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Can a Black Woman Find Love with a Former White Supremacist?

Posted by Christelyn, 12 Nov 13

white supremacistTerron Johnson*, 38, is a quiet, soft spoken woman. But under all that solemnity lies a woman with a take-no-bullshit strength with her own mind. That’s why when others bristle about the idea of her meeting and mating with a formerly ranked member of the Aryan Brotherhood, she shakes it off. “I don’t feed off of drama. My life doesn't go up and down based on what you think of me,” she says.

Terron met Steve Sparks three years ago online, albeit reluctantly. In fact, meeting Steve online was her first experience. She was attracted to his work as an artist, but knew little about his past. They had their first meeting at a park, and Steve showed up under dressed for a barn dance. “When I met him...he had long, shoulder-length hair, no shirt, and dressed in wrinkled short with a hole in the back,” Terron recalls, chuckling. In his “oh shucks” Oklahoma country boy charm he apologized for his appearance, explaining that he’d just rushed over in the middle painting. It was then when Steve divulged his life’s story, and Terron was riveted.

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Steve Sparks, 40, native of Oklahoma, told Terron he was once a high-raking soldier for the Aryan Brotherhood. He was raised by birth to be a racist, growing up on the cusp of all the cultural shifts in the Midwest. Many of the adults of his generation struggled with their own financial instability, while seeing the government flush with programs for minorities.

"It was the general outlook of the white people in the seventies. In the economically depressed rural areas where I was from the civil liberties weren't being passed out to just everyone and the idea was that minorities in general were a burden and the cause for our economic ills... not the truth by far but the general sentiments of the ignorant," said Steve.

So Steve joined the Aryan Brotherhood, according to Wikipedia, is a white prison gang and organized crime syndicate in the United States with about 19,000 members in and out of prison.

Steve eventually realized that he just hated hating. "Hate was eating my soul up and I didn't even really know why I hated anyone." He also had a big secret that wracked him with guilt--he loved black women. "I think the most beautiful women in the world are those of tones reflecting the earth mother herself, from dust we are made."

Needless to say, Terron was rocked by that news. “It was hard to see that he could ever have been that way. I would have never believed he was in the AB (short for Aryan Brotherhood). But when he told me, I was like, ‘okay.’ There is room for change. I believe the Lord can change people,” says Terron.

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Three years after that first meeting, Steve and Terron share a son, and have plans to marry.

When people challenge her on her decision, she throws it back. “How is it any different than some black women dating men in and out of prison?”

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  1.   Juedo says:
    Posted: 25 Nov

    Dear brother the greatest of wishes from Oklahoma, some of us do not have the strength for such an honorable path. you were very bold and I admire your great courage. For so long iv shared your decision, yet haven't the strength to follow it. raised in French Cajun Louisiana I was raised with your perspective's, yet Oklahoma D.O.C. has made me into what I thought I never could be. you, I think, have found an exemplary woman. what a great honor to see your story, and to know that woman such as you've found truly do exist. Her compassion and clarity of thought is unbelievable, breath taking. I am well traveled and have never seen such the like. what an honor. I am humbled by the strength the two of you have , may your love shine for all to see and receive peace from. I now know I have. With Peace, Love and Respect, your brother, God Bless.

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  2. Posted: 22 Aug

    Interesting story. It's great that he was able to overcome his superficial hate; and became involved with the skin tone that he had always secretly admired.

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  3.   zhariah66 says:
    Posted: 02 Jul

    You know what everyone deserves a second chance. ...that's God right there. ..people change...some for the good ....some for the bad...but I believe that if people find love...and joy in their union....then so be it....who are we to judge others....

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  4.   rosej8 says:
    Posted: 10 Feb

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  5.   Dknsweet1 says:
    Posted: 04 Dec 14

    Beautiful story of love and proof that true love will prevail. I myself would allow anyone a chance to change and overcome their past. We ALL have things in our "closets: that we'd be ashamed to share. WE must forgive to be forgiven and give love to receive it. God bless them and their beautiful child; what a story they'll have to pass down to their family's generations to follow!!

