Comments on: Are people generally open to interracial marriage? http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/ The community that fuses fun and romance Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:28:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: widow66 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-34599 widow66 Fri, 22 Oct 2010 00:49:04 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-34599 i am here to say that mixed marriges do work i was married to a wonderful white man from july 1986 untiloct 2004 he passed away from lung cancer i lost my best friend .my husband my lover my everything god gave us 18 years to be together and if i could find another one like him at 51 years of age i would do it all over again .if you marry and is fathful to one another in the lord and his church it will last i had people telling me not to marry him to i followed my heart through alot of prayers and i would have died for him if god would have let me interacal marriages dose work in spite of what some people say we are all human come from one man one woman.i use to hold my head high right after my husband and i got married when people would stare at us are say are you all together in the check out linesbecause i knew the same boat they steped of my ancestors did to noahs ark i am here to say that mixed marriges do work i was married to a wonderful white man from july 1986 untiloct 2004 he passed away from lung cancer i lost my best friend .my husband my lover my everything god gave us 18 years to be together and if i could find another one like him at 51 years of age i would do it all over again .if you marry and is fathful to one another in the lord and his church it will last i had people telling me not to marry him to i followed my heart through alot of prayers and i would have died for him if god would have let me interacal marriages dose work in spite of what some people say we are all human come from one man one woman.i use to hold my head high right after my husband and i got married when people would stare at us are say are you all together in the check out linesbecause i knew the same boat they steped of my ancestors did to noahs ark

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]]> By: IBEX to triccinicci http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-29002 IBEX to triccinicci Sun, 09 May 2010 08:13:18 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-29002 HOPE YOU ARE LISTENING... SMILES :) HOPE YOU ARE LISTENING… SMILES :)

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]]> By: to triccinicci http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-29001 to triccinicci Sun, 09 May 2010 08:12:05 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-29001 LOVE AND OPEN MINDNESS WILL CURE ALL. "WE ARE THE CHANGE WE ARE ALL LOOKING FOR." LOVE AND OPEN MINDNESS WILL CURE ALL. “WE ARE THE CHANGE WE ARE ALL LOOKING FOR.”

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]]> By: to triccinicci http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-29000 to triccinicci Sun, 09 May 2010 08:03:03 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-29000 DRAWING ON PAST EXPERIENCES, MY DEALINGS WITH WOMEN OF MY OWN RACE (WHITE WOMEN)HAVE ALL BEEN LESS THAN POSITIVE. I AM A BLUE COLLAR GUY. WHEN I DEAL WITH WHITE WOMEN WHO ARE DEGREED THAY LOOK DOWN ON ME LIKE IM AN INSECT,NOT OF THEIR SOCIAL STATUS OR SKILLS. SOCIAL STATUS MAYBE SO, BUT I EARN TWICE THEIR SALARY. I GUESS MY JOB HAS NO BRAGGING RIGHTS OTHER THAN THE MONEY BUT IT PUTS FOOD ON THE TABLE AND KEEPS A ROOF OVER MY HEAD. IN THESE DAYS OF FINANCIAL UNCERTAINTY MANY PROFESSIONALS FIND THEMSELVES OUT OF A JOB OR LOOKING FOR ONE. THE PLACE I WORK THE MAJORITY OF THE WORK FORCE IS AFRO-AMERICAN AND AT TIMES I DO FEEL ETHNICALLY DISPLACED. WHEN MEASURED AGAINST THE ALTURNATIVE OF BEING OUT OF WORK OR DIVORCED THE CHOICES IVE MADE IN LIFE BECOMES CLEAR. IM A BLESSED MAN EVEN THOUGH SOMETIMES IT SEEMS DIFFERENT.PEOPLE OF NON INTERACIAL COMMITMENT TEND TO GRAVITATE TO THEIR OWN KIND, WHAT OTHER CHOICES ARE LEFT CORRECT? I MYSELF REFUSE TO GO THROUGH LIFE BEING A COLOR. DRAWING ON PAST EXPERIENCES, MY DEALINGS WITH WOMEN OF MY OWN RACE (WHITE WOMEN)HAVE ALL BEEN LESS THAN POSITIVE. I AM A BLUE COLLAR GUY. WHEN I DEAL WITH WHITE WOMEN WHO ARE DEGREED THAY LOOK DOWN ON ME LIKE IM AN INSECT,NOT OF THEIR SOCIAL STATUS OR SKILLS. SOCIAL STATUS MAYBE SO, BUT I EARN TWICE THEIR SALARY. I GUESS MY JOB HAS NO BRAGGING RIGHTS OTHER THAN THE MONEY BUT IT PUTS FOOD ON THE TABLE AND KEEPS A ROOF OVER MY HEAD. IN THESE DAYS OF FINANCIAL UNCERTAINTY MANY PROFESSIONALS FIND THEMSELVES OUT OF A JOB OR LOOKING FOR ONE. THE PLACE I WORK THE MAJORITY OF THE WORK FORCE IS AFRO-AMERICAN AND AT TIMES I DO FEEL ETHNICALLY DISPLACED. WHEN MEASURED AGAINST THE ALTURNATIVE OF BEING OUT OF WORK OR DIVORCED THE CHOICES IVE MADE IN LIFE BECOMES CLEAR. IM A BLESSED MAN EVEN THOUGH SOMETIMES IT SEEMS DIFFERENT.PEOPLE OF NON INTERACIAL COMMITMENT TEND TO GRAVITATE TO THEIR OWN KIND, WHAT OTHER CHOICES ARE LEFT CORRECT? I MYSELF REFUSE TO GO THROUGH LIFE BEING A COLOR.

