Comments on: Asian American multicultural relationships http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/ The community that fuses fun and romance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:28:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: bluebird http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-36267 bluebird Fri, 04 Mar 2011 04:20:05 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-36267 Marriages that do not cross a race barrier, but do have different ethnicities (i.e. white/Hispanic white) have a rate of divorce just a little higher than white/white marriages. Interracial marriages that have one white person and one person of another race mostly only show higher divorce rates when the white spouse is a female (i.e. white guy + other race girl don’t show particularly high divorce rates compared to same-race couples). Black husband/white wife marriages are twice as likely to divorce as white/white marriages, and Asian husband/white wife marriages are about 60% more likely to divorce as white/white marriages. Which, I suppose is an unfortunate statistic for Aditya and me (and one I didn’t expect at all)! White husband/black wife were nearly 50% less likely to divorce than white/white couples, and white husband/Asian wife couples had pretty much the same divorce rate as white/white couples Compared to Hispanic/Hispanic couples, Hispanic white/white couples showed a higher likelihood of divorce (not surprising). Likewise, Asian/white couples were more likely to divorce than Asian/Asian couples. However, black/white couples only show a higher rate of divorce compared to black/black couples if the white person in the relationship is a woman. The researchers were unable to evaluate other sorts of interracial marriages, such as black/Asian, because of the low number of such couples in the sample data. Marriages that do not cross a race barrier, but do have different ethnicities (i.e. white/Hispanic white) have a rate of divorce just a little higher than white/white marriages.
Interracial marriages that have one white person and one person of another race mostly only show higher divorce rates when the white spouse is a female (i.e. white guy + other race girl don’t show particularly high divorce rates compared to same-race couples).
Black husband/white wife marriages are twice as likely to divorce as white/white marriages, and Asian husband/white wife marriages are about 60% more likely to divorce as white/white marriages. Which, I suppose is an unfortunate statistic for Aditya and me (and one I didn’t expect at all)!
White husband/black wife were nearly 50% less likely to divorce than white/white couples, and white husband/Asian wife couples had pretty much the same divorce rate as white/white couples
Compared to Hispanic/Hispanic couples, Hispanic white/white couples showed a higher likelihood of divorce (not surprising). Likewise, Asian/white couples were more likely to divorce than Asian/Asian couples. However, black/white couples only show a higher rate of divorce compared to black/black couples if the white person in the relationship is a woman.
The researchers were unable to evaluate other sorts of interracial marriages, such as black/Asian, because of the low number of such couples in the sample data.

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]]> By: rpajela7 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-35412 rpajela7 Sat, 11 Dec 2010 22:57:36 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-35412 The problem that I have with interracial dating is that Asians are still classified as minority groups. We are only 4% of the population and other races have a higher percentage of visibility in relation to whites. As an adult, I always have felt that people have used this statistic against me where most people would rather date within their own races. The other fact is that we are not as spread out as say for instance African-Americans. We primarily live in hotspots around the country, like cities in California, New York, Hawaii, etc. 10 years ago, I had this idealism that I would date any woman and not be prejudiced no matter what race she is. 10 years later, I have not found a stable relationship and I've primarily dated filipino women. I'm not a womanizer. Those same women of my own race realized that I wasn't there dream man and I kept on noticing that they were all in the same profession (nursing). 10 years ago, I never knew this statistic and have always thought that caucasian people in general were at least 50% and that minority groups (Asians, Latinos, African-Americans) were at least the other half. I was wrong and I believe that growing up in New York City made me think that these statistics were nationwide. So this makes me feel like women tend to ignore me even when its not interracial. I guess my personality and body mass are also used against me. The problem that I have with interracial dating is that Asians are still classified as minority groups. We are only 4% of the population and other races have a higher percentage of visibility in relation to whites. As an adult, I always have felt that people have used this statistic against me where most people would rather date within their own races. The other fact is that we are not as spread out as say for instance African-Americans. We primarily live in hotspots around the country, like cities in California, New York, Hawaii, etc. 10 years ago, I had this idealism that I would date any woman and not be prejudiced no matter what race she is. 10 years later, I have not found a stable relationship and I’ve primarily dated filipino women. I’m not a womanizer. Those same women of my own race realized that I wasn’t there dream man and I kept on noticing that they were all in the same profession (nursing). 10 years ago, I never knew this statistic and have always thought that caucasian people in general were at least 50% and that minority groups (Asians, Latinos, African-Americans) were at least the other half. I was wrong and I believe that growing up in New York City made me think that these statistics were nationwide. So this makes me feel like women tend to ignore me even when its not interracial. I guess my personality and body mass are also used against me.

