saying goes "Love has not limits" let everyone follow their hearts and not just the color of one's skin, we are not here to chastize each other we are here to share opinions that's just about it cos we all learn from each other, I learned from some comments you made and I appreciate it, I just do not like the fact that you said all those things about Africa ok......Lilyroses57,Cajuncreole,Mochabunny you all rock.....thanks for the comments....PEACE!!!

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  8.   Mochabunny says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    I absolutely detest when African-American men have to bash and categorize African-American women as a whole to defend his right to date outside his race. I am quite sure everyone hates to be generalized and stereo-typed. I know I do. I think it is horrid and absolutely degrading to take that route. Every race has their class of "undesirables". By this I mean traits that people may not want in their partner. This is not just contained to African-American women. We are a beautiful, class of women. Do not try and make it seem that we are inadequate as women in anyway. I was raised with high moral standards, class, dignity, integrity, self-love and self-respect. There are so many wonderful Black women such as myself. I feel that whomever you love and care for should be a personal reflection of self. Not based on anyone else's opinion(etc...media,outside pressure,race). I can only agree whole-heartedly with the other posts where they are saying, "Do You". I personally believe in "handling yours" and enjoying your life, and when the right man/woman comes along love them unconditionally regardless of race. That's my two cents!!! Much love...

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  9. Posted: 03 Aug 08

    CajunCreole I think there is a lot of truth to your theory never gave it much thought until you just said that. Because even I a guy who has been in love with and have been loved by white women make certain jokes with my black friends that I wouldnt make with my white mate and its not because I'm afraid of being thought of as a racist but I feel like its more polite. Wow good question.

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  10.   cajuncreole says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    In resonse to rjprat; he said he would date his own race if the right woman came but that he had never been given the respect he had gotten when he dated outside his race. (Black) Some white woman feel they are more looked down on by white men than by other races, especially the older ones. (Younger men are more used to women working and in professions and all that.) Don't you think it's possible that people are a little more polite to each other when they date outside their race? It's kind of like visiting another country where you try to be a more courteous guest than you are at home. I have an untested pet theory that people of the same race tend to critisize each other more than people of different races - maybe because they remind each other more of people in their own family. Does anybody feel that? (Of course once that person becomes your family the politeness often starts to die). What do you think?

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  11.   Cajuncreole says:
    Posted: 03 Aug 08

    I just wanna' say that as a very white looking woman when I go to a mostly black club, black women are even more friendly to me than black men even though men do hit on me so this whole thing about black women hating on white women who date black men is sometimes way over exagerated. Black women as a whole are some of the most beautiful, confidant, tolerant people in the world despite being "crazy ass sisters." I'm stereo typing I know but I truly admire most black women because they have back bone in a sometimes sick world. And why do so many white women date black men? For all the reasons stated maybe but also think of the history of racism and sexism in the US. Originally only white men voted; then black men,then white women and black women. In terms of oportunity white men got the most followed almost equally by white women and black men (black men got violently lynched till recent history but white women got burned at the stake in Salem - and banned from most professions till the 70s.). Black women were treated the worst of all (at least in many ways.) So the power balance between a black man and a white woman is in some ways "almost equal:" white women get certain advantages because they are white; black men get certain advantages because they are men. All this is changing but historically it was the trend. Now black women are excelling in businesses, and career positons and starting to rise above both black men and white women, education-wise and even pay-wise because they've had to be tougher, smarter, maybe much harder working just to survive. Also black men are discriminated against in a lot of jobs today that women seem to be doing more easily I hear. But back to dating. Historically the power balance between white men and black women was much further apart than it was between black men and white men. White men could rape black women in the days of slavery without facing any consequences, and this trend of unequal power still has overtones today. So it's not just the sicko media advertizing white women, though that exists. (It exists but it's slowly changing... Hey Robert Deniro, the coolest white guy in film prefers black women as do many others.) But it still annoys even me that they gave an oscar to someone like Halle Berry (a great actress) but not to Lynn Whitfield or Angela Basset who have been acting much longer. Is it because Halle has slightly white traits and fits in more in Hollywood? Even as a white woman I find this kind of irksome that other such accomplished actresses were somewhat ignored. But I know one thing, after seeing Michelle Obama and many other more political black women (Barbara Jordon, Shirly Chislom) I bet the first woman to be president will be a black woman, against all odds, because it is black women who have survived incredible odds who have become tough enough, confident enough and bold enough in the face of critism. White women like myself may have struggled but have been comparatively pampered and weakened by priviledges we were born into; even extremely poor white women still reap some benefits by virtue of being white in a mostly white society. This trend will probably disappear as the races mix and snow whites are no longer the majority. In the meantime, let's all have fun and enyoy each other for who we are, with all our strengths and weaknesses. People can't help what they are born into, only what their attitude is. So all you crazy sisters "with attitude" much love and respect, no matter what the media says.