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  6.   Eam60 says:
    Posted: 29 May 14

    I know this story sound very strange to most people but, when I was in college my professor paired me up with a person that had racial hate and hated people of color. One day in our Chemistry class we were doing an experiment and I accicdentially touched him and he turned ruby red....I replied and told him ....it is not going to rub of (meaning my brown color). The next day we had to communicate about our project in-order to receive a grade. To make a long story short, we got to know each other pretty well at the end of the semester. We eventually went out on a date, to parties, to dinner. We were able to talk about why he had this manufactured hate inside of him....he explained to me that was what he was taught and thought that was the right thing to do. We were able to pass over the ignorance and got to be really good friends.

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  7.   roostergod says:
    Posted: 03 May 14

    Also there story is one of the GREATS!!! From the AB to marrying a beautiful black woman. I do wish there was more of there experience together. Like how has it been? I mean like all the people he knew in the AB. Like have they been going after him or trying to cause problems with the couple. EIther way I wish them all 3 of them the VERY BEST!!! 1 step at a time.

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  8.   roostergod says:
    Posted: 03 May 14

    One thing I find right about him is how we loves black women, Im the same way. This is just me but they r the most beautiful women youll ever see

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  9.   Nimssy says:
    Posted: 01 May 14

    White men are nyc and no matter what haters say,i wont give up on finding one.

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    • 2fyne says:
      Posted: 17 May 14

      You say that like you're on a mission to find a white man. I find that so odd. Why not just keep your mind and heart open to ALL shades of man?

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    • rosej8 says:
      Posted: 10 Feb

      please stop amking black women seem desperate.

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  10.   Jeff2014 says:
    Posted: 26 Apr 14

    Good on the both of them i say!!!!!!! For the people who told her that they were against it... Mind your own damn business!!!!!!! It's her life and she can live it any way she pleases and as for the dude!!! Well he was an idiot wasn't he, for all those years hanging with the wrong people which held him back from being with someone he loves and starting a family!!!!!!! A great man once said, "when it doesn't feel right, go left... The one who follows the crowd, will usually go no further than the crowd... The one who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been"... And i believe that great man was Albert Einstein.......

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  11. Posted: 14 Apr 14

    Well great for her! Hmm Aryan Brotherhood... sounds a lot like the criminal syndicate that runs the federal reserve and CFR; having financed drug/gun running, masonic gangs (kkk, ms-13, Mexican Mafia etc.) and for a century worked hand in hand with the Catholic 'underworld' right out of Rome... All HATE is artificially sponsored financed and implanted into humanity.

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  12.   916sacto says:
    Posted: 16 Jan 14

    WOW, you are an amazing woman. Deciding to continue to date even talk someone who was a AB had to be a hard decision. You had to have been nervous in the beginning but I applaud and him for making it through it. God had to be looking down on you and blessing you both. CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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  13. Posted: 21 Dec 13

    Awesome! It shows that we are human and love conquers all! I admire him for realizing love is better form of healing than hate. Their love created their beautiful child who will be greatness of his two parents! God bless them and their wonderful child! I know they will have a very happy life together! :)

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  14.   moses3333 says:
    Posted: 25 Nov 13

    me i think its possible that's why i can't stop from looking for that white lady who is intreasted in a black guy like me

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  15.   dave_74 says:
    Posted: 17 Nov 13

    Wow , I love these stories. Nelson Mandela even said that Love is the natural state of mankind and hate is a negative learned behavior. I'm really glad this guy eventually concurred to giving up the hate and accepting love. He has a beautiful wife (or soon to be wife) and very cute little boy. God bless and please update with the wedding pics!

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  16.   Hope_1999 says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 13

    This is a great story and one which has many lessons. Steve's past is just that, past; although it has relevance to his own being. Terron was right in looking at the person she had before her. Love is a wonderful thing......

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  17.   NectarKing says:
    Posted: 12 Nov 13

    Good for her. Great for him! Better to find love,than live in hate! Be careful to protect the love you two!

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  18. Posted: 12 Nov 13

    His past was bad but he has made changes. I admire the fact he was honest with her and she decided to give him a chance. It is a great story of redemption, unique and not an everyday occurence. Their son is beautiful! I hope people do not read this and think the author is advocating black women go out and find former white supremacists to date and marry, SHE IS NOT! the story points to the power of love. I wish them the best!

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