Multicultural Friends or Lovers?
The one thing that all races have in common is our need and desire to be loved. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, good times and challenges. There is the need to be able to tell our deepest darkest secrets and not worry about a movie or song being produced about it (without our permission), the next day.
There is also a thing called desire, lust, and passion. Sometimes that line that separated friends and lovers is almost invisible. Opinions vary about if that line is crossed, whether both parties can ever go back to their respective sides. Of course, I must first tell you that this is just me Leticia talking. I've never been a doctor but I have been to one and lusted over a few. So, this is all "my opinion"...take what you want and leave the rest.
I think, that with any relationship (romantic or platonic), there has to be mutual respect and trust. The only difference between friends and lovers is the level of intimacy. True friendship for me involves a true level of caring and concern. The desire to see someone else happy without expecting anything in return. Being able to tell and be told true feelings and emotions without holding or passing judgment. That's a friend. Now, take all this and get naked, exchange a little body fluid...and that's lovers.
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As for crossing the line and coming back home again. Well, I know from experience that it is possible. Sometimes with true friendships, there is a blur in time, when you don't know if there could or should be more. Sometimes it takes crossing that line to learn that, that is not the direction that you need to be headed, that a friendship is far more valuable at that time. It's been shown that having had "multicultural" friendships lend to more open views and opinions about different races. Makes sense to me. You are more likely to be understanding and tolerate of things and people that you understand and more fearful of those that you don't.
With all this being said, how and when do you know if it's time to move from friendship to "the other side"? Well at the expense of sounding...flippant...you know! Or should I say, you will both know. It's a feeling, it's a desire, it's that thing that people have been trying to explain for century's and guess what...they are still trying today.
Let me just tell you that it's okay to be wrong. Remember, that true friendships are about respect and trust. Trust your instincts and respect your friend's opinions and desires to cross the line or stay where you are.
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