Comments on: Can sex with a stranger be intimate? http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/ The community that fuses fun and romance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:28:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-34710 serenity33 Sat, 23 Oct 2010 19:48:15 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-34710 Sex outside of a committed relationship is never going to be intimate. As a marriage counselor, I have counseled many couples with marital problems and most often what ruins their relationships is the past when they had sex outside of marriage. It causes psychological scarring and baggage that is brought into a serious relationship when one finally DOES want to settle down and get married. And what is done, can’t be undone and it makes it that much harder for couples to be truly emotionally, spiritually, and psychological intimate in marriage the more they have had sex with other people outside of marriage. Sex loses the true meaning of cementing a serious relationship together with real intimacy. Sadly enough, they have to find other ways outside of sex to be intimate with each other on a deeper level because sex for intimacy is ruined because of past shallow associations with people they weren’t committed to. They can still have great sex in their marriage but it doesn’t mean much to them emotionally and certainly isn’t intimate. Mad, passionate, sex, is not linked to intimacy many times but often is just lust or sex drive but it doesn’t require intimacy. But sex amongst a committed couple is more fulfilling and deep and can bring deep intimacy if there isn’t baggage to ruin it. So it is all in what you are expecting from sex in marriage or sex in general. If you are just out to get your rocks off, then you can have sex with almost anyone that you find attractive that is good in bed. But if you are trying to use sex for real intimacy and deep fulfillment, then you had better wait until you are in a committed and loving relationship. Choice is all yours. I don’t think Dr. Ruth really knows what true love really is and she is just worried about enjoying sex which is honestly not that hard if you know what you are doing and many people do but there are plenty of things in the world to enjoy besides sex and yet they don’t have experts on that because they come more naturally like hobbies or passions for sports or collecting or things like that or like in my case, learning more and more about my areas of expertise like psychology and theology and my love of cats and also helping others. Those are passions of mine that make my life fulfilling that I don’t have to ruin sexual intimacy with a possible wife someday in order to appreciate. It is all a matter of disciplining yourself and channeling your baser instincts like immediate sexual gratification to other areas of greater quality depth. It isn’t the easiest course of people to follow but it is the most altruistic and peaceful one that gives me confidence and the peace to look in the mirror without shame and the calm to sleep calmly with no regrets at night.:-) Sex outside of a committed relationship is never going to be intimate. As a marriage counselor, I have counseled many couples with marital problems and most often what ruins their relationships is the past when they had sex outside of marriage. It causes psychological scarring and baggage that is brought into a serious relationship when one finally DOES want to settle down and get married. And what is done, can’t be undone and it makes it that much harder for couples to be truly emotionally, spiritually, and psychological intimate in marriage the more they have had sex with other people outside of marriage. Sex loses the true meaning of cementing a serious relationship together with real intimacy. Sadly enough, they have to find other ways outside of sex to be intimate with each other on a deeper level because sex for intimacy is ruined because of past shallow associations with people they weren’t committed to. They can still have great sex in their marriage but it doesn’t mean much to them emotionally and certainly isn’t intimate. Mad, passionate, sex, is not linked to intimacy many times but often is just lust or sex drive but it doesn’t require intimacy. But sex amongst a committed couple is more fulfilling and deep and can bring deep intimacy if there isn’t baggage to ruin it. So it is all in what you are expecting from sex in marriage or sex in general. If you are just out to get your rocks off, then you can have sex with almost anyone that you find attractive that is good in bed. But if you are trying to use sex for real intimacy and deep fulfillment, then you had better wait until you are in a committed and loving relationship. Choice is all yours. I don’t think Dr. Ruth really knows what true love really is and she is just worried about enjoying sex which is honestly not that hard if you know what you are doing and many people do but there are plenty of things in the world to enjoy besides sex and yet they don’t have experts on that because they come more naturally like hobbies or passions for sports or collecting or things like that or like in my case, learning more and more about my areas of expertise like psychology and theology and my love of cats and also helping others. Those are passions of mine that make my life fulfilling that I don’t have to ruin sexual intimacy with a possible wife someday in order to appreciate. It is all a matter of disciplining yourself and channeling your baser instincts like immediate sexual gratification to other areas of greater quality depth. It isn’t the easiest course of people to follow but it is the most altruistic and peaceful one that gives me confidence and the peace to look in the mirror without shame and the calm to sleep calmly with no regrets at night.:-)