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]]> By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-34321 serenity33 Tue, 12 Oct 2010 01:25:29 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-34321 I met a wonderful Korean/Japanese woman on another dating site and she is fantastic. A virgin and a good Christian and a brilliant mind and even though she isn't what everyone would call attractive since she is overweight and shorter than five feet by an inch but I still think she is beautiful to my eye. She teaches English to Muslim countries and is in danger a lot. I have yet to meet her which I should be able to do in July when she comes to meet me from Japan. Those of you that are religious pray that things go right. She is just like me in sexual beliefs too. She doesn't believe in anything more than kissing before marriage which is just what I am looking for. She is demanding though because she expects who she is with to read the Bible every day and then discuss with her what she read. But that is right up my ally when it comes to what I want a woman since I graduated from Seminary so I am glad she is fussy about men. I wish more women were that way and kept men in check!!:-) I met a wonderful Korean/Japanese woman on another dating site and she is fantastic. A virgin and a good Christian and a brilliant mind and even though she isn’t what everyone would call attractive since she is overweight and shorter than five feet by an inch but I still think she is beautiful to my eye. She teaches English to Muslim countries and is in danger a lot. I have yet to meet her which I should be able to do in July when she comes to meet me from Japan. Those of you that are religious pray that things go right. She is just like me in sexual beliefs too. She doesn’t believe in anything more than kissing before marriage which is just what I am looking for. She is demanding though because she expects who she is with to read the Bible every day and then discuss with her what she read. But that is right up my ally when it comes to what I want a woman since I graduated from Seminary so I am glad she is fussy about men. I wish more women were that way and kept men in check!!:-)

