First a Flirt, Then Four Years of Marriage (And Counting)

Posted by Leticia, 29 Apr 12

John was “tired of the club scene” and gave online dating “about a 50/50 chance” of changing his love life for the better. He had no idea he would meet his wife of four years on our site!

Back then, John’s missus was just April. She was “bored, trying something new” when she signed up for our online personals service. April admits that she was “not at all confident” she would ever meet a mate on the Internet. Still, before a month had passed these new members were already communicating. “I liked his profile, and he seemed sincere,” April recalls. “So I gave him a Flirt.”

“She was easy to talk to. We seemed to have known each other before,” notes John. “I started talking with her on January 6, 2006. Although I never thought at the time we would be married two years later, I loved talking to her every day.”

It’s true—on paper, John was “not at all” April’s type. He didn’t think they would wind up in wedded bliss, either. Due to the distance between them, it actually took eight months of interaction before this duo even met for a date! “She never rushed anything, and was the most patient woman that I’ve found,” John says.

Still, they couldn’t wait forever to give this thing a trial run. “It was time,” April says. When the date began, there was instant chemistry. April remembers thinking, “Oh yes! He’s a keeper.” John was also smitten from the start. “She was really good looking,” he says. “I loved her smile.”

In the course of the date, any doubts the pair had about their suitability for one another quickly evaporated. “It was the best time ever,” says John. “Seriously, we still think about it!” April agrees. “He was better in person.” Still, though, she wasn’t 100% certain they would go out again. “I wasn’t too sure, because he lived in another state.”

John was determined not to let this love die, though. After eight months of online courtship and one great date, he was sold. “I loved her. When it was over, I felt like I had left family,” he says of his post-date thoughts.

As the relationship progressed, nothing changed April’s mind about her future husband. “He really is a good guy. Perfect gentleman,” she declares. John acknowledges that there are ups and downs in any relationship, but this one is steady as she goes. “Although we have our moments where we argue, we love each other,” John says. “I feel so warm. No worries.”

One day, John approached April with an exciting idea. “Las Vegas, baby! Lets do this! It’s been long enough. Time to make you mine!”

April acquiesced without a second thought and soon, wedding bells were ringing. On March 7, 2008 the pair took the plunge and exchanged vows. How has being married changed their lives? “Dramatically,” April laughs. “You do not know! John is the love of my life.” John is even more succinct. “Now, I have happiness,” he says.

April believes that online daters should be patient and methodical in their search for a spouse. “Take it slow. Don’t rush anything,” she advises. “Be real with one another. Don’t put pressure on your partner. Enjoy one another. No games!”

It’s John’s view that one can’t be judgmental with the person you love, or try to hold your partner to an unrealistic standard. “Compromise is the key,” he says. “There are going to be things you don’t like about your love, but you must accept that or it’s not going to work. Be patient, and loving.”

This formula has worked for John and April. They welcomed their first child to the family in 2009 and recently celebrated their four-year anniversary. John is very grateful for his good fortune. “Thank you for bringing me happiness and finding my soul mate,” he tells us. “I also want to thank all of those who flirted with me. Be patient and you will find your mate. God bless to all!”

42 responses to "First a Flirt, Then Four Years of Marriage (And Counting)"

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  1.   Counsell1 says:
    Posted: 2 days ago

    It's really great to hear such a success story, it may not happen to every one of us, but when it does happen, it's always inspiring. Best of luck to you and the rest of us who are waiting for their better halves.

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  2.   iriegurl says:
    Posted: 14 Jul

    These stories gives me hope, i am happy for them.

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  3. Posted: 23 Jun

    Very impressive to read this marriage messages wishing them all the best and God's guidance in the journey.I am Kumara

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  4.   marinco says:
    Posted: 08 May

    This is so beautiful, sure there is someone out there for everyone.....

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  5.   Sinamade says:
    Posted: 18 Mar

    Yes it is a very good and touching story of two lover bird. I believe in every step taken you should let your real self be known to whom you are taking the step with, looking back from "flirt to marriage" it shows that both show their selvies the real self in them. Congrats.

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  6.   paddy50 says:
    Posted: 17 Feb

    Very impressive to read this marriage messages wishing them all the best and God's guidance in the journey.

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  7.   SILVERELITE says:
    Posted: 06 Feb

    Best of luck guys

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  8.   9jabeauty says:
    Posted: 24 Dec 13

    Nice!!

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  9. Posted: 27 Nov 13

    Am so impressed with this and i pray that such fortune comes my way...............

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  10.   yoson says:
    Posted: 13 Nov 13

    Well, its nice to read from you. I wish you the best in everything guys;

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  11. Posted: 23 May 13

    May almighty God bless them

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  12.   plumpudding says:
    Posted: 17 Apr 13

    I feel I have meet my future husband that is. Will keep you posted!

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  13.   plumpudding says:
    Posted: 17 Apr 13

    I loved this story. I wish you both all the best life has to offer. I feel I have also meet my husband on this site. I will keep you posted.

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  14. Posted: 30 Dec 12

    This is so sweet i hope this Web site works out for me the same way it did for them reading stories like this definitely gives me hope

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  15.   Mybabes says:
    Posted: 26 Nov 12

    I am so happy for them

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  16.   Swallows says:
    Posted: 27 Oct 12

    Oh! What a lucky couple they are. Enjoy the love.

