Are jews more accepting of black-white interracial couples?
The truth is: Jews come in many colors and ethnicities. And due to people converting to Judaism, interracial marriage and adoption, they are becoming more diverse these days... Apparently the Reform Judaism supports interracial Jewish marriages.
Well, I came across this interracial Jewish couple on NyMag.com: Zehava Bracha Arky & Baruch Arky; and here is their story:
Zehava: I obviously look different from a lot of people in our community. Before I got married, when people would try to set me up, they would often set me up with another Jew of color, without considering if we might have anything else in common.
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Baruch: I don’t think that people relate to us as an interracial couple. We’re both Jewish, and that seems to speak louder than color.
What I am getting is: The Jewish people are accepting of interracial coupling within their denomination. How about 'other' interracial couples? Do they also not 'see color'? Are they ok with a Jew in an interracial relationship with a non-Jew?
Alex (white) and Camille Barnett (black) are the another couple. Camile converted to Judaism. In his article "My Interracial Marriage Isn’t That Exotic", Alex says:
"Black-Jewish relations... are not an anomaly. Since time immemorial, there has been a connection, a bond, between Black and Jewish people. Perhaps it’s our respective histories of oppression. Perhaps it’s because of our mothers, who are overbearing, intrusive and force us to eat. Perhaps it’s because without us, there would be no music industry. Whatever the reason, the simple fact is that there is a bond between Blacks and Jews."
But besides all this, Alex understands being a black and white couple raises eyebrows, elicits stares and comments. He admits that its different saying:
"... when you see a Black person with a White person, you notice. How can you not? It’s different. It’s Black skin juxtaposed with White skin. And, by the way, I’m not simply accusing others. I do it myself. If I see a mixed-race couple when I’m walking around, I notice them too. (Then, I usually offer them a subtle head nod, as if to say, 'yep, me too. Peace.')."
"Why Every Black Woman Should Marry A Jewish Man" is a book that stirred controversy some time back. The book was written by Hines-Star, a black woman who met her Jewish husband on Afroromance.com. Much as the message to black women was meant to be 'its ok to marry out', the reasons she gave ended up bashing the black man saying all black men need to placed in her “Scumbag Files” among other things.
The point is: Black women white men Jewish relationships are not such an unlikely match. So do you think marrying a Jew is similar to marrying black as Alex implied? Could this be the reason why black-white relationships are ok within the Jewish community? And are they really?
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