So what really went wrong?

Maybe you took too long to move to the next level. Much as you may be comfortable in the dating zone, if you don’t seal the deal, she will find a man who is willing to make that lifetime commitment. A man needs to be there for his woman, make her feel like she is No. 1 and most of all, declare to her openly that she wants to be with her for life. If you drag the dating phase for too long and she starts feeling like the relationship is going nowhere, she will shop around, meet better men who are more willing to take that leap, find fault in you and before long, out you go and in comes the next guy who walks her down the aisle like yesterday!

Other times, it may just be some falling out over some fixable issue. You have no idea how many issue-free men there are out there… who are always wondering what she is doing with such a drama-filled man. So every time you two have a fight, most modern women of today will always have this guy who offers her a shoulder to cry on … making her see how you aint treating her right… how she deserves better. And no matter how much she loves you, sooner or later, she will get fed up and leave. Whatever issues you’ve been having, FIX THEM! And if you ever cheated on her and she gave you the second chance, treat it as your LAST CHANCE! One slip and she is gone!

Yeah, your four-year girlfriend is not like that. Yeah your girlfriend loves you too much ever leave… her life is centered around you. You think? Well those many men who got dumped after years of long-term dating disagree. Your woman will only continue to be yours if you play your cards right. The moment she starts feeling short-changed, YOU ARE SOOO OUT!

Some black men have had to endure criticism for their choice in women. On interracial dating sites, I have come across dark skinned women who seem to believe men, no matter their race, will always contact the lighter skinned races of women. And if their preference is the black woman, they will go for those who have a lighter shade.

Well, much as generally, this may seem to be the case, I think every man wants what he wants. And dark skinned women also fall into the preferences of some men. See, much as the light-skinned-long-haired preference for women seems vain because its what the mainstream media has drilled in our minds, why should a black man or any man for that matter be crucified for genuinely having a strong attraction to women who possess these characteristics?

See, we cant go rebuking every black man with a white woman like he has committed some felony for his preference in women. We cant keep assuming every man with a light skinned woman is with her because he has somehow been influenced by the mainstream media into believing lighter is better. This is just a woman that the man is attracted to; its who he may have fallen in love with because of her great qualities; its who he is (or might end up being) married to. So, unless for some reason you were into that guy, what he likes next to him in bed shouldn’t bother anyone or make people question the motives behind that particular preference.

People like who they like. People are attracted to what they are attracted to. People prefer what they prefer. And there is a reason why you prefer Heineken to Budweiser. And our dating preferences shouldn’t be mistaken for discrimination of some form or wanting to have a trophy chic by our side. More often than not, it is what it is – preference – no racist or any other deeper explanation for it.

So if my dating whoever I am dating doesn’t affect anyone directly, why should anyone be bothered by what color or skin shade the person in my bed is?

Parents often say they have less of a sex drive than they did before becoming a proud papa or loving mother.  Finding time for sex is one challenge, especially when your schedule always seems full.  But after awhile without it, you might forget all of sex’s benefits to your mind, body and spirit.  There can even be anxiety about this aspect of a new relationship, especially for single mothers.

Perhaps you’ve heard these questions from your partner, or voiced them yourself…

“How much sex is enough?”

“If sex should be spontaneous, what if my life has little room for spontaneity?”

“What if I’ve gotten into the habit of not even thinking about sex?”

For answers, we turned to Dr. Jennifer Jones, a clinical psychologist and specialist in love, happiness and parenting.  The author of “The Seven Secrets of Joyful Parenting” and “Organic Sex: Why Less is More,” Jones believes that everyone is entitled to happiness.  She helps parents, couples and singles navigate the treacherous waters of modern life.

Oh and by the way, sex is a subject she has lots to say about.  “Please, let’s let go of our weird stuff about sex and our bodies and embrace it.  It’s our human right!” Dr. Jones says.

For 4 Hot Tips to have a healthy sex life even while raising children, check out this short video with Dr. Jennifer Jones.  It might be just the thing to put the sizzle back in your sex life!

Do you and your partner make space for sex in your schedules, even though taking care of the kids comes first?  What are the challenges of balancing parenting and romance?  Is there anything you’d like to get advice about?

Joseph has his own version of the same story. “I wanted to meet a woman I could settle down with and have a family. Internet dating seemed like a way to meet a lot of women without going to bars or clubs. This was my first time trying it…”

In fact, he was only a member for 48 hours when he received a message from Erica. You see, she was about to cancel her membership and, at the last moment, she noticed Joseph’s profile.

“I had tried Internet dating before and wasn’t successful,” she begins. “I almost gave up on it entirely.” Of our site she says, “I was a member off and on for about a year and a half. When I went to cancel my account, I saw Joseph’s picture in the new members area. Drawn to his eyes, I sent him a message and waited for a response. That was how it all started…”

Yes, it’s true. This love story almost never happened simply because Erica was about to cancel her membership. But she spotted Joseph’s profile just in time. Reading what he wrote, she felt a rush of optimism. “I thought he was funny, kind and intelligent,” she says. “I knew he was my type and I wanted to get to know more about him.”

When Joseph took a look at Erica’s profile, he was similarly impressed. “I thought she was cute and funny,” he said. “She wasn’t completely my type, but I was drawn to her and interested to see where things would lead.”

They spent hours on the phone and Skype. “I never wanted to hang up,” Erica says. “He made me laugh!”

Joseph felt the same way. He wanted to take this to the next level and ask her out, but he felt the normal trepidation about her response. “She was so energetic and the conversations were fantastic, so I decided to go for it,” he says. Erica happily agreed and boom—their first date was on the calendar!