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]]> By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-34320 serenity33 Tue, 12 Oct 2010 01:17:10 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-34320 I agree with as far as Asian women. I haven’t met any nice black women on this site that aren’t filled with hostility and a chip on their shoulder. But that is just my experience. I was handsome like guys like Newawlunzguy, it might be a different story because he is a real catch.:-) But the only women to be civil on this website to me are Asian and white women. Problem is that as even Asian women become Westernized, they are giving up the traditional values of Asian cultures of honor and respect and taking up the corrupt value of Western looks consciousness and materialism and power seeking. You need to get some old school Asian females. One of the best women I ever dated was an old school Filipino. I wish we could ship some of the spoiled women of the United States to Muslim nations and let them taste what other women are suffering and then they would have no reason to bitch and moan about how hard they have it here and treat American men better in general. All the men on here have been great and very civil and logical and not hostile. You can still have a friendly debate with them without them getting all nasty and irrational and you can make up with them easier. So I think sexual differences are greater than cultural differences when it comes down to it. That is why I enjoy talking to men of all cultures because things always seem to work themselves out no matter what culture they are. And I have met in real life mostly cool Asian men. And I agree with you about the butch, raunchy, arrogance of women today in Westernized societies especially the USA. But I wouldn’t underestimate black, Latino or any woman that is too Westernized when it comes to liking dumbed-down stuff. I have seen many white women that are less susceptible than other ethnicitiies than non-white women to being corrupted by Western society, especially American women. But being around cool Asians does rub off as I have adopted honor and respect from Asian men and even Insa(Korean for bowing) to everyone I meet no matter what their race. It is just a part of me now. So if the media caters ever caters to old school Asian values, then the standard will be higher but they never will. The media and films are the worse corrupters of all with shows and commercials and movies only causing morality and relationships to spiral down hill. That’s why we have the highest divorce rate and single mother rate in the world because of bad morals and lack of respect for marriage and the importance of make the right decision in marriages and sticking with your decision and working it out. That’s what I asked an Indian couple that was old school and had an arranged marriage. They said they originally didn’t get along but if since they didn’t have the option of divorce in their society, they were forced to work out their issues and now they are really in love with each other truly and you can really see it when you are around them.:-) African American women though are worse than African women because I think it is the fault of the white man and slavery. Slaves weren’t allowed to marry and black men were used as studs and had many women so they didn’t have stable relationships staring when they were abducted from Africa in the first place. That legacy carries over to today as black women are used to getting pregnant at an early age and raising kids by themselves with the help of their single mothers while the black man was bread for his endurance and strength and athletic prowess and are also used to being raised by single mothers and often don’t have good black male role models like fathers to influence them like other cultures do. The trend is slowly reversing although much faster in black men than black women but it will take time for the healing to take place. I think the roots of the greedy corrupt corporations that try to indoctrinate everyone to be shallow for the sake of buying more merchandise need to be taken out. First we need to be aware of the indoctrination and realize that all of us are bombarded by it no matter what race or sex you are and then we can make a conscious decision to fight it and become morally and psychologically healthy again. I was involved in different studies when I was going for my psychology degree and one of them was consumer choices and influences. They found out that I was in the one percentile range and if everyone valued what I value, the consumer economy would collapse the way it is targeting people now because I think so differently than the average consumer.;-) Of course there were a lot of confounding variables with me such as awareness of indoctrination and a high moral set of standards and a highly developed conscious. And studies show that as more countries and cultures become like the USA, they suddenly start having trouble with eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia and looks consciousness. It has been found on tribes first exposed to Western United States culture for the first time. Fascinating study actually but sad. Also single motherhood went up and the family unit started to disintegrate and moral behavior went down and morality decayed. First the extended family started to fall apart as older people were seen as a burden rather than older wiser people to learn from(very American) and then the nuclear family fell apart as promiscuity increased and venereal diseases and other communicable disease like TB increased. But like I said, totally agree that we need a better influence to set a higher standard for us all before we end up like the Roman empire and collapse. And sorry for the bad grammar because I know you hate that but Psychology majors and counselors like myself are notorious for bad grammar and also being bad at math which is why when we conduct studies, we send out data to be crunched by statisticians rather than doing it ourselves and we just interpret the results.;-) I agree with as far as Asian women. I haven’t met any nice black women on this site that aren’t filled with hostility and a chip on their shoulder. But that is just my experience. I was handsome like guys like Newawlunzguy, it might be a different story because he is a real catch.:-) But the only women to be civil on this website to me are Asian and white women. Problem is that as even Asian women become Westernized, they are giving up the traditional values of Asian cultures of honor and respect and taking up the corrupt value of Western looks consciousness and materialism and power seeking. You need to get some old school Asian females. One of the best women I ever dated was an old school Filipino. I wish we could ship some of the spoiled women of the United States to Muslim nations and let them taste what other women are suffering and then they would have no reason to bitch and moan about how hard they have it here and treat American men better in general.
All the men on here have been great and very civil and logical and not hostile. You can still have a friendly debate with them without them getting all nasty and irrational and you can make up with them easier. So I think sexual differences are greater than cultural differences when it comes down to it. That is why I enjoy talking to men of all cultures because things always seem to work themselves out no matter what culture they are. And I have met in real life mostly cool Asian men. And I agree with you about the butch, raunchy, arrogance of women today in Westernized societies especially the USA. But I wouldn’t underestimate black, Latino or any woman that is too Westernized when it comes to liking dumbed-down stuff. I have seen many white women that are less susceptible than other ethnicitiies than non-white women to being corrupted by Western society, especially American women. But being around cool Asians does rub off as I have adopted honor and respect from Asian men and even Insa(Korean for bowing) to everyone I meet no matter what their race. It is just a part of me now. So if the media caters ever caters to old school Asian values, then the standard will be higher but they never will. The media and films are the worse corrupters of all with shows and commercials and movies only causing morality and relationships to spiral down hill. That’s why we have the highest divorce rate and single mother rate in the world because of bad morals and lack of respect for marriage and the importance of make the right decision in marriages and sticking with your decision and working it out.
That’s what I asked an Indian couple that was old school and had an arranged marriage. They said they originally didn’t get along but if since they didn’t have the option of divorce in their society, they were forced to work out their issues and now they are really in love with each other truly and you can really see it when you are around them.:-) African American women though are worse than African women because I think it is the fault of the white man and slavery. Slaves weren’t allowed to marry and black men were used as studs and had many women so they didn’t have stable relationships staring when they were abducted from Africa in the first place.
That legacy carries over to today as black women are used to getting pregnant at an early age and raising kids by themselves with the help of their single mothers while the black man was bread for his endurance and strength and athletic prowess and are also used to being raised by single mothers and often don’t have good black male role models like fathers to influence them like other cultures do. The trend is slowly reversing although much faster in black men than black women but it will take time for the healing to take place. I think the roots of the greedy corrupt corporations that try to indoctrinate everyone to be shallow for the sake of buying more merchandise need to be taken out. First we need to be aware of the indoctrination and realize that all of us are bombarded by it no matter what race or sex you are and then we can make a conscious decision to fight it and become morally and psychologically healthy again. I was involved in different studies when I was going for my psychology degree and one of them was consumer choices and influences. They found out that I was in the one percentile range and if everyone valued what I value, the consumer economy would collapse the way it is targeting people now because I think so differently than the average consumer.;-) Of course there were a lot of confounding variables with me such as awareness of indoctrination and a high moral set of standards and a highly developed conscious.
And studies show that as more countries and cultures become like the USA, they suddenly start having trouble with eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia and looks consciousness. It has been found on tribes first exposed to Western United States culture for the first time. Fascinating study actually but sad. Also single motherhood went up and the family unit started to disintegrate and moral behavior went down and morality decayed. First the extended family started to fall apart as older people were seen as a burden rather than older wiser people to learn from(very American) and then the nuclear family fell apart as promiscuity increased and venereal diseases and other communicable disease like TB increased.
But like I said, totally agree that we need a better influence to set a higher standard for us all before we end up like the Roman empire and collapse. And sorry for the bad grammar because I know you hate that but Psychology majors and counselors like myself are notorious for bad grammar and also being bad at math which is why when we conduct studies, we send out data to be crunched by statisticians rather than doing it ourselves and we just interpret the results.;-)

