Dating in your prime… is love better second or third time around?
Dating after divorce? Trying to find love once again? Well this is something every divorcee dreads. Having been eternally single in your 30s or 40s is one thing but jumping back into the dating game after having been to the altar is something else. Most of us have bumped into the divorce statistics – 50% of the first marriages end up in divorce! How about the second time? Can you do it right?
Officially divorced and single once again… at 30 or 40. You failed once and now you are back again in the dating field. Time (or should I say age) isn’t on your side. The days of playing around are over. No more wasting time on dead-end relationships. The first instinct usually is to stay away from anyone who reminds you of your ex, well don’t stress over it. By the same token, don't make it a point to find someone who's the exact opposite either.
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First of all, get your dating muscle in shape. On the other hand there is no need to rush into a new relationship and do not let others push you into dating prematurely. The last thing you want to do is start the same mistake all over again. Make sure it feels right. And if you are dating to wage revenge on your ex then you are not ready yet.
Once you are ready, it dawns on you… the dating field isn’t what it used to be anymore. It’s been a long time since you were around. Don’t sweat it. Look at it as the learning experience that will thrust you back into the game.
Remember that no matter how willing you are to jump back into the waters, only time will tell how ready you really are. Don’t throw your self directly into the lion's den by going out to bars and clubs to meet women or men. To succeed in those kinds of environments, you really have to be on your game, and I think it would just be too awkward and stressful for you.
And if you can’t hack that, then online dating would be perfect for you. It’s easy, convenient and you will have total control over when you want to meet the person you are dating. You can check out hundreds of potential candidates in the comfort of your home. And PLEASE, don’t whine about your ex when you on a date. Doing this only makes you look like a resentful loser who doesn't know how to have a good relationship.
Take the time to do things right -- at the right time -- and you won't have to do them over and over again. No matter how willing you are to jump back into the waters, only time will tell how ready you really are. Remember that you are the most important thing in your life. Always make sure that you're happy with your love life, no matter how content your better half might be.
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