Is it possible for a woman to have a ‘friend with benefits’ and carry it out in the same manner a man would?
As liberated women of the 21st century, we feel we should be able to engage in the same no-strings-attached sexual relationships men always have … that we can pull off flings and go about business as usual. The other day, I looked back at all the men in my life – my friends with benefits in particular – and realized that all the carefree attitude I had towards sex with them, turned to caring at some point … and analyzing … and anxiety …
Looking at men on the other hand, these Martians have an ‘admirable’ ability to have meaningless hookups over and over without getting emotionally hooked onto the ‘friend’ they are doing (or at least that’s what they have led us in to believing 
). So why does this ‘friends with benefits’ business backfire on us women?
Yes, you may be having the ‘in case of a sexual emergency’ glass button right there with you; but are there benefits to the ‘friends with benefits’ habit? First of all, it makes you question the meaning of friendship because when you ask this ‘friend’ to do you a favor, you can’t help but wonder whether he is doing it because he is your friend or because he hopes to get some sexual reward later. Then there is the heightening of your already too wobbly emotional instability and of course, these relationships hurt ones chances at real romance.
So where are the stress-free benefits that come with such relationships?
They say the hormone oxytocin naturally produces feeling of clinginess after sex in women. So should we blame our failure to have meaningless hookups entirely on nature or has society groomed us to want commitment after a sexual encounter?
Does the idea backfire on men as it does on women? Do men get emotionally attached and want more from this ‘friend’ at some point too? – Truth please 
I think FWB is a good way to keep you feeling sane after a relationship is over. You relieve stress with a massage why not relive emotional and sexual stress with a friend who could be there for you. I would do it for sure.
No harm if both parties know what they are in it for
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LMAO @ WHURR:)
Yes WHURR, I could really use an FWB myself(maybe not as bad as u haha) but I’ve been good so far.
Personally, I have found a FWB is GREAT as a transition from a serious relationship to get yourself bk 2gether w/out the pressure of a real one.
As long as the “buddy” is fully aware of what the relationship is as well.
I tried to give up stepping on other’s feelings in HS, although there were a few incidents after that:(
(sorry to those guys,but u know u all still talk 2 me anyway some after 20yrs- yep there’s deewhizz’ broken hearts’ club)
I still remember my last “buddy” even though it has been 12yrs. After that I was in a monogamous relationship. Dating, live-in and then finally marriage(w/ no “exceptions” LOL) 5yrs trial run and 7 on paper.
But I was very clear going into that partnership because my FWB had helped me get a lot of baggage from my previous BF out of my system. And he asked nothing in return(probably because he was spoken for himself and was taking advantage of the fact that suddenly I wanted to be more than a friend. See he was waiting for that opportunity he was no fool!)
and the memory of it brings a smile to my face even now, he was just what I needed at just the right time:)
But yes, I am at a vulnerable juncture once again and a smart man w/ designs on me would keep his powder dry just in case an opportune moment arose.
Not that I want 2 give u single guys any ideas LOL but that’s how it goes, the good ones usually ARE all taken IMHO and u have 2 be in the right place at the right time to get “a thoroughbred” as my male friends have called it in the past.
Now before some super sensitive individual takes this as an insult to women involving horses LOL, I’ll clarify by saying they used that term for a woman who is not only attractive, but intelligent and someone who you can BUILD wealth with, not just arm candy who is a drag on yours.
For them this made all the difference between a woman that was worth waiting and working for (possibly starting as a FWB and working from there?)
and some chick. Because the looks will fade, then what are u really left with?
Umm, I guess Beyonce would be a well known example of such a woman.
Do you all really think she would be at home, single and pining for a man for longer than 24hrs LOL!
If I haven’t been(since puberty anyway), there’s no way she is. I’m QUITE a bit older and her “assets” are considerable:)
so plan accordingly gentlemen!
Personally,I just have that onnnnne neighbor 2 worry about..
(aghh u know who u r and you’re sooooo bad!stop living near me and having so much in common w/ me!)
He and I would be the perfect SHORT TERM solution 4 each other. Our loyal natures are holding so far but for how long?
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I am quite speechless.
FWB= NASTY
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Lets look at the phrase friends with benefits…
Most woman are afraid to engage in something like this because of the lables that come with it…
as far as I see its no one elses business..
I seriously beleieve that this sort of relationship could elieveate stress I mean look at the stats…
a no strings attached realtion,and the matter of trust in a given….
but I beleiev it should be two SINGLE AND UNHITCHED people doing this..
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