Democracy-Were you ever afraid of dating someone of different race?

Posted by James, 13 Apr 07

Family alienation is one of many challenges facing multicultural couples. Societal discrimination also poses a challenge. Adding on to cultural differences that the couple may experience, such alienations may cause a strain in the couple’s relationship.

Society has a history of frowning upon cross-cultural marriage. Stereotypes further complicate matters. However some multicultural couples actually have stronger relationships as a result of the painful realities as racism and conflict with extended family members they endure. This may make them have an easier time negotiating the day-to-day struggles of their marriage.

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Psychologist Maria Root, clinician and researcher at the University of Washington, says that multicultural couples are ‘attracted to each other for the same reasons that individuals in same-race couples are…They consistently state that they get married because they like and love each other.'

On to our poll results, majority (89%) said they were not afraid to date someone from a different race. (No, it's my life and the hell with anyone that says otherwise!:89% -168 Votes). 21% said 'Yes I was afraid of what my family and friends would say: 21 votes.

Based on these results, it means that if you really love someone and are dating for the right reasons, then screw society. Together you can overcome all the prejudice and cultural differences. And for those still afraid of dating someone from a different culture afraid what others would say, here is some advice. It’s your world the two of you will be creating and sharing from the union.

'Differences exist and what needs to be looked at is how couples negotiate them,' Root said. Those outside of your world don’t really matter. What matters is that the two of you are comfortable with each other.

15 responses to "Democracy-Were you ever afraid of dating someone of different race?"

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  1.   fkoi says:
    Posted: 28 Mar 10

    Hell, I'm still nervous about dating any women but I was never afraid. And I absolutely never even thought about race, though I wouldn't say I was blind to it. Beauty and grace, intellect and humour are what have always attracted me to a woman. That nervous feeling in my gut just adds to the pleasure of getting to know someone, and then that nervous feeling always goes away.

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  2.   wonka says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    That lady in the photo,at the top of this page is a BEAUTY!!.

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  3.   wonka says:
    Posted: 28 Feb 10

    No,However I'm aware of the tole it can take on a person/people who do date outside their race.It also depends on the race,some races are completely against out-of-race dating/relationships.I'm not going to name any,but,we as a people are aware of the races that I speak of.It's unfortunate,but,what can one do,that's the way it is and probably always will be!!.

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  4.   mlynch71 says:
    Posted: 04 Jan 09

    I will be honest here. When I was a boy, I liked & had some black female friends but was afraid to go any further than that. I was afraid of what my mother & father(especially him!) would think. My father was & is still predjudiced towards people of different skintones. Now that I am older & have graduated from a HBCU, I appreciate cross-cultural relationships. To me, now, it doesn't matter who you or I date. I think it's all a matter of attraction to whomever you like, no matter their skintone. Love should be colorblind!

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  5.   Startrelle says:
    Posted: 07 Dec 08

    While some of my girlfriends prefer to date within their own race, I've always been open to date outside the box! You love who you love, regardless of race, religion, whatever; that's the only true way you'll be happy. Period... the hell what family, society thinks!

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  6.   brnsuga says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 08

    date who you want. we all human. if you care what society think you will be alone for the rest of your life..

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  7.   phatkitty says:
    Posted: 02 Jan 08

    FALA, I SAY THERE ISNT MORE RESPONSES, BECAUSE, SAME SUBJECT DIFFERENT TOPIC. AFTER AWHILE IT'S LIKE WATCHING SOMEONE ON A FREAKING MERRY GO 'ROUND, IT BECOMES A BIG BLURRRRRRRRRRRRRR, I SAY ENOUGH ALREADY. WE ARE ALWAYS GONNA HAVE RACIAL ISSUES AND CONCERNS. IT'S LIKE DEATH, IT IS INEVITABLE. AND WITHOUT IT, WE WOULD NOT HAVE SUCH AN INTERESTING SITE TO BLOG ON. DON'T YOU AGREE. MUCH LUV, DONT TAKE IT PERSONAL, AM TYPING AT 1:00AM. AM OFF TO BED.

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  8.   novelway says:
    Posted: 07 Jul 07

    It's funny to be talking about this subject. I belive that there are times when we are able to observe people in life who indicate what paths we will take in the future. I remember living in Park Labrea in L.A as a dorky kid and seeing a older black man and white female walking hand in hand coming and going from there apartmentment. It was very clear to me that this couple had been married for a long time. And that they were not shy in there public expression of there union. I was always impressed by them. I always thought that he served in one of the branches of the military. I do remember hearing him practice his I guess it was an alto sax. Anyways It was this image of them as man and wife that affected me not there skin tone. I believe that a seed was planted in me to look and have the samething for myself . Now you are all going to laugh when you read this next event. When I was a real little dork in kindergaren I swear this is true spot on the truth. One morning while I was being taken to school mind you kindergarden and I have but a very very few images that remain this was burned right into my first shakra. As my dad was pulling away from a red light I just happen to look into a convinence store only to see a picture of a man and a woman nude a black man and white woman pressed together the only thing on the cover was there lower half's together nothing else. when I saw that, I got so hot!!! I was lost in this image and it has been with me till this day. Needless to say I always paid attention to that corner store. In the end Love will be love. Why If I have not been able to find someone in my own race and all of a sudden here comes someone else in another race a perfect complement to me, that is a no brainer. I wish every one on this site good luck, love deeply with sticky sheets lol. the novelway

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  9. Posted: 28 May 07

    If we continued throughout life wondering and worried about what other people think, we would never be happy. To answer the question, I may have been afraid like when I was TEN!

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  10.   Usaman4 says:
    Posted: 14 May 07

    First of all it is choice and what best suits the persons involved in interracial dating. If others have problems with it then it is their problem and they have to deal with it themselves. In other words let those opposed in views be the ones uncomfortable and not the two dating or in a relationship.

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  11.   Naimah says:
    Posted: 13 May 07

    FUCK...What people say or think. Your not living for any body else but your self...If you care about some one go for it..

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  12.   dimples says:
    Posted: 09 May 07

    society is completely damaged so, you have to be strong , rational, idependent & bold enough to know what will make you happy in life without being affected by others opinions.

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  13.   bklyngirl says:
    Posted: 27 Apr 07

    Life is way too short to worry about what people think of who you date or marry...that energy should be used to be make this world a better in which to live.

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  14.   Fala says:
    Posted: 22 Apr 07

    How come more people haven't responded to this one?

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  15.   Fala says:
    Posted: 15 Apr 07

    I agree. Screw society and date who you want.

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