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]]> By: Memo626 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-33956 Memo626 Tue, 14 Sep 2010 23:35:44 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-33956 This is the most honest and most educational post I have seen. I am an asian girl in a serious relationship with a white guy. Sometimes I wish my boyfriend were asian. Does that make me somewhat racist? Or maybe I'm just tired of people labeling me. If I were dating an asian guy I would be labeled as normal and I would not be under the radar. I think I make him sad sometimes when I tell him this. I searched for stuff online to see if anyone else experiences this. However, I found something totally different. I found alot of asian guys very angry at asian women for not dating asian guys. I found that a lot of black people believe that asians are racists towards them. I found theories about how asians want to be white. Nothing I found was helpful. Everything I found was full of anger and hate and alot of times just plain stupid. This is the most honest and most educational post I have seen.

I am an asian girl in a serious relationship with a white guy. Sometimes I wish my boyfriend were asian. Does that make me somewhat racist? Or maybe I’m just tired of people labeling me. If I were dating an asian guy I would be labeled as normal and I would not be under the radar. I think I make him sad sometimes when I tell him this.

I searched for stuff online to see if anyone else experiences this. However, I found something totally different. I found alot of asian guys very angry at asian women for not dating asian guys. I found that a lot of black people believe that asians are racists towards them. I found theories about how asians want to be white. Nothing I found was helpful. Everything I found was full of anger and hate and alot of times just plain stupid.