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]]> By: jared8 http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-28999 jared8 Mon, 03 May 2010 05:26:35 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-28999 To get to the core of not liking something that can be beautiful and felt can leave us all dismayed. The pressure that can be applied to both interacial couples. To make your own choices and be left alone. To share the passion that two individuals can share and give to each other can't be outdone if its mutually felt. The surroundings of not excepting sometimes outweights the reason for not finding common ground and felt with intense pressure and is lost. Arguments can be ugly and accomplishes nothing and who is actually right?Infact, it separates from growing of minds to understanding and to except with reasoning. Many reasons, many explanations, but to move on in life there has to be harmony or we always will be stuck. To see a smile, to get along, to see love and passion between a man and woman has no color and is blind. To feel it is an indescribable feeling we all want more of, like a fire burning hot wanting more. We can find it and share it behind closed doors even then its very real and will be found if we want. Human beings of higher intelligence sometimes miss many points of whats important. Passion flows and won't ever be stopped, thats nice to know. For whatever its worth its just a thought written with words. :-) To get to the core of not liking something that can be beautiful and felt can leave us all dismayed. The pressure that can be applied to both interacial couples. To make your own choices and be left alone. To share the passion that two individuals can share and give to each other can’t be outdone if its mutually felt. The surroundings of not excepting sometimes outweights the reason for not finding common ground and felt with intense pressure and is lost. Arguments can be ugly and accomplishes nothing and who is actually right?Infact, it separates from growing of minds to understanding and to except with reasoning. Many reasons, many explanations, but to move on in life there has to be harmony or we always will be stuck. To see a smile, to get along, to see love and passion between a man and woman has no color and is blind. To feel it is an indescribable feeling we all want more of, like a fire burning hot wanting more. We can find it and share it behind closed doors even then its very real and will be found if we want. Human beings of higher intelligence sometimes miss many points of whats important. Passion flows and won’t ever be stopped, thats nice to know. For whatever its worth its just a thought written with words. :-)

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]]> By: ama http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-28998 ama Mon, 12 Apr 2010 17:23:10 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-28998 I totally agree and wish more people had it your way and had the same outlook as my parents. Like you say, in some cultures, people are much less obsessed with race than in the US, while in others, they are much more so and believe that love can have a color. Personally, I've been all over the world and throughout the US and have been attracted to people of all different kinds of back grounds. What I find alluring is not just one type of physical profile but how genuinely and positively someone presents themselves, if they have a sense of humor, how wise and enthusiastically they learn and work, and how they appreciate and care about others. I honestly think that a charming, sensitive and bubbly personality should transcend all barriers. When I came to settle in the US after my parents retired from the foreign service during my last years of high school, I was surprised and disappointed that race was still such a big deal. I tried to live by what I had learned in my travels and through my teachings by my cosmopolitan and progressive parents: find the commonalities we share with our fellow humans while learning about, celebrating, and embracing every one's individual uniqueness. Since this is not the practice here, I realized that if one is going to involve themselves in less conventional relationships than what their surrounding culture openly encourages, then they best be wary of and equipped for most of the possible obstacles. I've had to learn this the hard way and, to this day, am still navigating the minefields of prejudice, discrimination, race, culture, gender, power, fear, and identity. The success or failure depends largely on the quality of our support network or lack there of, the issues and strengths that each of us bring to our relationship, the willingness and openness to understand one another and meet each other's needs, and the challenges that we are made to face. I totally agree and wish more people had it your way and had the same outlook as my parents. Like you say, in some cultures, people are much less obsessed with race than in the US, while in others, they are much more so and believe that love can have a color. Personally, I’ve been all over the world and throughout the US and have been attracted to people of all different kinds of back grounds. What I find alluring is not just one type of physical profile but how genuinely and positively someone presents themselves, if they have a sense of humor, how wise and enthusiastically they learn and work, and how they appreciate and care about others. I honestly think that a charming, sensitive and bubbly personality should transcend all barriers.

