Empty profiles

Posted by James, 02 Jun 08

Some people not only make online dating hard for themselves, but hard for those searching too. Or should I say easy? Well it all depends on how you look at it.

Some online daters hardly provide specific information about themselves and even their profile photos provide no apparent hints. What is one supposed to write to someone that says nothing in their profile? Are do such people really expect to score in the online dating world if they are providing no info? How do you deal with this beautiful image that says nothing?

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  1.   serenity33 says:
    Posted: 17 Aug 10

    I personally believe in as much information as possible to be put down on your profile. Of course I am looking for the intellectual and wise type of person so if they can't read my full profile, then they are not up to my personality standards. I think one picture is sufficient and should be posted but not a glamor shot. I have compared this site to many other sites and this site seems to have the most glamor shots even if you don't count the scammers. But I really can't stand the laters especially when it comes to things I care about like kids because I don't want anyone with kids, especially illegitimate ones because they don't have the moral fiber that I require in their personality since I am a pastoral counselor. And of course I care about their religion as well. And in the profiles I look for the telltale shallow words such as "travel, shopping, pampered" and things like that since I am against materialism and hedonism. You especially have to be wary of the one's that put the age down as 18-99 when they are young themselves because either they are scammers or trying to travel using sex as their bargaining chip. If it were truly so that they wanted someone mature and wiser in life that was older, that would be another story. But I think we should have some 80 year old guys come on here and take them up on their offer and see how they react!! I dislike the looks consciousness ones too because that is the reason that we have the highest divorce rate in the world because our country's value is on looks consciousness and these 18-99 are no doubt going to go by the picture and/or how much the person makes to see if it is worth their while because a lot of them want sugar daddies and will put out sex for money and material things. So I say the more detailed the profile in all capacities, the better and I stick by it. I have yet to find a woman's profile as remotely long as mine and I read through every profile I come across all the way to the end no matter how long it is. Honesty is the best policy unless you have something to be ashamed of and I think too many people on this site play the old game of hiding the skeletons in their closet to try and snag someone and hope they don't mind if and when it ever comes to light later on. But if you are just looking for a father for your kids or are just looking for sex like many men are and also women that are older and at their sexual peak, then keep your profiles short with plenty of laters because it makes it easy for us discriminating individuals to write you off quicker. Remember it is better to be single than to end up a one night stand with kids or married for the wrong reasons and end up getting divorced anyway. Over 80 percent of the women on this site that are single never were married and have kids especially the older ones and that is a sad commentary on society in general. I have a little more pity on those who are divorced with kids because at least they gave marriage a shot but I think if they would have chosen wiser, they wouldn't have ended up divorced plus there is always the option of marriage counseling and premarital counseling of which I am one and promote greatly. We need to do something to lower the illegitimate child rate and the divorce rate in this country and others as they become influenced by our bad habits. Joseph Moyer

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  2.   PetiteChick says:
    Posted: 19 Jun 10

    I can go along with a few of the "find out laters" - this depending on what they are. It can leave room for discussion. HOWEVER, if every single dang blasted descriptor is "Find Out Later + no photo" I simply relegate them to one of a few categories. None of which are good! LOL.

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  3.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 06 Mar 10

    If you are truly trying to find someone who likes you for who you are, you've got to let people know at least a little about yourself. Otherwise, Other and Find Out Later.

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  4.   Fire321 says:
    Posted: 02 May 09

    I personally believe that for a lot of people use online dating is a form of entertainment and that for those people, they are not seriously looking to meet someone. You can tell who is really interested in meeting someone just by WHAT they say in their profile. How many of us have seen the same bland descriptions from profile to profile? People who are serious will take the effort to make themselves stand apart from the next individual. Also, why is it that you can never find someone that lives near you to date?...it's an epidemic...hehe It can be very frustrating trying to find someone of quality but not impossible. I just feel people need to honest about what they are looking for and who they are. I won't bother with someone who can't put forth effort to present themselves in a way that catches my eye (i.e. photo, true description of themselves, what they are looking for in a mate etc)

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  5.   gottabme says:
    Posted: 29 Mar 09

    I think online dating is a good thing but only if people are serious and truthful about what's in their profile. For example, I've received and sent flirts and they flirt back but when I give a personal email and every now and again a cell number, I don't hear from them. So, sometimes I think what's the point. They say that they aren't willing to relocate but I get flirts and offers from other countries, what's that all about. Online dating is almost like a job.

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  6.   sensual777 says:
    Posted: 31 Jul 08

    when i see an empty profile is think: okay, he was too lazy to provide information, he is only looking for sex. why would you dates someone like that? people with no picture: they must not like their face very much...

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  7.   mr.geno says:
    Posted: 06 Jul 08

    I never know how much to describe myself in my profile and how many qualities I want in a woman. I feel like I'm overdoing it sometimes & am boring women who view my profile or do not finish reading my profile because of something I say. BUT on the other hand I feel as tho' it's necessary to describe in detail. What's a man to do????? Also, I agree with fayray, Happyom & sandijim.

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  8.   sandijm says:
    Posted: 18 Jun 08

    WigSplitta... People do read proflies, people who are seriously looking for a relationship online, your profile is an introduction of yourself to your potential mate, it takes the hassle out of contacting somone and finding out that the basics aren't there, eg" religion and smoking habits, those things are deal makers/breakers for some people so filling out your profile saves the other person the hassle of having to ask some simple questions.

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  9.   WigSplitta says:
    Posted: 16 Jun 08

    Why bother filling out a profile if no one is going to bother to read it?

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  10.   Happyom says:
    Posted: 12 Jun 08

    NO PIC, NO INFO, NO LOOK....

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  11.   DividedSoul says:
    Posted: 04 Jun 08

    I treat unfinished profiles mostly as scam attempts. As stated, what can you say about someone that says nothing about themselves? And a "model" type of photo is a dead giveaway that you will be wasting your time if there is nothing else filled out.

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  12.   fayray says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 08

    what i don't understand is why some even bother to create a profile if they know they have no intention on filling it in?!? being a "private" person is one thing....but just like profiles that have words and no pic...if you can't be honest (or at least relatively so, lol)about who you are, what your looking for, AND what you look like, why are you online dating at all? what's the point?

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  13.   HereIambaby says:
    Posted: 03 Jun 08

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