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]]> By: Memo626 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-33955 Memo626 Tue, 14 Sep 2010 23:24:25 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-33955 The problem here is that you're trying to generalize a group. Not all asian women struggle with their eye appearance. I am proof. I am happy with the way I am. (Sure I could use more exercise and eat healthier, but who doesn't?) I am piss tired of articles like the one above generalizing asian women. Oh, and what is the point of you posting what you "found" to be an insecurity asian women struggle with? There is none. Most people have some sort of insecurity whether it be physical or emotional. And how the hell does having an insecurity make a person have a preference for white men? This post makes no sense. The problem here is that you’re trying to generalize a group. Not all asian women struggle with their eye appearance. I am proof. I am happy with the way I am. (Sure I could use more exercise and eat healthier, but who doesn’t?) I am piss tired of articles like the one above generalizing asian women.

Oh, and what is the point of you posting what you “found” to be an insecurity asian women struggle with? There is none. Most people have some sort of insecurity whether it be physical or emotional.

And how the hell does having an insecurity make a person have a preference for white men?

This post makes no sense.

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]]> By: Memo626 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-33954 Memo626 Tue, 14 Sep 2010 23:13:59 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-33954 Hmm. I find that all these theories about asian women are really just that...theories. I am hoping that none of these theories are applied to every asian woman you meet. In fact, I hope that every time you meet a new person you start with a clean slate. I guess I feel like I have to reply to some of these crazy theories. I guess I am offended because your theory states that asian women have been programmed by our society to pass on all flavors (of icecream) because vanilla is safer. (I got a good laugh out of that.) It is true that the majority of our society are white people. Therefore, most of everything that is made or produced will be for white people. White people will be portrayed as beautiful, wealthy, smart...so on and so forth. So everyone (not just asian women) will be affected by it to a different degree. (Yes, even white people will be affected by it.) Some people won't notice it. Some people embrace it. Some people fight it. Some just don't care. I met my boyfriend online playing a video game. I had no idea what he looked like for three years. We started out as friends and we ended up falling in love. It just kind of snuck up on me. When I found out he was white I was very disappointed. Before I met him I dated asian guys exclusively. All my friends knew I was interested only in asian guys. I didn't think I was racist. I just grew up believing I would date and marry an asian guy. I had plenty of crushes on white and black guys growing up but nothing more than that. Needless to say my parents were pissed. They did not talk to me for two years. I have also noted that when we go eat out together we get weird looks. People just stare rudely. We have had white people blatantly treat us wrongly, asian people stare us down (they stare me down like I'm a traitor), and black people tell me I'm racist. I can only guess as to the reasons why. I am guessing that the white folks don't like the fact that a white guy is dating an asian girl. I am guessing that the asian folks don't like the fact that I'm an asian girl and I should be dating an asian guy. We have had random black guys come up to my boyfriend and tell him he is "the man" and that asian girls would not bother with black guys. That pisses me off something fierce. If I had a magic wand, I would change my boyfriend to an asian just to be rid of this stupid race stuff. Better yet, I would change all the people of the world to green. We can all have green skin and guess what? We would still fight over other differences. But at least it'll be one less thing we'll be fighting about. Hmm. I find that all these theories about asian women are really just that…theories. I am hoping that none of these theories are applied to every asian woman you meet. In fact, I hope that every time you meet a new person you start with a clean slate.

I guess I feel like I have to reply to some of these crazy theories. I guess I am offended because your theory states that asian women have been programmed by our society to pass on all flavors (of icecream) because vanilla is safer. (I got a good laugh out of that.) It is true that the majority of our society are white people. Therefore, most of everything that is made or produced will be for white people. White people will be portrayed as beautiful, wealthy, smart…so on and so forth. So everyone (not just asian women) will be affected by it to a different degree. (Yes, even white people will be affected by it.) Some people won’t notice it. Some people embrace it. Some people fight it. Some just don’t care.

I met my boyfriend online playing a video game. I had no idea what he looked like for three years. We started out as friends and we ended up falling in love. It just kind of snuck up on me. When I found out he was white I was very disappointed. Before I met him I dated asian guys exclusively. All my friends knew I was interested only in asian guys. I didn’t think I was racist. I just grew up believing I would date and marry an asian guy. I had plenty of crushes on white and black guys growing up but nothing more than that.