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  12.   67madingo says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    I don't believe that's true,they are more attracted to asians and latinas. By the way what do you call a child by asian and white? are they asians because they're not all white? like it is in the case of black and white

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  13.   Dire-Wolf says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Funny, I was never into black women until I started working in a job that had a lot of them. Now, I can't get enough! Now, when I check women out, I notice myself looking more for that gorgeous darker skin!

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  14.   jonesgirl54 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Not agreeing with eddiebarzune, my views on the matter is we all have the same blood no matter what color we are. Me, I look at the person heart and not the apperance, I look at the soul , the personality. True, there are a lot of our black men incarcrerated, but then again there are a lot of them that are not....there also are a lot of black women in the getto and then again there are a lot of us that are not...All black females are not,like you said--being so “Bout it Bout it. A black woman personality normally reflect the surrounding and the morals...No two women no matter what color she is have the same outlook on life or personality.. I have dated a black man, a white man , a native man, a spanish man and italian man and i saw no different in the man only the color of him, they are all men...........So take it from me All men have different personalities..........................Each and every human being are different, there are no two alike, not even if they are identical...............

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  15. Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Absolutely! No question in my mind.

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  16.   lilyroses57 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Okay,since sweetthang08 said she is open-minded, I have one question. Would you let a black woman date and marry your son? That is what most people don't know and what I have heard right from the horses lips. That is a big no no for pure white sons to date outside their race. They have to break away.

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  17. Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Speaking only for myself, I like men...period. I am attracted to a personality and appealing disposition first. I will add that I am more physically attracted to a tall, muscular, black man but that is certainly my own personal preference. I also agree with many of the previous posters that white women seem to be the most open-minded when it comes to dating outside of their own race. We are care-takers and are accepting of not only different races but a variety of other differences. I think it is because we are more exposed to all these differences both as children and as adults with our own children and because of our "care-taking" tendencies we are more open-minded. Now don't anyone yell at me because you disagree....I'm not saying that black women aren't all of the above (certainly excellent care-takers) but you must agree that white women are exposed to a wider variety of different people and cultures, for the most part.

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  18.   Mo says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    great comment patrick

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  19. Posted: 02 Aug 08

    The biggest thing is to remember is that all African American Men and Women have problems because of our history and the way we we`re ans sometime still ARE treated,the 1st step to healing ourselves is to admit we have problems and to open round table discussions to see what can be done to save our furture generation cause it`s beginning to look bleak for blackmen who are inprisoned and victums of violent crimes at an alarming rate.So the biggest issue is all of our images in the mirrior...What are you gonna Do? Im gonna go to work to get money until the earth blows up.

