Comments on: Can we divorce prejudice from dating preference?

By: bigeyes31

bigeyes31 — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 08:42:39 +0000

One can only tackle the problem of racism and prejudice with a “reality” check which leads to a “real” conversation about prejudice. Some people “automatically shut down” when the conversation about the reality of racism and how it inherently drives white america comes up. This is especially evident when a black woman will make an excuse for a white man ,still married to his white wife can confess that he “thinks” about black women because he is only NOW noticing them. Peace, love and utopian thinking won’t change the mind of the John Mayers’ of the world,sorry. People need to have an honest conversation with themselves and then with each other.

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By: teacher1616

teacher1616 — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 14:54:01 +0000

I think interracial dating is a beautiful thing. It is what it is, it is what attracts you, it is what turns u on. It can be anyone but we all know our ‘type’. To me, opposites do attract. I date interracially and the color contrast is a huge turn on to me. It just is! I do think it is amazing as somehow the men I am attracted to are attracted to me too. I guess that goes for anyone but I feel like as much as I am attracted to african american men, they are attracted to me. Or maybe it is just a mutual connection….go with the flow…who cares???

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By: Teska27

Teska27 — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 04:31:35 +0000

I think that people need to learn how to mind their own business. If someone doesn’t like interracial dating….SO WHAT!!! Its not anyone else’s place to decide who we can or can not date. We all should date who ever makes us happy. There are more important issues in the world than to be worried about who’s dating who…

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By: segahikui

segahikui — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 23:42:23 +0000

Well said trulysassi! I agree totally with what you said. I couldn’t have put it better. Socialization has a big impact on why we choose who we choose.
However, I cannot ignore the attraction factor. I have dated interracially most of my life and I don’t limit myself. If people are mutually attracted to one another they should go for it.
One last thing, I think that a lot of people are attracted to people of other races but they are afraid of what their family and friends might think.
My one time girlfriend told her dad that she was dating a black man and he flipped out! She got a lot of “stuff” for that.

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By: RadiantMommy

RadiantMommy — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 14:53:14 +0000

Interracial dating is a beautiful thing, you cant help what you like. If you eyes wonder and your curious about something than naturally you should explore that.

I have dated interracially for years and have a 3 year old bi-racial daughter as a result. Many men have asked me why i prefer to date outside of my race and my answer to them is personal preference. Just as some men love blondes etc..etc… I happen to love black men. That is not to say if a white/Asian/Indian man came along and we hit it off that i would NOT date him…i definately would. I just cnt help but be attracted to blk men initially, i guess it just comes from within.

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By: trulysassi

trulysassi — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 17:17:06 +0000

The reality is that our prejudices can have a major impact on those we choose or don’t choose to date. I think that many people mask their racial prejudices by simply claiming that their dating choices are purely due to their preference for one group over another. We live in a world that is filled with bigotry so it just makes sense that some of things (features/characteristics) we find attractive result from that socialization.

Personally, I’m open to dating someone from any racial/ethnic group if I find him attractive. However, I do understand that some people have very strong physical preferences. What I find totally unacceptable with some who choose to date inter-racially is the way they stereotype their own group and/or that of the person they are dating.

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By: 85kguy

85kguy — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 22:34:02 +0000

Western asian men from Hong Kong to Japan are selecting different women from the traditional of their exact asian culture. I have seen some articles on this.

Some european women are crazy about guys that are not traditional european guys. US Military guys in Germany marry a lot of german women.

Some people prefer a pc and some prefer a macintosh. Others prefer to play with LINUX computers and some like all computer operating systems.

From dating to computer operating systems, non-traditional preferences seem to come when there are more acceptance and understanding of options.

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By: Roger

Roger — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 18:43:46 +0000

I have to support Jamaicangirl’s comment. NYC does depress me since I hardly ever see Asian women with Asian men.

People like to criticize white men for having “yellow fever,” but the truth of the matter is, Asian female “white fever” is much much stronger.

I think that the trend really is sign of female excessive pickiness. White women are making it harder and harder on white men, so the white men resort to Asian women. And Asian women make it really tough on Asian men.

Women speak ceaselessly about their own body image problems, but are completely shameless about how they discriminate based on height and race.

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By: fkoi

fkoi — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 21:45:18 +0000

If you choose to date someone because of their race, uh, er, a, that IS prejudice (preconceived judgment or opinion – “Merriam-Webster”). Even at that I’m sure that someone who is attracted to Esther Rolle wouldn’t necessarily be attracted to Halle Berry.

And attraction is the operative word. If I am attracted to a woman and she to me, do we really have to explain “Why” to anyone else? Would the phrase, “It’s none of you business!” be politically correct enough?

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By: csj260972

csj260972 — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 20:53:44 +0000

In the search for love/lust, casting as wide a met as possible has to be a good thing surely.

I grew up in a very culturally diverse area and so dated men of all faiths/colours. No one type of guy was ever any different to the other in respect of how I was treated, as I don’t accept poor treatment. Nor do I treat people poorly myself. If you’ve got an open heart and mind but are nobody’s fool, you’ll only get the best out of all people.

I’m still looking for my Mr. Right and enjoying the search very much.

Peace

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