Needless to say my parents were pissed. They did not talk to me for two years. I have also noted that when we go eat out together we get weird looks. People just stare rudely. We have had white people blatantly treat us wrongly, asian people stare us down (they stare me down like I’m a traitor), and black people tell me I’m racist. I can only guess as to the reasons why. I am guessing that the white folks don’t like the fact that a white guy is dating an asian girl. I am guessing that the asian folks don’t like the fact that I’m an asian girl and I should be dating an asian guy. We have had random black guys come up to my boyfriend and tell him he is “the man” and that asian girls would not bother with black guys. That pisses me off something fierce. If I had a magic wand, I would change my boyfriend to an asian just to be rid of this stupid race stuff. Better yet, I would change all the people of the world to green. We can all have green skin and guess what? We would still fight over other differences. But at least it’ll be one less thing we’ll be fighting about.

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]]> By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-33017 serenity33 Mon, 09 Aug 2010 04:32:55 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-33017 I agree with as far as Asian women. I haven't met any nice black women on this site that aren't filled with hostility and a chip on their shoulder. But that is just my experience. I was handsome like guys like Newawlunzguy, it might be a different story because he is a real catch.:-) But the only women to be civil on this website to me are Asian and white women. Problem is that as even Asian women become Westernized, they are giving up the traditional values of Asian cultures of honor and respect and taking up the corrupt value of Western looks consciousness and materialism and power seeking. You need to get some old school Asian females. One of the best women I ever dated was an old school Filipino. I wish we could ship some of the spoiled women of the United States to Muslim nations and let them taste what other women are suffering and then they would have no reason to bitch and moan about how hard they have it here and treat American men better in general. All the men on here have been great and very civil and logical and not hostile. You can still have a friendly debate with them without them getting all nasty and irrational and you can make up with them easier. So I think sexual differences are greater than cultural differences when it comes down to it. That is why I enjoy talking to men of all cultures because things always seem to work themselves out no matter what culture they are. And I have met in real life mostly cool Asian men. And I agree with you about the butch, raunchy, arrogance of women today in Westernized societies especially the USA. But I wouldn't underestimate black, Latino or any woman that is too Westernized when it comes to liking dumbed-down stuff. I have seen many white women that are less susceptible than other ethnicitiies than non-white women to being corrupted by Western society, especially American women. But being around cool Asians does rub off as I have adopted honor and respect from Asian men and even Insa(Korean for bowing) to everyone I meet no matter what their race. It is just a part of me now. So if the media caters ever caters to old school Asian values, then the standard will be higher but they never will. The media and films are the worse corrupters of all with shows and commercials and movies only causing morality and relationships to spiral down hill. That's why we have the highest divorce rate and single mother rate in the world because of bad morals and lack of respect for marriage and the importance of make the right decision in marriages and sticking with your decision and working it out. That's what I asked an Indian couple that was old school and had an arranged marriage. They said they originally didn't get along but if since they didn't have the option of divorce in their society, they were forced to work out their issues and now they are really in love with each other truly and you can really see it when you are around them.:-) African American women though are worse than African women because I think it is the fault of the white man and slavery. Slaves weren't allowed to marry and black men were used as studs and had many women so they didn't have stable relationships staring when they were abducted from Africa in the first place. That legacy carries over to today as black women are used to getting pregnant at an early age and raising kids by themselves with the help of their single mothers while the black man was bread for his endurance and strength and athletic prowess and are also used to being raised by single mothers and often don't have good black male role models like fathers to influence them like other cultures do. The trend is slowly reversing although much faster in black men than black women but it will take time for the healing to take place. I think the roots of the greedy corrupt corporations that try to indoctrinate everyone to be shallow for the sake of buying more merchandise need to be taken out. First we need to be aware of the indoctrination and realize that all of us are bombarded by it no matter what race or sex you are and then we can make a conscious decision to fight it and become morally and psychologically healthy again. I was involved in different studies when I was going for my psychology degree and one of them was consumer choices and influences. They found out that I was in the one percentile range and if everyone valued what I value, the consumer economy would collapse the way it is targeting people now because I think so differently than the average consumer.;-) Of course there were a lot of confounding variables with me such as awareness of indoctrination and a high moral set of standards and a highly developed conscious. And studies show that as more countries and cultures become like the USA, they suddenly start having trouble with eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia and looks consciousness. It has been found on tribes first exposed to Western United States culture for the first time. Fascinating study actually but sad. Also single motherhood went up and the family unit started to disintegrate and moral behavior went down and morality decayed. First the extended family started to fall apart as older people were seen as a burden rather than older wiser people to learn