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  20. Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Here we go again,all I ever here is "All the Blackmen do take care of their kids"But, statistically spreaking and this is true(do your research) the majority of women who are forced to pay child support are the biggest deadbeats in this country.They feel "Im a woman and I should`nt have to pay child support" Really, what they should be say is" Im a disgusting Pig who had the nex mans child so I could get free money and not use it properly for the child but on my new babys daddy" (not to meantion a bigger tax refund) It`s a shame how blackwomen play the blame game instead of being real. As the comic Katt Williams said "Its not to say Black Men ant @!$%! it`s the fact that you an`t S#@%$ cause your the one who picked em in the first place!! I never ever seen a blackwomen kidnapped in the hood and forced to procreate with a "So called loser".Get a grip blackwomen and make better choices on who you lay it down with.Stop watching "The B.rain E.rraticator T.elevision..causeing reenforcement of stereotypes and make it look really cool to portray yourself as ignorant, "PICK UP A BOOK"..as the ol sayin goes" "If you wanna hide money in the hood? Hide it in a book cause "Blacks Dont READ!!!!!! An this comes from a blackman who does..All you real heads stay focused and that message is universal for all tones and nationalitys!!,-)

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  21.   lilyroses57 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    Sorry typing really fast sorry for any misspelled words or typos.

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  22.   lilyroses57 says:
    Posted: 02 Aug 08

    This issue about a black man being beat for dating a white woman should be old. We see that combination all the time. I am not sure if that is as true story or not. I have seen a lot of incidents the opposite way with black women that date outside their race. It seems any race of man she is called out of her name and branded a traitor. Unfortunately black women are still looked at like property. She is not looked at as a woman. The nasty comments written on this site all the time by people that she happens to birth into the world is saddens me. Being from England and being only half black makes you look at things in a totally different light. I am able to look at the whole house and not just one room. Who started such a silly conversation anyway. Another forum for black men to talk about black women and why they dislike them so they hope no one will date them so they can be used as the races' baby making machine as the man goes out and plays with ever race all over the globe. Shame it is that way. One thing people must realise is the black male had a role of doing that in slavery and the black woman was made to be the head of the household. It is still like that today. It is sad to say that slavery actually made them grow in 2 separate directions which made them 2 different races. The black man race and the black women race is what happened. The jealous and hatred rooted itself long ago and probably won't die until we get out of childish comments and not look at the fact the man should always be responsible for his offspring no matter what colour the woman is and what she looks like because ...you slept with her so all this you should have been aware of in the beginning. Every interracial dating site I have been on so far their are black men talking bad about black women. It almost seems like they are following the black woman trying to stop her from living. Trying to put out she is a bad woman like he has married all black women around the globe. It is so bad it makes you think ...did he hatch from an egg or grow up out in a field like some plant. The woman above only said that men didn't take care of there kids...I have so many black women friends like that...it is sad. They are not mean or ignorant. They are nice beautiful women and they got dumped on by a slick talker. They start out nice and the guy ended up playing the field on them. Every races does have those but the black race has to many. This site even changed it's picture. It use to have various pictures including black women with other mixtures of people. Now it only has a black man and another race of woman. Visual is everything and everyone should be accepted on this website not just one. Stop running this stupid racial stuff on here also. I thought this was a place to meet people, not deal with someones issues. We have had this black man-white woman topic several times. It is done to death.

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  23.   cheygirl6 says:
    Posted: 01 Aug 08

    ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ NEXT!!!

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  24. Posted: 01 Aug 08

    very true my friend

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  25.   dockvm says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    I understand what you're saying. It's an individual thing, not a collective group. The people making those assumption is wrong. People do illegal or wrong thing in life, it's not based on race. I'm doing what makes me happy, sometimes it's not the easiest thing to do, that's why you have to be strong willed while doing it!

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  26. Posted: 31 Jul 08

    I agree with you dockvm that we all have different backgrounds and people who discriminate based on uncontrollable circumstances are ignorant but the point I was making is that the race debate is getting old and not to throw in your face but you are what this country would consider white and you don't have to see things from the "black" perspective which is a lot more arduous more because of institutional influences more so than individual ones. We have all had to hear about race since we were children but for us race is the thing that holds us back most, we as black people have more hurdles because of it. When one of us does something messed up its like we all take the blame and then the constant debates about it just gets very tiresome. Whatever our hang ups about the issue its all irrelevant people are people period the end. And I want to clarify that I was not attacking you as a "white" man but when comes to dating and other situations in life the "white" road is an easier one. I've read a lot about how media makes it more acceptable for black men to date white women but last time I checked I have yet to hear of a white guy being chased down and beaten for looking at, whistling at, or God forbid dating a black woman. I think every couple has its problems but in my own personal experience I have gotten death threats, I even had a friend, who was white, who got beaten with baseball bats because he was hanging with me and I was dating a white girl. And this was in suburban New York not the south. My main point is we should all do what makes us happy and live and let live because last time I check what I eat don't make you s**t.