When I came to settle in the US after my parents retired from the foreign service during my last years of high school, I was surprised and disappointed that race was still such a big deal. I tried to live by what I had learned in my travels and through my teachings by my cosmopolitan and progressive parents: find the commonalities we share with our fellow humans while learning about, celebrating, and embracing every one’s individual uniqueness. Since this is not the practice here, I realized that if one is going to involve themselves in less conventional relationships than what their surrounding culture openly encourages, then they best be wary of and equipped for most of the possible obstacles. I’ve had to learn this the hard way and, to this day, am still navigating the minefields of prejudice, discrimination, race, culture, gender, power, fear, and identity. The success or failure depends largely on the quality of our support network or lack there of, the issues and strengths that each of us bring to our relationship, the willingness and openness to understand one another and meet each other’s needs, and the challenges that we are made to face.

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]]> By: SoulEnzyme http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-28997 SoulEnzyme Thu, 04 Mar 2010 10:14:33 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-28997 Wow, it's interesting to read what people have to say about interracial relationships. My wife is Swedish and we have been married for 12 years and have 3 beautiful kids together. Before i met her i had no particular preference Black, White, Asian etc was OK for me as long as i felt something for the woman. When i told my mum about her when we first started dating she was a bit resentful, but things has changed now, both my mum and my wife are close. It is amazing that in this day and age mixed relationship is still an issue. Wow, it’s interesting to read what people have to say about interracial relationships. My wife is Swedish and we have been married for 12 years and have 3 beautiful kids together. Before i met her i had no particular preference Black, White, Asian etc was OK for me as long as i felt something for the woman. When i told my mum about her when we first started dating she was a bit resentful, but things has changed now, both my mum and my wife are close. It is amazing that in this day and age mixed relationship is still an issue.

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]]> By: TricciNicci http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-28996 TricciNicci Sun, 25 Oct 2009 21:00:54 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-28996 Wow IBEX! All I can say is, that was eye opening. How do you feel now...outside of the material things, like as in if you didn't have the material stuff but had the same marriage? Did you perceive that your wife and you could work together to achieve what the BOTH of you wanted and with a woman of your own culture you were going to be made to work for HER to get what SHE wanted? Is that what you mean by feeling 'inferior'? Wow IBEX! All I can say is, that was eye opening. How do you feel now…outside of the material things, like as in if you didn’t have the material stuff but had the same marriage?

Did you perceive that your wife and you could work together to achieve what the BOTH of you wanted and with a woman of your own culture you were going to be made to work for HER to get what SHE wanted? Is that what you mean by feeling ‘inferior’?