from(very American) and then the nuclear family fell apart as promiscuity increased and venereal diseases and other communicable disease like TB increased. But like I said, totally agree that we need a better influence to set a higher standard for us all before we end up like the Roman empire and collapse. And sorry for the bad grammar because I know you hate that but Psychology majors and counselors like myself are notorious for bad grammar and also being bad at math which is why when we conduct studies, we send out data to be crunched by statisticians rather than doing it ourselves and we just interpret the results.;-) Joseph Evan Moyer I agree with as far as Asian women. I haven’t met any nice black women on this site that aren’t filled with hostility and a chip on their shoulder. But that is just my experience. I was handsome like guys like Newawlunzguy, it might be a different story because he is a real catch.:-) But the only women to be civil on this website to me are Asian and white women. Problem is that as even Asian women become Westernized, they are giving up the traditional values of Asian cultures of honor and respect and taking up the corrupt value of Western looks consciousness and materialism and power seeking. You need to get some old school Asian females. One of the best women I ever dated was an old school Filipino. I wish we could ship some of the spoiled women of the United States to Muslim nations and let them taste what other women are suffering and then they would have no reason to bitch and moan about how hard they have it here and treat American men better in general.
All the men on here have been great and very civil and logical and not hostile. You can still have a friendly debate with them without them getting all nasty and irrational and you can make up with them easier. So I think sexual differences are greater than cultural differences when it comes down to it. That is why I enjoy talking to men of all cultures because things always seem to work themselves out no matter what culture they are. And I have met in real life mostly cool Asian men. And I agree with you about the butch, raunchy, arrogance of women today in Westernized societies especially the USA. But I wouldn’t underestimate black, Latino or any woman that is too Westernized when it comes to liking dumbed-down stuff. I have seen many white women that are less susceptible than other ethnicitiies than non-white women to being corrupted by Western society, especially American women. But being around cool Asians does rub off as I have adopted honor and respect from Asian men and even Insa(Korean for bowing) to everyone I meet no matter what their race. It is just a part of me now. So if the media caters ever caters to old school Asian values, then the standard will be higher but they never will. The media and films are the worse corrupters of all with shows and commercials and movies only causing morality and relationships to spiral down hill. That’s why we have the highest divorce rate and single mother rate in the world because of bad morals and lack of respect for marriage and the importance of make the right decision in marriages and sticking with your decision and working it out.
That’s what I asked an Indian couple that was old school and had an arranged marriage. They said they originally didn’t get along but if since they didn’t have the option of divorce in their society, they were forced to work out their issues and now they are really in love with each other truly and you can really see it when you are around them.:-) African American women though are worse than African women because I think it is the fault of the white man and slavery. Slaves weren’t allowed to marry and black men were used as studs and had many women so they didn’t have stable relationships staring when they were abducted from Africa in the first place.
That legacy carries over to today as black women are used to getting pregnant at an early age and raising kids by themselves with the help of their single mothers while the black man was bread for his endurance and strength and athletic prowess and are also used to being raised by single mothers and often don’t have good black male role models like fathers to influence them like other cultures do. The trend is slowly reversing although much faster in black men than black women but it will take time for the healing to take place. I think the roots of the greedy corrupt corporations that try to indoctrinate everyone to be shallow for the sake of buying more merchandise need to be taken out. First we need to be aware of the indoctrination and realize that all of us are bombarded by it no matter what race or sex you are and then we can make a conscious decision to fight it and become morally and psychologically healthy again. I was involved in different studies when I was going for my psychology degree and one of them was consumer choices and influences. They found out that I was in the one percentile range and if everyone valued what I value, the consumer economy would collapse the way it is targeting people now because I think so differently than the average consumer.;-) Of course there were a lot of confounding variables with me such as awareness of indoctrination and a high moral set of standards and a highly developed conscious.
And studies show that as more countries and cultures become like the USA, they suddenly start having trouble with eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia and looks consciousness. It has been found on tribes first exposed to Western United States culture for the first time. Fascinating study actually but sad. Also single motherhood went up and the family unit started to disintegrate and moral behavior went down and morality decayed. First the extended family started to fall apart as older people were seen as a burden rather than older wiser people to learn from(very American) and then the nuclear family fell apart as promiscuity increased and venereal diseases and other communicable disease like TB increased.
But like I said, totally agree that we need a better influence to set a higher standard for us all before we end up like the Roman empire and collapse. And sorry for the bad grammar because I know you hate that but Psychology majors and counselors like myself are notorious for bad grammar and also being bad at math which is why when we conduct studies, we send out data to be crunched by statisticians rather than doing it ourselves and we just interpret the results.;-)
Joseph Evan Moyer