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  27.   dockvm says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    Oh, to seancarter03, you said it best when you said everybody needs to get over it! Everybody is different! Everybody comes from different backgrounds, everybody chooses their own beliefs! How can someone discriminate against someone else? People that discriminate are truly ignorant. If everybody was the same, this world would be a boring place! Thanks seancarter03!

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  28.   dockvm says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    I personally see black women as more attractive than any other race. The color is their skin is the most attractive to me. Coming from the south, where traditionally, it is unacceptable to date outside your own race. I don't see how somebody can discriminate against somebody else, especially over something someone does not have control over. I do believe the media does play a huge part in this topic. I have several friends, of all races, all they are all different, even within their own race. I believe it's personal preference and that's the only thing that truly matters!

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  29.   MsNiceSmile says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    I think everyone in some way has made a valid point. As a young black woman, I would agree with that it has a lot to do with both media and community. Media-wise, you do see more of the black man/white woman. So I think by seeing that, it has become more acceptable in a sense. You don't see a lot of white man/black woman. Actually, the first time I saw a white man/black woman relationship in the American media was in Something New (that white guy was so hot!! Anyway) Also, community-wise I don't think it has become as normal or acceptable for a white man to date a black woman yet. I mean I have personally witnessed some of the backlash a few white men have received when they have shown the slightest bit of interest in a black woman...from there parents and even peers of the same age. But on the same token, it's up to them to man up and date who makes them happy and damned be the consequences. I think the example has been set for white women to stand up for the choice to date interracially. White men...not so much! But this is just my humble opinion! With all this being said you have to DO YOU and make yourself happy....There are too many others out there that are going to try to hold you back.

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  30.   robbiedad says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    i think we should all date who we want to and not worry about societal views the most important thing is to love yourself first only then can you really love someone else

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  31.   DMTK says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    I was not going to respond to this, but after reading many postings on this subject, I felt compelled. WE as people who have choices, a conscience and a heart do what WE feel is important to us. Nowhere in the bible does it say that love has a color and certainly in my world, color makes the world a beautiful place to live. People who are not comfortable in their own skin keep racisim alive and make interracial relationships look un-natural. I love black men and they are who I CHOOSE to date and I don't give a sh*# what people say! Screw society, hollywood and books that discriminate against what we feel is natural. Who's life is it anyway? If someone wants to pay my bills and step into my shoes THEN they can have a say so, until then, love who you are, what you have become and SHINE! The world will become your worst enemy if you let it.

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  32.   sensual777 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    we forget that we are reproductive beings, we choose a partner which has in our opinion the best genes. I think it has to do with that instead cultural influences.

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  33.   rjpratt says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    seancarter03<---- Amen!!! You said it better than I could've!!!

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  34. Posted: 30 Jul 08

    P.S. FOR CHRIST SAKES PEOPLE PICK UP A F***ING BOOK, PEOPLE CAN NOT BE THIS UNEDUCATED. ITS UPSETTING TO SEE SO MANY PEOPLE WITH AN INTERNET CONNECTION BUT NO EDUCATION. A LOT OF THESE UNSUPPORTED GENERALIZATION GET UNDER MY SKIN. I AM DEFINITELY NOT TALKING TO EVERYONE BUT WHEN I RE-READ SOME OF THESE POSTS ITS CLEAR THAT WE ALL NEED TO EDUCATE OURSELVES AND STOP SPECULATING, ITS GETTING US NO WHERE. JUST BE HAPPY F*** EVERYONE ELSE

