Girl wants her mixed-race brother explained
Imagine having an affair. Your husband forgives you. You realize you are pregnant from the affair. He still doesn’t kick you’re a** out because: Hey you two have a 2 year old daughter so let’s make this work! Problem is: The affair was with a black man. Your family is white! 9 months down the line and Congratulations! It’s a mixed race boy!
All this time, the neighbors have been talking… You don’t give a crap. You just let them fill in the dots however way they wanna. Big problem is: Your daughter is no longer 2. She is much older now. She can see that her brother doesn’t look like the rest of the family and has started asking questions. Much as the neighbors don’t bother you, you now get worried because the story is getting around and soon it will get to your daughter.
This is a true story and I am sure there are many families who have had similar experiences. In her case, you would have expected that maybe she and hubby might have discussed about what to say to the kids before the baby was born but lemme cut them some slack. Maybe at the time they had the affair itself to deal with.
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At this age it would be a bit graphical to give it to her straight – "I had an affair with a black man and bam! Your brother!"
There is an easier lie to all this: "Your brother is adopted."
There is the sugar coating bit as you wait till they are older: "Families are different and ours is special. What’s important is that you have a mother and a father who love you no matter how you look" and wait till they are much older, when they can understand reproduction and DNA and give the truth to them in small doses.
How would you have handled this?
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