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]]> By: Charlie http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-33016 Charlie Sat, 07 Aug 2010 02:14:58 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-33016 I've found that today, in the Western media, black males are often idolized, not demonized like you say. Films, TV series, and advertisements often refuse to portray blacks in negative roles, so those positions are often filled only by white males (to be politically correct). Most news networks now have a chief, black male anchor and universities across the US copy each other by appointing a black presidents. Not to mention that 1/4 of scholarships are for black students (with lower requirements). They are the only minority males to receive such attention. And if an interracial couple is portrayed, it's mostly going to be a black guy with a white girl, as if that's the only combination of interracial.. The same isn't true for Asian males, and less so for black women. I think the US media is based on what people think white women want (or at least find acceptable). That's why we're being suffocated by dumbed-down trash. Pop music is based on whatever gets the big, white asses shaking in the clubs. China, on the other hand, still uses intelligent poetry in their pop lyrics, not much to shake an ass to. We used to be like that, but now we've stepped into the Twilight Zone where bad is good and grammar is meaningless. Thank God for Asian women (Indian, Chinese, and Filipina in particular). There is a lot that they could teach Western women. That's one reason why I think Asian women are better mates than Hispanic women (whom could teach us all Spanish no doubt). It will great when the media starts to cater to Asian interests and sets a higher standard for women instead of this butch, raunchy, arrogance that we're seeing today. I’ve found that today, in the Western media, black males are often idolized, not demonized like you say.

Films, TV series, and advertisements often refuse to portray blacks in negative roles, so those positions are often filled only by white males (to be politically correct). Most news networks now have a chief, black male anchor and universities across the US copy each other by appointing a black presidents. Not to mention that 1/4 of scholarships are for black students (with lower requirements).

They are the only minority males to receive such attention. And if an interracial couple is portrayed, it’s mostly going to be a black guy with a white girl, as if that’s the only combination of interracial..

The same isn’t true for Asian males, and less so for black women. I think the US media is based on what people think white women want (or at least find acceptable). That’s why we’re being suffocated by dumbed-down trash.

Pop music is based on whatever gets the big, white asses shaking in the clubs. China, on the other hand, still uses intelligent poetry in their pop lyrics, not much to shake an ass to.

We used to be like that, but now we’ve stepped into the Twilight Zone where bad is good and grammar is meaningless.

Thank God for Asian women (Indian, Chinese, and Filipina in particular). There is a lot that they could teach Western women. That’s one reason why I think Asian women are better mates than Hispanic women (whom could teach us all Spanish no doubt).

It will great when the media starts to cater to Asian interests and sets a higher standard for women instead of this butch, raunchy, arrogance that we’re seeing today.

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]]> By: serenity33 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-33015 serenity33 Thu, 05 Aug 2010 13:44:20 +0000 /fyooz/asian-american-multicultural-relationships.htm#comment-33015 Nothing left to say on this one either because it has all been said. Bye. Joseph Evan Moyer Nothing left to say on this one either because it has all been said. Bye.
Joseph Evan Moyer

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