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  35. Posted: 30 Jul 08

    I really liked what Ms Meme said about being happy with your own life and own choices, I don't know why we as people have this never ending need to impose our own beliefs on others especially when what they are doing has absolutely nothing to do with us. Its crazy that in this country is a lot more acceptable to be a same sex couple but people still flip out about interracial couples. We're just people, not black, not white, or any other label want to come up with. Junglefeva that comment about you being a true African was irrelevant, didn't need to be said. Your comment makes it seem that you are a representation of all Africans and I know you're not and the comment you made about black men in this country not taking care of their children is an unsupported misnomer. Being "black" and a male does not equal bad parent or absentee parent, maybe being poor and lacking resources has more to do with. Oh and by the way Africa has more single mothers than other place in the world due to Aids, look it up on either the United Nations website or National Geographic website. Eddiebarzune I definitely take issue with what you said about black women being ghetto and bout it, I don't know how educated you are but you have had to meet black women who aren't that way. If you are basing your opinion on experiences from your youth, remember you were young and when we are young women are attracted to the bad boy type and in "our" race that translates into thugs and dudes who are bout it and a lot of these young girls get caught up with their first loves and tend to follow that trend into adulthood. But grown women black or white don't want a guy who is constantly be a problem. They want a MAN period. Someone who will take care of home and family, we all need to stop with the race stuff it's getting really over played. I am personally bored with all of this, we have much bigger problems in this world and focusing on such an insignificant thing such as skin tone or religion or ethnicity is down right ridiculous. We all need to grow up. We all like what we like and those of us who have a problem with that need to get over it, no amount of complaining will change anyone's. Like someone else said I'm just gonna do me THE END

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  36.   rjpratt says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    After reading what you all have said, the answer is really all of the above joined in one... Its not just one set answer... why someone date outside of their race has to do with the media (yes) but, also who makes them happy, who they find more attractive, get along better with and treats us better. Yes we are all the same within our skins but how we carry ourselves is what separates us and makes beautiful in someone else eyes. I date outside of my race because I've dated my own race and have NEVER received the level of respect and appreciation like I have with other races. That's not to say that if a beautiful black woman came along and shown me the respect and appreciation like other races have I wouldn't date her or even look in her direction because I would. But I don't get that respect and appreciation and that matters to me most. (Apart from compatibility)

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  37.   ms_meme says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    Let me be the first white woman to comment on this subject. I read alot of comments on here that personally offended me as a white woman. Being a white does not make me any different than any black woman. I know there are many who will not agree with my statement but hey we are all entitled to our own beliefs. If you are going to stero-type a person due to their skin color than your ignorant. I have many black friends (male and female) and I am just as stubborn, loud, bossy and whatever else you want to say as my black female friends. Your personality is not based on your skin color but on your environment and how you are raised and the values you are given. With that being said I am attracted to men of color because I was not raised in a racist environment and I was told it was ok to like someone who does not look like me. And personally I prefer dark eyes, hair, skin... Give me a white man with dark features and you bet I'm going to find him attractive. Who cares why white women date black men and vice versa or any race dates another. Lets get over it people. Are you happy with your life and your choices? If you are then don't worry about anyone else's choices and live your life. Our society would be so much better if we did.

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  38.   Member says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    Post Script: For some reason my photo didn't appear with my inital posting, but if your'e intrested,my profile WITH PHOTOS is here on the site!

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  39.   Member says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    I personally prefer White males because they have just always appealed to me and have contained the qualities that I seek in a man.I found that,through socialization,that wev'e had more in common. Black Men were never really attracted to me, always labeling me and my tastes as "too White". I'm outside the loop, and am a better person for it. As King1978 stated, I've just always DONE ME!! I ACCEPT ME AND EVERY CHOICE THAT I HAVE MADE,AND HOLD NO REGRETS!I HAVE NO INTENTION OF ALTERING MYSELF ,MY LIFE, OR MY PREFERENCES! I think that White Males have been mislead on the traits of Black Women by Black Men as well as media, who percieve our brand of directness, self reliance, indipendance and ambition as personality flaws. As far as Media,and the general consensus, the "paper bag test" still holds true, and we are judged, represented, and promoted based upon it.

