Comments on: Interracial dating: What makes black men lose their mind?

By: serenity33

serenity33 — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 06:30:12 +0000

All the black men I have talked to on this site have been very civil and polite and rational so I see no basis for them losing their minds more than any other race.
Although all the insults I have gotten have been by African-American women and one white woman with an African American male fetish(which is fine by me but she sounds exactly like all the African American females that have insulted me.) They have accused me of being gay(not true) and being a black man(also not true) with no proof whatsoever. In my opinion, purely based on the treatment that I have gotten on blogs(and African women have always been civil to me as well) which one would you surmise were the crazy ones especially when I get insulted with no provocation? Just food for thought. Not trying to insult anyone. Just pointing out my experiences here on the many blogs and personal contact through messaging. Come up with your own conclusion.
Joseph Moyer

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By: GreanEyz

GreanEyz — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 18:37:58 +0000

My lil observation for what its worth…
I hear black men complaining that “sisters are always up in yo face” (paraphrasing) It has been my experience that brothers are just as confrontational and aggresive but its more acceptable behavior for males so they get away with it…(not with me of course, I insist my man “plays well with others”) Maybe thats why Ive been on this site for 7 yrs…..:/

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By: hmontaq

hmontaq — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 13:21:37 +0000

WOW I brought this thread back from the dead lol

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By: hmontaq

hmontaq — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 13:21:00 +0000

amen seancarter03… Way too many black people put themselves in a box and hold themselves back in so many respects.

On the date front. Be with who ever treats you best. Dont stereotype and get to know each person for what they bring to the table. The world has enough problems.

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By: tatted2death

tatted2death — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 15:40:12 +0000

I am actually happy for you, QMAN…

anyone (AND I DO MEAN ANYONE) who can open their heart and mind in this world has a better chance at finding quality people (whether it be as friends, business associates, lovers, life partners/husband wife, etc.).

Yes, you got some feedback but I hope you see it as sincere and positive.

Peace and blessings
tatted2death

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By: qman205

qman205 — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:42:49 +0000

What I am about to say is my opinion and mine alone. Don’t try to generalize or relate this to all black men. It is just my observance. I am attracted to beautiful women. At first it was the outward appearance but now it is inward as well. I have noticed that for the most part, black women in my age preference have let themselves “go”. Their appearance is lacking whether it is the extra weight gain or their looks. I may be wrong but I sense an inward belief on their behalf that we as black men should seek their companionship as a right in which they deserve. When discussing topics that are very much in line with this one they say things such as “we were there when you had nothing” or “when the going gets tough the white woman will get rid of you and you will come running back”. I have actually took a long look at myself because I always look on both sides of the fence so to speak. I made and am sitll making a conscious effort to seek a black woman that stimulates my mind as well as my loins. (Eddie Murphy, Coming to America) I can talk to white women for hours and we just seem to hit it off. A black woman eventually will surface an attitude that is a turn-off or demeaning. I have tried and chalk it up to not meeting the “right” sister for me. I believe she is out there but, I also am open to the fact that the “one” out there for me could very well not be a sister. I know I am going to get feedback and I just want those to sit back and look through the eyes of a black man who is searching for “The One”.

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By: SweetGirlLA

SweetGirlLA — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 05:24:28 +0000

Hey ladies,

If we could all find a man like Barack Obama, maybe all of our problems would be solved. LOL! Now that’s the kind of African-american man (although he is technically biracial) I’d love to come home to. He’s smart, a hard worker, a family man, a good husband, not afraid to be with a strong woman, and respects intelligent African-american women. And…he also knows when it’s time to practice humility when the occassion calls for it. This is the kind of man I’d rather be with-not a rapper, athlete, or any other superficial icon we put on pedestal in this country. BTW-Did I say my other dream man is Rep. Harold Ford Jr. of TN.

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By: Snoop11

Snoop11 — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 19:30:36 +0000

Hello. I’m not a blogger persay, but I wanted to take a little time to share. First of all, I think it is a severe mistake to make blanket statements about black men. If any of you know “most” black men, let me know. I’m a black man, and I know a lot of others, but not most of them.

What I do know is this. Everyone deserves to be happy, and there are men and women of every race that will do horrible things to each other. I love women. I have dated several different races, and I am positive that all women have one thing in common. They are women, and they deserve to be treated with respect. The failure is not in the “Black men dating other women”, it is in the emphasis placed on why someone is doing something that others dissapprove of. When you frown at an interracial couple you see on the street, do you know the people or their circumstances? Do you know if they are in love? Do you know what they have been through together? DO YOU SCRUTINIZE BLACK OR WHITE COUPLES THE SAME WAY?

I never date anyone or befriend anyone that is not a positive influence. I have never dated a woman because of her skin color, moreover, I have never felt that I had the right to judge the relationships of others. When you venture into this territory, you might miss out on a lot of interesting people. It is understandable to have a distaste for the powers that be, and the horrible things that have happened to people of color throughout the course of history…….. But it is 2008.

Personally, I think that the damaged image of black men has a lot to do with the media, but more importantly, it has to do with the failure to understand what a loving relationship is. We do have a lot of work to do in this area, because a lot of us (not including me) did not have the example that they needed as a young man. Every young man, of any color can benefit from having a father, in or out of the home, that is involved in his life. That is something that cannot be duplicated. There are young men that overcome this, but they shouldn’t have to. I don’t have any children yet, but I never hesitate to coach, mentor, teach, or just listen.

Most black americans, both men and women, have suffered some sort of racism in their lives. But, I ask of you, did the white woman that you saw with the black man have anything to do with that? Well, it was my first blog, so try not to be too hard on me. I have a lot more to say about this, but I have to go now.

I just hope that everyone takes a step toward tolereance and acceptance, and not stay in the same mindset this world has been in forever. Personification of anger and distaste truly hurt. It is up to us as a race (the human race) to develop into a more understanding society. Black women, you are beautiful and wonderful, but so are other women. Find someone that you love, not because of how they look, but for who they are as a person.

Oh yeah. In terms of the black men you date. Set a higherstandard,make us comb our hair, pull up our pants, and treat you with respect. Notice, I didn’t say “them”. PEACE

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By: poetlove

poetlove — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 07:39:39 +0000

Well to get into a debate over wether i’m a match to a white man , would be childish. The things I’ve accomplished in life is of a high enough caliber that I hold my head high performing in front of Div-1 colleges. The problem with you rr is somebody hurt you and now you’re insecure. So to make yourself feel better you dog out black men. Granted alot of brothers are very trifling, but you take the good with the bad. It seems you’re black so are there any decent men in your family. If so think of them the next time you spew self hatred epitaph. If you don’t have any good black men in your family, that means it’s a bad gene pool. Which inadvertently means that gene’s know no boundaries, no good men in family+= no good women, you get the point. Now put the white pipe in your mouth and smoke it.
God Bless you rr, I hope you find peace somehow

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By: rr

rr — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 17:00:30 +0000

And another question:
Are you really disturb, about blackwomen with whitemen?

Or is it because you are no match to whitemen?
Be honest with me and yourself..

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