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]]> By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-34428 serenity33 Sat, 16 Oct 2010 21:24:32 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-34428 Sex outside of a committed relationship is never going to be intimate. As a marriage counselor, I have counseled many couples with marital problems and most often what ruins their relationships is the past when they had sex outside of marriage. It causes psychological scarring and baggage that is brought into a serious relationship when one finally DOES want to settle down and get married. And what is done, can't be undone and it makes it that much harder for couples to be truly emotionally, spiritually, and psychological intimate in marriage the more they have had sex with other people outside of marriage. Sex loses the true meaning of cementing a serious relationship together with real intimacy. Sadly enough, they have to find other ways outside of sex to be intimate with each other on a deeper level because sex for intimacy is ruined because of past shallow associations with people they weren't committed to. They can still have great sex in their marriage but it doesn't mean much to them emotionally and certainly isn't intimate. Mad, passionate, sex, is not linked to intimacy many times but often is just lust or sex drive but it doesn't require intimacy. But sex amongst a committed couple is more fulfilling and deep and can bring deep intimacy if there isn't baggage to ruin it. So it is all in what you are expecting from sex in marriage or sex in general. If you are just out to get your rocks off, then you can have sex with almost anyone that you find attractive that is good in bed. But if you are trying to use sex for real intimacy and deep fulfillment, then you had better wait until you are in a committed and loving relationship. Choice is all yours. I don't think Dr. Ruth really knows what true love really is and she is just worried about enjoying sex which is honestly not that hard if you know what you are doing and many people do but there are plenty of things in the world to enjoy besides sex and yet they don't have experts on that because they come more naturally like hobbies or passions for sports or collecting or things like that or like in my case, learning more and more about my areas of expertise like psychology and theology and my love of cats and also helping others. Those are passions of mine that make my life fulfilling that I don't have to ruin sexual intimacy with a possible wife someday in order to appreciate. It is all a matter of disciplining yourself and channeling your baser instincts like immediate sexual gratification to other areas of greater quality depth. It isn't the easiest course of people to follow but it is the most altruistic and peaceful one that gives me confidence and the peace to look in the mirror without shame and the calm to sleep calmly with no regrets at night.:-) Sex outside of a committed relationship is never going to be intimate. As a marriage counselor, I have counseled many couples with marital problems and most often what ruins their relationships is the past when they had sex outside of marriage. It causes psychological scarring and baggage that is brought into a serious relationship when one finally DOES want to settle down and get married. And what is done, can’t be undone and it makes it that much harder for couples to be truly emotionally, spiritually, and psychological intimate in marriage the more they have had sex with other people outside of marriage. Sex loses the true meaning of cementing a serious relationship together with real intimacy. Sadly enough, they have to find other ways outside of sex to be intimate with each other on a deeper level because sex for intimacy is ruined because of past shallow associations with people they weren’t committed to. They can still have great sex in their marriage but it doesn’t mean much to them emotionally and certainly isn’t intimate. Mad, passionate, sex, is not linked to intimacy many times but often is just lust or sex drive but it doesn’t require intimacy. But sex amongst a committed couple is more fulfilling and deep and can bring deep intimacy if there isn’t baggage to ruin it. So it is all in what you are expecting from sex in marriage or sex in general. If you are just out to get your rocks off, then you can have sex with almost anyone that you find attractive that is good in bed. But if you are trying to use sex for real intimacy and deep fulfillment, then you had better wait until you are in a committed and loving relationship. Choice is all yours. I don’t think Dr. Ruth really knows what true love really is and she is just worried about enjoying sex which is honestly not that hard if you know what you are doing and many people do but there are plenty of things in the world to enjoy besides sex and yet they don’t have experts on that because they come more naturally like hobbies or passions for sports or collecting or things like that or like in my case, learning more and more about my areas of expertise like psychology and theology and my love of cats and also helping others. Those are passions of mine that make my life fulfilling that I don’t have to ruin sexual intimacy with a possible wife someday in order to appreciate. It is all a matter of disciplining yourself and channeling your baser instincts like immediate sexual gratification to other areas of greater quality depth. It isn’t the easiest course of people to follow but it is the most altruistic and peaceful one that gives me confidence and the peace to look in the mirror without shame and the calm to sleep calmly with no regrets at night.:-)

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]]> By: delicious149 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29766 delicious149 Sat, 14 Nov 2009 09:32:30 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29766 Seems like this was a somewhat heated debate of opinions. LOL I, on the other hand beg to differ. Strangers having sex can be very intimate; providing u don't just DO IT for the sake of lust. And I'm sure those out there who know me would probably say, "Of course YOU would disagree!" Strangers meet, no matter the length of conversation, they somehow feel what each other need. Sometimes interest in sex becomes more of a need than a want; feelings brought on by loneliness, lack of, etc. When two strangers can have heated moments of passionate love making, looking into each others eyes, no words spoken because each are going with what they feel and it happens naturally & not planned; then yes they do become emotionally & mentally connected. One would have to be MATURE and have experienced this to know what I'm saying here. When the above mentioned takes place & each have explored heights of pleasure w/this stranger they have never experienced with anyone else; when each has fulfilled the other's NEEDS how can they not be emotionally & mentally connected. These moments of heated, and I do mean HEATED, passionate love-making; when no words need to be spoken, only what u feel are experienced, what else can it be? It would have to be two "nuts" trying to get a nut to not understand this one. LOL, can't wait to see the feed back on this one! Seems like this was a somewhat heated debate of opinions. LOL I, on the other hand beg to differ. Strangers having sex can be very intimate; providing u don’t just DO IT for the sake of lust. And I’m sure those out there who know me would probably say, “Of course YOU would disagree!” Strangers meet, no matter the length of conversation, they somehow feel what each other need. Sometimes interest in sex becomes more of a need than a want; feelings brought on by loneliness, lack of, etc. When two strangers can have heated moments of passionate love making, looking into each others eyes, no words spoken because each are going with what they feel and it happens naturally & not planned; then yes they do become emotionally & mentally connected. One would have to be MATURE and have experienced this to know what I’m saying here. When the above mentioned takes place & each have explored heights of pleasure w/this stranger they have never experienced with anyone else; when each has fulfilled the other’s NEEDS how can they not be emotionally & mentally connected. These moments of heated, and I do mean HEATED, passionate love-making; when no words need to be spoken, only what u feel are experienced, what else can it be? It would have to be two “nuts” trying to get a nut to not understand this one. LOL, can’t wait to see the feed back on this one!