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  40.   junglefeva says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    As a matter of fact I would some how agree with Sweetheart8, but first of all I must say as an african having been to some European countries I have seen so many interracial couples ( whitemen/blackwomen) and it's just so beautiful when you see them holding hands, kissing and stuff like that, and I must this that even in Germany( that some people think they are prejudice) it is very much accepted, but when I moved here to the United States , I must say I have seen 1% of whitemen/blackwomen relationship and it's like 30% blackmen/white woman relationship...people seem to stare when they see that it's very saddening,most of my friends living in Europe are married to white men and it's not a problem at all where ever they go. On the other hand I DO NOT agree with eddiebarzune's comment about black women being GHETTO, every individual is raised differently and I have realized that most african american men are very irresponsible they just make babies and never take care of them, they do not like to work, all the do is use the women (both black& white) leaving the woman alone to be the mother and father to the kids. So who is to blame??? WEll as an a TRUE AFRICAN woman we are raised very differently with good morals , we are not raised GHETTO that is why most african women that end up with with african american men's marriages don't last, I for one I am a typical example....when a white man loves you he will let the whole world see that YES indeed he loves you and will not treat a black woman like dirt so yes they treat us with respect than the brotha will do....he calls you his ebony, chocolate etc....etc he won't just kiss you when you are in bed or at home he does it anytime and anywhere..I am a "true AFRICAN QUEEN" and I am very proud of who I am...am out!!

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  41. Posted: 30 Jul 08

    Honestly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.Ive meet beautiful blackwomen and beautiful whitewomen.It`s all in how we treat each other in which makes the other person involved in a relationship feel special.Most blackwomen have a "nasty Attitude" that is directed toward blackmen, like Im responsible for all of their "wows".Most caucasian women I met in the past did`nt judge me on the past experience with ex -boyfriends or ex-husbands.I hear all the time from backwomen" Why do our men have to go with whitewomen"? I feel that whole statement is racist in itself because it is`nt the color of ones skin but the love they both have in their hearts that count.If blackwomen learn how to love and stop worrying about being so "Bout it Bout it and So SO GHETTO" They would find a decent blackman who is not incarcerated.Peace!!!

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  42.   jeffreyeas says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    The same disparity exists with asian women leaving asian men. And for all cases, I think it comes down to perceived masculinity/femininity. I think alot of asian women are leaving asian men because in american society, being tall is an essential masculine component. I think alot of black men are leaving black women because how daintiness and being petite are seen as feminine components. Since there are few tall asian men and the obesity rate among black women is so high, I think it was invevitable considering our standards of beauty.

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  43.   king1978 says:
    Posted: 30 Jul 08

    I feel the answer lies in the question. For whatever the reasons, white women are more so linked with other races. The issue here is , is there a specific reason, excuse, or some fact that can explain or justify white women dating habits vs. other genders/races no. As a Philosophy graduate this one is purely subjective. However the objective is what is pleasing to the person. Period. No, my statements do not disinvalidate no ones elses, since they can be accurate as long as there are no internal conflicts within your position....DO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  44. Posted: 29 Jul 08

    As far as the media comment is concerned I think its fair to say companies market to their consumer base and the hard truth is there are just more white people in this country so of course they would market to the majority over the minority its just smart business. As far as desirable women are concerned there are certain standards of western culture that influence what we consider to be beautiful but even if we were all to agree on one standard of beauty encompassing all people, which doesn't possible, you would still have more good looking white people than any other people just because of the number of white people but give it 20 to 30 years and the Latin American look might become the new standard of beauty in this country

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  45.   danndemann says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 08

