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Can a Black Woman Find Love with a Former White Supremacist?
Terron Johnson*, 38, is a quiet, soft spoken woman. But under all that solemnity lies a woman with a take-no-bullshit strength with her own mind. That’s why when others bristle about the idea of her meeting and mating with a formerly ranked member of the Aryan Brotherhood, she shakes it off. “I don’t feed off of drama. My life doesn't go up and down based on what you think of me,” she says.
Terron met Steve Sparks three years ago online, albeit reluctantly. In fact, meeting Steve online was her first experience. She was attracted to his work as an artist, but knew little about his past. They had their first meeting at a park, and Steve showed up under dressed for a barn dance. “When I met him...he had long, shoulder-length hair, no shirt, and dressed in wrinkled short with a hole in the back,” Terron recalls, chuckling. In his “oh shucks” Oklahoma country boy charm he apologized for his appearance, explaining that he’d just rushed over in the middle painting. It was then when Steve divulged his life’s story, and Terron was riveted.
Steve Sparks, 40, native of Oklahoma, told Terron he was once a high-raking soldier for the Aryan Brotherhood. He was raised by birth to be a racist, growing up on the cusp of all the cultural shifts in the Midwest. Many of the adults of his generation struggled with their own financial instability, while seeing the government flush with programs for minorities.
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"It was the general outlook of the white people in the seventies. In the economically depressed rural areas where I was from the civil liberties weren't being passed out to just everyone and the idea was that minorities in general were a burden and the cause for our economic ills... not the truth by far but the general sentiments of the ignorant," said Steve.
Steve eventually realized that he just hated hating. "Hate was eating my soul up and I didn't even really know why I hated anyone." He also had a big secret that wracked him with guilt--he loved black women. "I think the most beautiful women in the world are those of tones reflecting the earth mother herself, from dust we are made."
Needless to say, Terron was rocked by that news. “It was hard to see that he could ever have been that way. I would have never believed he was in the AB (short for Aryan Brotherhood). But when he told me, I was like, ‘okay.’ There is room for change. I believe the Lord can change people,” says Terron.
Three years after that first meeting, Steve and Terron share a son, and have plans to marry.
When people challenge her on her decision, she throws it back. “How is it any different than some black women dating men in and out of prison?”
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