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]]> By: Mocha Cravens http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29765 Mocha Cravens Wed, 29 Apr 2009 19:11:49 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29765 k k

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]]> By: Smile4242 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29764 Smile4242 Tue, 31 Mar 2009 05:20:35 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29764 I think this goes with the "sex vs. making love" comparison. Sometimes you want some passionate animal sex, and sometimes you want to make love. But even the passionate animal sex is more intimate when you know the person well and care for them. I think this goes with the “sex vs. making love” comparison. Sometimes you want some passionate animal sex, and sometimes you want to make love. But even the passionate animal sex is more intimate when you know the person well and care for them.

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]]> By: Mr Laurelton Queens http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29763 Mr Laurelton Queens Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:46:19 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29763 Dear Interested How did I ignore your points? You have a complex when a black man disagrees with you. Yea, I am a sociology graduate, not a student that majors in it. What exactly your points have to do with this topic? Jog my memory? From my understanding, you like black women that are educated instead of the "ghetto girls". I am just paraphrasing what you said. You dodged my comments for some reason. You want to critique grammar and spelling. Just become an English professor. Good day Dear Interested

How did I ignore your points? You have a complex when a black man disagrees with you.

Yea, I am a sociology graduate, not a student that majors in it.

What exactly your points have to do with this topic?

Jog my memory?

From my understanding, you like black women that are educated instead of the “ghetto girls”. I am just paraphrasing what you said. You dodged my comments for some reason.

You want to critique grammar and spelling. Just become an English professor.

Good day

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]]> By: Interested07 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29762 Interested07 Sun, 15 Mar 2009 04:38:26 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29762 Queens, Since you have decided to ignore all the points I made, from here on out, I will do the same for you. Peace out. Queens,

Since you have decided to ignore all the points I made, from here on out, I will do the same for you.

Peace out.

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]]> By: Mr Laurelton Queens http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29761 Mr Laurelton Queens Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:24:18 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29761 Dear Interested I am sorry you feel that way. I assure you, I earned my degree. Frankly, I don't care what profession you work in because it has nothing to do with the topic. If you were coherent enough to worry about the topic and not my personal life maybe I would listen to you. You said this in your last statement........... "By the way, I am a white man who is more than happy to date black women (particularly educated ones)." I don't know what you mean by "particularly educated ones." I would assume the ghetto black girls are not your taste. Anyway, thanks for the comments. By the way, all my personal information is on my blog including my profession. Good day Dear Interested

I am sorry you feel that way. I assure you, I earned my degree. Frankly, I don’t care what profession you work in because it has nothing to do with the topic. If you were coherent enough to worry about the topic and not my personal life maybe I would listen to you.

You said this in your last statement………..

“By the way, I am a white man who is more than happy to date black women (particularly educated ones).”

I don’t know what you mean by “particularly educated ones.” I would assume the ghetto black girls are not your taste.

Anyway, thanks for the comments.

By the way, all my personal information is on my blog including my profession.

Good day

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]]> By: Interested07 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29760 Interested07 Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:17:05 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29760 Queens, You are a disgrace to educated people, particularly sociology majors (like myself). Frankly, I don't know what profession you work in, but it must not have high demands for professionalism, coherent thought formation nor correct spelling and grammar. If you'd like to prove me wrong, you have every opportunity, but so far, you have scored very low. By the way, I am a white man who is more than happy to date black women (particularly educated ones). Queens,

You are a disgrace to educated people, particularly sociology majors (like myself). Frankly, I don’t know what profession you work in, but it must not have high demands for professionalism, coherent thought formation nor correct spelling and grammar. If you’d like to prove me wrong, you have every opportunity, but so far, you have scored very low.

By the way, I am a white man who is more than happy to date black women (particularly educated ones).

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]]> By: Cree44 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate/comment-page-1/#comment-29759 Cree44 Fri, 13 Mar 2009 15:49:43 +0000 /fyooz/can-sex-with-a-stranger-be-intimate.htm#comment-29759 Hi Imarose, Thank you for your comment and you are correct. I beleive that Mr. Queens and I have disengaged. Best, Cree Hi Imarose,

Thank you for your comment and you are correct. I beleive that Mr. Queens and I have disengaged.

Best,
Cree

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