Cheating … is this how we are wired?
Biologists say we should not be too surprised by spouses who have affairs
Monogamy could be the rule for the flatworm that lives in the gills of freshwater fish … but is this the case for humans and every other living creature? Apparently not. Biologists believe nature prefers that man and beast have numerous sexual partners. It’s no wonder even public figures like New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer and others get caught cheating on their mates.
But are we really wired that way?
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TIME magazine’s science editor Jeffrey Kluger told TODAY’s Meredith Vieira that "Nature wants one thing, and what it wants are babies … It also wants lots of them and it wants variety, because the greater the genetic variety, the greater the likelihood that the babies are going to survive to adulthood and do well. So even when we’ve had children, we have some very primal software that keeps telling us, ‘Look around.’ ᾿
Apparently, those animals – like eagles, geese and beavers – that we thought remained monogamous throughout their lives get out at night for a little extra on the side according to some DNA testing. Only the freshwater flatworm that physically attaches itself to a mate for life is officially the monogamous creatures.
Most cultures are polygamous and men screwing around is perfectly acceptable. But have we evolved beyond our biological impulses? Yes! Men and women agreed that humans do have the ability to override their genetic and biological programming, with 65 percent of men and 75 percent of women ‘claiming’ that they have never cheated on their spouses.
University of Texas psychologist, David Buss however attributes this to the reputational damages that accompany straying. “When people get caught straying, they incur reputational damage, and we are very concerned about our social reputations.᾿
Much as people shy away from admitting such stuff, we need to remember that that both men and women experience lust in their hearts … it is normal to feel attracted to other people besides your spouse. And as much as both men and women cheat, scientifically, men are more likely to. “First of all, men simply can breed more. Men biologically can conceive a child every day if they wanted to. So we’re trip-wired for that kind of thing,᾿ says Kluger. And personality does matter too.
However, next time you are caught with your pants down, don’t say “Biology made me do this.᾿ I believe there is no excuse for infidelity. We have inhibitions and ability to choose whether we want to or not.
Do you believe we are wired to cheat on our mates? Who comes up with this stuff anyway coz people
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