When that day came, their physical chemistry was off the scale. To elaborate, Erica says, “I thought he was very cute. All I wanted to do was throw my arms around him.”

Still, the immediate power of their connection was surprising even to them. “We knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together,” Joseph says, still amazed to this day. “I wanted to make her my wife as quickly as possible. I had finally found my soulmate.”

Based on Date No. 1, a second date was a foregone conclusion. “We knew after our first date that we wanted to be together forever,” Erica says.

As their relationship began to grow and flower, the couple discovered more about each other each day. “I appreciate his honesty and gentleness as well as his ability to listen,” Erica says. Joseph was also struck by his lady love’s less-obvious qualities. “I appreciate her sense of humor and the true light she has inside her,” he declares.

The relationship progressed. One warm evening, on a beautiful beach illuminated by the moon and the stars, Joseph got down on one knee. “I can’t stop smiling,” Erica says, remembering the night Joseph proposed. “I am so happy! Life has taken on a whole new meaning and is full of joy.”

“She is my other half,” Joseph says of his fiancée. “I feel complete.”

If you are ever on the verge of quitting your membership, remember this story. “I was about to give up before I met the man of my dreams. Don’t give up,” urges Erica. “It may seem that the right person will never come along. But just when you are about to give up or let fate take its course, a miracle happens and you meet your true love. Trust your heart and your instincts. Everything else will fall into place.”

For the guys especially, Joseph has this to say. “When you meet the right woman, don’t second guess yourself. Go for it and you will be rewarded with a great love in return.”

Look at these two: They were high school sweet hearts way back in 1986 and lived together for seven years before tying the knot in 1994. Together they have three children. Amidst all that media attention, this is a couple that hasn’t crumbled under it.

If only someone could guarantee me a lifetime of such love and commitment! Now this is what interracial love should be all about. And this is what I wish all interracial couples who meet on this interracial dating website.

So how do you ask for that ring that you want so bad; coz clearly all the hints you have been dropping seem to be landing on some hard rock that aint a diamond in his pocket? Is it okay to come right out and ask for it?

I read somewhere that a woman is the one who determines what the next step in her relationship is going to be because if you leave that decision to most men, your relationship status will never change from “dating”. See, most of us men love that dating stage – yes you are committed; but then again, you are not tied down. It’s such a comfortable stage for us (lemme say) young men! So if you are with a woman who seems comfortable too, you think: why rush these things?

Most women think when they bring up the subject of marriage and tell the man how much they want to get married, they come off as desperate and needy – in fact, they feel ashamed and desperate. Some are afraid of getting disappointed in the process. But if you hold back your desires and goals of getting married, how will you know you are with the right man – a man who wants the same too?

Sometimes, most women sabotage this fairy tale dream. You could be stuck dating in a 5 year relationship with a man who is just with you waiting for his right woman to come along. You could be stuck dating in that 5 year relationship because the man feels you probably don’t want marriage since you have never mentioned it anyways. So unless you bring it up, share your goals and desires about marriage sooner, you might end up like that Val from VH1′s “Single Ladies” TV series, discovering she had sacrificed a lot for a relationship with a man who not only didn’t want to be married to her but also didn’t love her.

If you want that ring bad enough, pursue it. Its what you want. Don’t let fear of what he might think of you stand in the way of your fairy tale. Proposals don’t just drop from heaven. For most women, they plant the seed in the man’s head early enough in the relationship; so from the word: “GO!”, the man knows if he likes her enough to want to keep her, he has to pop the question sooner rather than later … or never if you may.

Don’t wait until you are fully invested in a relationship that probably won’t give you that wedding your heart desires. Let him know! It’s the only way you’ll know you are with the right man because the right man will share the same desires… a desire to put a ring on it!

See, this happens to a lot of online daters. Some people just can’t take silence for an answer. They take offense and find it super rude when their emails and flirts go unanswered. But if I am not interested, do I owe everyone who contacts me an explanation of why I don’t feel them… even when I have none – other than just not feeling them?

Does this mean you have to reply to each and every email and flirt just to appear polite and avoid some hate mails cramming your inbox?

Generally, Black men possess some unparalleled masculinity and athletic bodies that all women consider an attractive quality for any man to possess. On the other hand, Asian women have femininity and exotic features which are desired by men of all races. So for the pure reason of physical attractiveness, Black men and Asian women seem to spark more interest from women and men of different races – especially Whites.

Since these two groups are soooo desirable, you’d expect a mutual physical attraction between one another right? But on the contrary, the number of Black men Asian women couples remains small – an indisputably tiny potion of 2% of all interracial marriages of U.S. residents. So does this mean the most desired groups by all races find each other least desirable?

Some analysts think Yes! Apparently, East Asian women for example don’t discriminate against White men (being the reason for the high numbers of Asian women White men relationships) but they do discriminate against Black men. So they show less interest in them. Others say the match between Black men and Asian women is rare because the Asian woman does not fit the Black man’s ideal beautiful woman.

Is the reason behind the desire to be with one another purely based on physical attraction? Is there more behind the discrimination of Asian women against Black men (if the allegations are true that is)?

What if I told there is a super easy move you could employ tonight… something you can manage even if you are tired?

Guess what the trick is: Simply rubbing your leg up against his. According to Glamour.com, this is “an unexpected way to let him know you’re enjoying yourself plus you’ll get a sexy kick out of feeling his strong legs flex and relax as they’re working their magic”.

Well, guess am gonna let the gymnastics I have been pulling lately go to rest for tonight… see how this leg rubbing goes.

If after online dating, lesser people are getting married, the picture being painted here is that the institution of marriage was doing just fine … until online dating came along. Are these statistics an indication of a failure in the online dating industry?