How to Set Goals to find your Mate
You know it's hard to turn on a TV or pick up a book these days and not hear or read about the importance of setting goals to get what you want in life. What about love goals? And if you are looking to have a great "interracial" relationship is there a different set of goals that you need to set to be successful? Truth be told, one of the biggest challenges that multicultural couples face is dealing with people outside of the relationship that don't get it. But, let's get focused on setting our "relationship" goals first...we'll fix the world later.
Whatever the goal...write it down! Claim it! Own it! It is yours, so act as if you've already got it.
So, let me ask you this question. No matter how old you are right now, 21, 41 or 71, what kind of person do you want to be? Is that different than the type of person that you really are? Write it down. Then besides it, write down the kind of person you want to attract. Be honest. You can't achieve what you don't believe and you'll never attract if you only "re-act". Take control of finding the love you not only desire, but the love that you deserve. Writing down these love goals help you get clear to what you are looking for. You're less likely to waste time with someone that doesn't have the qualities that you want in a mate or, someone that is looking for a "different" on-line experience than you are.
Your perfect partner could be online right now...
What are you looking for?
Now as I write this I must tell you to have an open mind. Sometimes we get so "set" on what we think we want; what we can't do without, that we miss an opportunity to meet someone that might not be perfect for us, but they have a friend that is. Opposites don't just attract in intimate relationships. They exist in friendships and families too. It's important to keep in mind that we select our mates like we order food. Think about it, some people like mustard, some miracle whip. There are men that prefer blondes over red heads and some women that prefer John Lithgow over Colin Farrell. (Maybe that's just me). So, if you chat with someone and they tell you that you are not what they are looking for...don't take it personally, it's just their preference and not a reflection of you.
Finally, another advantage to writing down your love-goals it that it's a great start to putting together your on-line profile, the first step at attracting the type of person that you are looking for.
1. Write it down
2. Be honest
3. Be clear
4. Don't settle or waste time
5. Act not re-act (take control)
6. Create a profile that speaks to who you are...now!
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