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]]> By: IBEX http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-28995 IBEX Sat, 24 Oct 2009 14:43:36 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-28995 I GUESS IM AN IDEALIST. I WOULD LIKE TO BELIEVE THAT WE HAVE MADE SOME PROGRESS IN THAT TOPIC BUT IT ALL DEPENDS I GUESS ON WHERE YOU LIVE. I LIVE IN MARYLAND AND THERE ARE ALOT OF MIXED COUPLES IN THE GENERAL AREA. MY WIFE AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 21 YEARS AND PEOPLE HAVE SHUNNED US RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING. I THINK IT HAS TO DO WITH ECONOMICS. MY WIFE AND I DO ALL RIGHT WHEN IT COMES TO AQUIRRING THE THINGS IN LIFE WE DESIRE. UNLIKE ALOT OF OTHER FOLKS AROUND HERE WE DO NOT HAVE TO DOUBLE AND TRIPPLE UP TO MAKE ENDS MEET. WE MAKE COMFOTABLE SALERIES AND I THINK THAT IS WHAT DRAWS THE FIRE. WHITE PEOPLE IN GENERAL FEEL THEY ARE BETTER THAN EVERYONE ON THE BASES OF THEIR COLOR. AS LONG AS THEY ARE ON TOP ECONOMICALLY AND YOU ARE BELOW THEM IN STATUS THE WORLD IS AS IT SHOULD BE. HOWEVER WHEN YOU RISE TO THEIR LEVEL OF PROSPERITY AND INCOME THEY BECOME CONCERNED AND UPSET. THEY WILL STOP AT NOTHING TO TRY AND REMOVE YOUR ABILITY TO EARN AND PROSPER SO THEY CAN SAY "SEE I TOLD YOU MIXED MARRIAGES DONT WORK". I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN ATRACTED TO BLACK WOMEN,AND ALWAYS WILL. EVEN BEFORE I WAS EXPOSED TO THE WHOLE ETHNIC THING. BEING AROUND BLACK WOMEN MADE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE WHILE BEING AROUND WHITE WOMEN I FELT SOMETHING TOTALY DIFFERENT, MABY EVEN INFERIOR. I GUESS IM AN IDEALIST. I WOULD LIKE TO BELIEVE THAT WE HAVE MADE SOME PROGRESS IN THAT TOPIC BUT IT ALL DEPENDS I GUESS ON WHERE YOU LIVE. I LIVE IN MARYLAND AND THERE ARE ALOT OF MIXED COUPLES IN THE GENERAL AREA. MY WIFE AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 21 YEARS AND PEOPLE HAVE SHUNNED US RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING. I THINK IT HAS TO DO WITH ECONOMICS. MY WIFE AND I DO ALL RIGHT WHEN IT COMES TO AQUIRRING THE THINGS IN LIFE WE DESIRE. UNLIKE ALOT OF OTHER FOLKS AROUND HERE WE DO NOT HAVE TO DOUBLE AND TRIPPLE UP TO MAKE ENDS MEET. WE MAKE COMFOTABLE SALERIES AND I THINK THAT IS WHAT DRAWS THE FIRE. WHITE PEOPLE IN GENERAL FEEL THEY ARE BETTER THAN EVERYONE ON THE BASES OF THEIR COLOR. AS LONG AS THEY ARE ON TOP ECONOMICALLY AND YOU ARE BELOW THEM IN STATUS THE WORLD IS AS IT SHOULD BE. HOWEVER WHEN YOU RISE TO THEIR LEVEL OF PROSPERITY AND INCOME THEY BECOME CONCERNED AND UPSET. THEY WILL STOP AT NOTHING TO TRY AND REMOVE YOUR ABILITY TO EARN AND PROSPER SO THEY CAN SAY “SEE I TOLD YOU MIXED MARRIAGES DONT WORK”. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN ATRACTED TO BLACK WOMEN,AND ALWAYS WILL. EVEN BEFORE I WAS EXPOSED TO THE WHOLE ETHNIC THING. BEING AROUND BLACK WOMEN MADE ME FEEL COMFORTABLE WHILE BEING AROUND WHITE WOMEN I FELT SOMETHING TOTALY DIFFERENT, MABY EVEN INFERIOR.

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]]> By: Daniel Kinsman http://www.interracialdatingcentral.com/fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-28994 Daniel Kinsman Fri, 24 Apr 2009 17:21:26 +0000 /fyooz/are-people-generally-open-to-interracial-marriage.htm#comment-28994 Jesus said when he prayed to the Father, " Father I pray they may be one as you and I are one" "No greater love than the one who is willing to lay his life down for his neighbor" I find nothing wrong with interacial marriage. I have a friend who was a biker and hard drinker. He got sober and met a black woman and married her and she took him to his church and that man found Jesus in a profound way. He studied the bible well as he went to bible studies with her. They have a strong christain marriage. In my church there is a interacial couple, The husband is white and the wife is black. They have 2 beatifull daughters and are in church every single sunday and raise their daughters christain. I read an interveiw with a interacial couple married 40 plus years and you know what? They made it and are still in love and raised children and have grandchildren. Well you tell me. Jesus said when he prayed to the Father, ” Father I pray they may be one as you and I are one” “No greater love than the one who is willing to lay his life down for his neighbor” I find nothing wrong with interacial marriage. I have a friend who was a biker and hard drinker. He got sober and met a black woman and married her and she took him to his church and that man found Jesus in a profound way. He studied the bible well as he went to bible studies with her. They have a strong christain marriage. In my church there is a interacial couple, The husband is white and the wife is black. They have 2 beatifull daughters and are in church every single sunday and raise their daughters christain. I read an interveiw with a interacial couple married 40 plus years and you know what? They made it and are still in love and raised children and have grandchildren. Well you tell me.

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