    I have always been much more attracted to black women from a very young age. I wouldn't have cared how many white women the media put on magazine covers--give me a sassy, smart, strong, indpendent black woman with that gorgeous dark skin and those curves made in heaven and I can be an easy mark! I am getting sorta hot just typing about it here! lol At any rate, I would never say women of other races or colors aren't beautiful, because they are, but I am sure I am not the only caucasian guy out there that's crazy about the sexy sistas and that's just the way I am wired now, and I don't plan on changing in this lifetime. I'm not on here for anything too serious (and my profile shows why) but I still have high standards...and I would be hard-pressed to consider any but a woman of color to be the kind of friend for whom I am looking. All that said, that is my perspective, and I think things are changing; too slowly for most of us, but they are changing. The beauty of women of color is being recognized more with the passing of each decade, and I have been around long enough to see the changes for the better. More Miss USA and America winners, more newscasters, more actresses, more women of color in higher positions in business (though there's a long way to go), etc. It's all SLOWLY changing for the better.

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  46.   cheygirl6 says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 08

    I agree with "Sweetheart8". The media has a strong influence on our perception of beauty. T.V. commercials,movies,marketing ads, etc. An attractive woman of ANY race is more influential when it comes to marketing because men notice women and women notice each other. Factor in that white women(or white looking) have been and still is the #1 choice pick for a marketing tool. The media is definitely not equal. Even in 2008 tv commercials still feature predominately white actors. I've noticed when it comes to black women in mainstream tv commercials, for the most part, the black females are either overweight, if not overweight they are average sized but with some "unappealing"(notice in quotation) feature like being really dark skinned, nappy hair, etc. They seem to somehow pick the least attractive black female actors in the mainstream media. On the other hand Black movies and black tv stations like BET seem to feature the most attractive black women in their tv commercials,sitcoms, etc. Why? I honestly feel that this is a strategy used to down play black women's beauty and to up play the white woman: Feature attractive white women alongside the least attractive black women. Use this tactic in the media for decades then of course white women are going to be viewed as trophies and be the most sought after woman to have on your arm. From individual to individual, the white woman being the most beautiful may not be your personal opinion but it IS the overall consensus in this country .

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  47.   patrickjf1 says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 08

    I have done a lot of reading about this very subject, some of which I agree and some I disagree. For me I prefer Black females mainly because I truly think they are much more physically attractive than White women. My first and only wife was Black bless her soul. If she was still with me I would not be here on this dating site. We are all of the same race which called the Human Race. When two people care for each other and love each other regardless of their skin color will have a happy life together. That is my opinion. If we open our minds and hearts and embrace the colorblind concept the world would be a better place to live. I do not think I will ever see the end of bigotry in my life time but I hope for the future of our children is is eliminated.

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  48.   Selvy777 says:
    Posted: 29 Jul 08

    If we concentrate on the white woman/black man vs. black woman/white man it's more community than media. I've had more than my share of stories from black lady friends who've had major grief from the men in their neighborhood and elsewhere for dating outside. As for white women, they like who they like and if a black man treats them better then you bet they're going to stick with that. Asian women are more open about dating outside their race except in the higher strata. There, you're judged as much by your degree and pedigree than anything else. Although the control exerted by family units has loosened a bit, it can still be an issue. Latinas are pretty open about dating other types unless A) the guy's a preppy and B) they're deep in gang territory. Just my experience.

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  49.   greycloud says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    The first question are not choosy. They are open-minded and will date who they love. With white women, I think it is a matter personality and color doesn't matter because it how the white women feel about the individual. No coincidence. Neither white women nor white men are considered the most beautiful race. A cup of black coffee with cream looks and tastes better, than a plain cup of cream. Yes. white women go for what makes them feel good, stable and secure.

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  50.   Sweetheart8 says:
    Posted: 28 Jul 08

    I think it is because of the media. Whether people like it or not they also have a big part in our views and how we are raised and just from what I have seen from TV shows to movies a white woman can get any race she wants and a black woman HAS to stick by her black man. We see actor Will Smith and Denzel Washington with all kind of races on their arms and in their beds but Brad Pitt and Johnny Deep have only White women (or anything close to white) in the films that they are in. I know it's not the actors fault but it's just how are society is conditioned to be comfortable with unfortunately. So that’s what sells.

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