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  17.   Babyboo04 says:
    Posted: 09 Oct 12

    Congrats to all those lovely couples who find there sole mate,I pray one day I will too,God bless you always one love.

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  18.   Raymou says:
    Posted: 09 Oct 12

    Everything has it`s own season,it`s now John`s turn. Congragulations.I only wish that my time comes nearer.My prayers to God is to answer me.

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  19. Posted: 01 Oct 12

    It's so interesting thin to be together.

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  20.   bronz22 says:
    Posted: 17 Sep 12

    lucky you guys am jealousy of you may GOD help mi to also find mi soul mate one day and i also post like u may GOD bless your marriage

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  21.   Flixgrl32 says:
    Posted: 08 Aug 12

    Awesome story! I look forward to publishing a testimony on here myself one day ;)

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  22.   rjobby8148 says:
    Posted: 04 Aug 12

    beautiful story Being in love is a beautiful thing

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  23.   Lurd says:
    Posted: 26 Jun 12

    I wish i was in their shoe, been looking for sameone and i have just lost hope, congreds for them

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  24.   niceguyplz. says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 12

    I really enjoyed reading this. I'm looking for that special person and i hope i have the kind of luck you two had in finding each other. congradulations....

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  25.   saga05 says:
    Posted: 08 Jun 12

    I wish iam the one.

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  26.   Titina says:
    Posted: 05 May 12

    I wish them all the best in their endeavors and do remind them to thank God for this wonderful miracle because he is the one who gives.

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  27.   Ketchup61 says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    ' Big things start from small beginnings" ! Congradualtions, keep the Faith!

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    • meg199 says:
      Posted: 23 May 12

      Its true big things start from small am glad they may end up being happy together

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    • iodarius says:
      Posted: 20 Jun 12

      I am an African. When the time comes, be careful about sending money to her. Do some video chats so you can see her live. Even I was burned by a scammer from my own country. Too many of them.

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      • daisy says:
        Posted: 12 Aug 12

        i am european...now in usa!I gess too long time alone,12 years already and keep looking my TRUE LAST LOVE!Very trusting,get hurt in dateingsight sweet talkers 4times already...unbeliveble...sent money,pakeges!Dreaming is still free,lets hope thebest luck to everybody!

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        • leeboknam says:
          Posted: 07 Sep 13

          I have found that most of the gold diggers are male despite the stereotypes to the contrary. Hence, I have become weary if a guy wants to know my occupation and is trying to figure out how I can enhance their position in life. There's a difference between that and natural curiosity. I think someone should at least ask your name before asking your occupation. I personally prefer to have a little conversation to see if I even like you before getting into my financials. However the above is more for when you meet someone in person. I am not sure if you're still checking the message boards, but I hope you or any other lady reading this will benefit. Keep your money to your self until you actually meet the guy. If he wants to meet and suggests a date, he should pay. After that, if you want to take him out, you may. However, don't do it too much. Because whether he's rich or poor - I find that they respect you less and start to try to get over on you or think they may be lazy in the relationship.

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  28.   slowhand44 says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    Great going!!! For once I met someone--on another site--from Africa. We clicked from the beginning as we found we shared so many things in our past experiences. I raised 4 children by myself and had a woman that deserted our children and me.. This lovely woman had a man (not married to him) run off with their 9 year old son to the U.S. and keep the boy from her 7 years already. There are many similarities in our lives--the lonliness, living without being loved--that we developed a very strong bond!!! She's a very lovely,ambitious, hardworking woman, and is coming to the U.S. to finally to get to see her son, and is also coming to where I live to meet and develope our relationship, then marriage!!! We both agree--we've waited a long time to find the right person! I'm not young, but she isn't concerned--we chat on Skype daily--WHAT A LADY!

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    • meg199 says:
      Posted: 23 May 12

      Its good you chat and when i read stories like yours it makes me have more hope and faith that soon will get somebody

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  29.   Deg says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    That is a wonderful story! I met my love on the site and he surprised me with a proposal and we plan to marry next year in May! I was on the site to only meet people to explore the city...who knew?!

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  30.   pedals84 says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    Congrats, It's stories like this, give me hope. God bless to all.

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  31.   Kawy says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER NO MAN SHALL PUT A SUNDER....CONGRATS GUYS & LET LOVE BIDE U 4EVER....NO DOUBT I WILL ALSO APPEAR ON THIS PAGE SOME DAY

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  32.   coolbaibe says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    May their happiness last forever and may I also find one here, congratulations!

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  33.   PRINCESS30 says:
    Posted: 04 May 12

    WOW, HOW COME I AM NOT SO LUCKY LIKE THEM, CONGRATS

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  34.   nicky333 says:
    Posted: 02 May 12

    ITS SO GOOD TO HEAR STORIES LIKE THIS AND I AM SO HAPPY FOR THEM,

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    • meg199 says:
      Posted: 23 May 12

      True what you are saying. Stories like this encourage me to still be hopefull that i will get a partner on this site regargless of age

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  35.   reese says:
    Posted: 01 May 12

    good for you.

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